Siblings - one accepted one not

[Anonymous]

I would (a) appeal and (b) ask if they could be principal placed. That said, I also wouldn't want my twins in the same class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m still trying to figure out if OP is talking about different age siblings, where one is already in AAP and the younger one doesn’t get in, or twins applying at the same time.

Good point. If OP has a situation where the older kid is in AAP, but the 2nd grader didn't get in, it's completely different from a case of twins where one got in and the other didn't.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you tell them when you know they are equally eligible?

“We’ve been talking with Larlo’s teachers and have decided that he will change schools next year and go to Cupcake ES. There’s a program there that best fits his learning needs. Charlo is going to stay at Cookie ES because that’s where his learning needs are best met. I know this is a big change for our family. What’s your thinking about all this? What questions do you have?”

This isn't really how it works with kids and AAP. They know the deal.

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hahahaha love this, good one.

[Anonymous]

We didn’t make a big deal about AAP in our house. We didn’t discuss applying and didn’t discuss when they got accepted or didn’t. My child in AAP stayed at the level IV base school so no one switched schools. They are 3 years apart and I don’t remember them discussing the level of class in elementary. My older gave my younger lots of advice like avoid Ms X because of …. the usual sibling stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still trying to figure out if OP is talking about different age siblings, where one is already in AAP and the younger one doesn’t get in, or twins applying at the same time.

Good point. If OP has a situation where the older kid is in AAP, but the 2nd grader didn't get in, it's completely different from a case of twins where one got in and the other didn't.

I put my second kid in immersion so entrance to AAP was a non issue- we are at a center school as the base school so if the second kid didn’t get in, it would be obvious. It worked out.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m still trying to figure out if OP is talking about different age siblings, where one is already in AAP and the younger one doesn’t get in, or twins applying at the same time.

Good point. If OP has a situation where the older kid is in AAP, but the 2nd grader didn't get in, it's completely different from a case of twins where one got in and the other didn't.

My gut says with twins it would be best to keep them in the same school to prevent sowing the seeds of jealousy and resentment that will have a greater effect on their lives than placement in a public school program for smart kids. Making their paths diverge so early can't be good for either. Better than seeking advice from parents of twins in the same boat would be getting the perspective of adults who are twins themselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m still trying to figure out if OP is talking about different age siblings, where one is already in AAP and the younger one doesn’t get in, or twins applying at the same time.

Good point. If OP has a situation where the older kid is in AAP, but the 2nd grader didn't get in, it's completely different from a case of twins where one got in and the other didn't.

My gut says with twins it would be best to keep them in the same school to prevent sowing the seeds of jealousy and resentment that will have a greater effect on their lives than placement in a public school program for smart kids. Making their paths diverge so early can't be good for either. Better than seeking advice from parents of twins in the same boat would be getting the perspective of adults who are twins themselves.

I'm the "smart twin" who was held back from opportunities for the sake of friendship with my twin and ease for our parents. It created resentment towards my parents and I currently have no real relationship with my twin as an adult--I think we spent our childhood trying to prove we were different from each other because our parents tried to keep things equal. Would it be different had I gone to the magnet programs and gifted camps and done the early college entry in high school? Maybe. Maybe not. You never know. You just make the best decision for your family with the information in front of you and hope for the best.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m still trying to figure out if OP is talking about different age siblings, where one is already in AAP and the younger one doesn’t get in, or twins applying at the same time.

Good point. If OP has a situation where the older kid is in AAP, but the 2nd grader didn't get in, it's completely different from a case of twins where one got in and the other didn't.

My gut says with twins it would be best to keep them in the same school to prevent sowing the seeds of jealousy and resentment that will have a greater effect on their lives than placement in a public school program for smart kids. Making their paths diverge so early can't be good for either. Better than seeking advice from parents of twins in the same boat would be getting the perspective of adults who are twins themselves.

I'm the "smart twin" who was held back from opportunities for the sake of friendship with my twin and ease for our parents. It created resentment towards my parents and I currently have no real relationship with my twin as an adult--I think we spent our childhood trying to prove we were different from each other because our parents tried to keep things equal. Would it be different had I gone to the magnet programs and gifted camps and done the early college entry in high school? Maybe. Maybe not. You never know. You just make the best decision for your family with the information in front of you and hope for the best.

I'm a PP, and I don't specifically disagree with you. There is a huge difference between separating twins when one has like a 140 IQ and the other a 110 IQ than there is when both have a 120-130 IQ. If a kid needs a gifted program or a stronger academic environment, they should get it. I still probably wouldn't create a "smart twin" and a "not smart twin" dynamic if both are roughly equal in ability, but they got different AAP levels.

[Anonymous]

Did OP ever return to clarify if they were specifically asking about twins? They said siblings. If it were twins, I think they would’ve said that.

[Anonymous]

Seems hypothetical as AAP notifications have not been sent yet.