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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:(1) Why are you reading your DD's texts? How old is she and does she know you read it?

(2) Have you tried asking her to explain it?

(3) Her friend might have been joking. Like "oh look at you and your fancy donuts, I have fancy donuts too but I don't brag about them hahahaha I had a cronut last month you don't even know." You are taking it literally when teens (I'm guessing your kid is a tween or teen) use a lot of sarcasm and caustic tone that is not meant to be taken literally.

If you aren’t reading your preteens texts, you aren’t doing your job as a parent and you are part of the problem. A LOT of bullying goes on over texts. And a lot of other inappropriate stuff. If you aren’t teaching your kids how to text properly, they aren’t learning it.

Hm. There must be some middle ground here--if you don't think your preteen is mature enough to handle texting or the horrible complexities of smartphones generally, you can always get them a flip phone. A LOT of bullying happens in person as well and you can't monitor that or demand to be involved in all their conversations with friends.

And you're looking at a huge violation of trust if your preteen finds out you're looking at her conversations without her knowing. Same as reading someone's diary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol my tween's frenemy is constantly telling her she's bragging. Carpool conversations where I'm just the invisible driver go like this:

1: omg I'm so hungry, that lunch was horrible.
2: oh yeah? I didn't try it. I brought lunch today.
1: why are you always bragging about your homemade lunches? Who has time for that anyway?

Or
1: I like your shirt.
2: thanks! I found it at Goodwill. I like yours, too.
1: yeah I know you're a super shopper who goes thrifting, whatever, you don't need to brag.

This gave me such flashbacks to middle school. Some girls really do make themselves feel better by tearing others down over the tiniest things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:(1) Why are you reading your DD's texts? How old is she and does she know you read it?

(2) Have you tried asking her to explain it?

(3) Her friend might have been joking. Like "oh look at you and your fancy donuts, I have fancy donuts too but I don't brag about them hahahaha I had a cronut last month you don't even know." You are taking it literally when teens (I'm guessing your kid is a tween or teen) use a lot of sarcasm and caustic tone that is not meant to be taken literally.

If you aren’t reading your preteens texts, you aren’t doing your job as a parent and you are part of the problem. A LOT of bullying goes on over texts. And a lot of other inappropriate stuff. If you aren’t teaching your kids how to text properly, they aren’t learning it.

Hm. There must be some middle ground here--if you don't think your preteen is mature enough to handle texting or the horrible complexities of smartphones generally, you can always get them a flip phone. A LOT of bullying happens in person as well and you can't monitor that or demand to be involved in all their conversations with friends.

And you're looking at a huge violation of trust if your preteen finds out you're looking at her conversations without her knowing. Same as reading someone's diary.

Not remotely the same thing. With a diary, there is hope of privacy. Screenshots are forever.