WWYD: DS’s friend has bad aim

[Anonymous]

Your son should be doing all the chores before and after having ppl over. The End

[Anonymous]

My son has friends over all the time and this happens a lot. If I am sure friend did it (ie he just left the bathroom) I will shamelessly tell friend to go clean it up. Takes a village and all that. If I’m unsure who did it, son cleans it up.

[Anonymous]

i have the same problem at my house, except the crazy pisser is my FIL!

[Anonymous]

Find a moment when they arrive or before using the bathroom to say something. "hey, the bathroom can get pretty messy. If the seat gets wet or anything there are some wipes on the counter so just make sure to clean up"

[Anonymous]

I would make it your son’s problem.

He would need to clean up after his friend. Just like he should be responsible for putting toys away after they use them, cleaning up messes in the bathroom should be his responsibility too. This is an important lesson to learn—his guest, his responsibility. Then your son can decide if he wants to ask his friend to clean up after himself, just do it himself or not invite his friend over anymore.

[Anonymous]

A good friend that has been over a lot, I would tell the kid he made a mess and to clean it up. Make sure there are cleaning supplies readily available.

A newer less-known friend? I would tell my son to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for all the input! I am happy to be the hangout house and I love seeing my kid and his friends play.

It is a 1-bathroom house so I can't really wait until they leave, since I also need to use it.

I raised it with my son over the weekend after he was fooling around with a soy sauce packet and made a mess in the kitchen sink. It was a lighthearted moment and he said he'd take care of it. He also said, "it's definitely not me! I sit down!" I'm glad to have a good relationship and comfortable communication with him.

I'll have cleaning supplies out next time as reinforcement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get the sign from my Grandma’s house that said, “if you sprinkle when you tinkle, please be neat and wipe the seat.” I would leave out a container of wipes with DO NOT FLUSH written in sharpie on the lid and a good sized trash can. My kids play sports and I don’t know how they can do that and can miss the trash can.

My son has bad aim. He has adhd and gets wrapped up in something and waits too late and there is no control. He is also super grossed out by mess ironically - freaks out about having to clean it (ha always been like that and I think related to situations in his early childhood before he lived with us). Well, that got deep. Anyway, my son is probably that friend. The issues are a reason, not an excuse.

Yay that your son and his friends want to hang out at your house!!!!!!!!

LOL my mom had the sign that said “We aim to please. You aim too please. It took me years before I realized why it was above the toilet.

I am considering getting one of the fly decals they use in the urinals in the Amsterdam airport.

[Anonymous]

You tell your son to talk to his fiend.