Regretting 2nd dog
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Anonymous
| TRAINER |
Anonymous
Get rid of you. |
Anonymous
| OP, what were you hoping to hear in making this post? Are you looking for guidance or just want to vent? |
Anonymous
| I say definitely look into rehoming if you need to. You never know. An acquaintance of mine was looking to rehome the dog she bought for her daughter over covid. He's a lovely dog, and we are taking him. |
Anonymous
| Your dog doesn't prefer living with a dog it hates over being rehomed. |
Anonymous
| you have to put the work in - as soon as dog #2 recognizes you as boss they won't be bothering dog #1 |
Anonymous
How long ago did you train your dog? This type of thinking is wayyyy out of style. Dogs know who is the"boss" https://www.woofliketomeet.com/2016/04/pack-hierarchy-why-dogs-arent-interested-in-being-the-boss/ |
Anonymous
Is this helpful to the OP? I mean really, the one-upmanship BS on this board is such a tedious waste of time. |
Anonymous
| We were in your shoes, OP. We sent our dogs to a board and train program, which was a lifesaver. |
Anonymous
The pp is giving bad advice so I am educating them and you apparently. Tell us how is YOUR post helpful? Maybe your post is a waste of time and to be honest isn't the point of DC"UM? To waste time? |
Anonymous
| Any update, op? |
Anonymous
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OP here, this thread took off a little more than expected and to answer a PP's question, I think I just wanted to vent a little and just admit it "out loud" albeit rather anonymously.
FWIW, dog #2 had extensive training prior to coming to us, and we kept up the training pretty significantly. He successfully completed two canine citizen classes/tests. This didn't prevent or really alleviate the issues we were having, in and of itself. It may have been the only thing that made it at all manageable enough for us not to give up, however. Update: Things have actually been improving with dog #2, and I'm feeling more hopeful that he will continue to improve, both in general and with dog #1. I think if he'd kept picking fights with dog #1 as much as he was when I first posted this (it was a daily issue, multiple times/day, required constant management and I felt really sad for both dogs), I would have really had to force myself to consider the best interests of both dogs and make a hard decision. Things have improved enough that I'm feeling like we'll probably be okay, and feel like things could even get to the point of being affirmatively great. If I could go back in time, I still would probably not get 2nd dog. It's been a hard road, and still isn't easy. But I do feel it's getting better, some (honestly probably not much) of which may be attributed to our handling of the dog, some of which may be attributed to the dog maturing some and also becoming more and more comfortable with his home. It's still not quite been a year since we got him and he seems to really have taken a long time to acclimate and get truly comfortable in his new home. Thankfully dog #1 is apparently an actual saint, and I think that's helped too. I hope that sharing this is in any way helpful to someone reading it at some stage. Thanks for all the validation and encouragement shared by so many on this thread. It really helped in that rough patch. For those who were not encouraging, I understand your perspective as well. |
Anonymous
1000% true. We are considering a second and know that there will be training (of dog and us) involved. |