High School for Level 1 autism

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m assuming you have a newly diagnosed teen. High School is around the time that social skills deficits become most apparent.

You probably aren’t going to get your child’s social skills needs met by any high school (public or private). Private services are going to be your best bet. You’ll need to try different social skills groups, classes, etc. until you find something that really helps your child.

I am also looking for a new HS for my DD (ASD, ADHD). She certainly has social issues but I’m actually veering away from “social skills” support or instruction. Yes, her social differences are more apparent than ever, but I just do not think they are going to change based on social skills training, in school or otherwise. She’s in a program now that has it, and she gets it intellectually. Being corrected in real time just makes her feel like she’s constantly being criticized. I’m thinking of focusing our search on finding a nurturing environment and creative teaching model. As far as the social skills, I feel like what she really needs is an empathetic group of kids who “get” her, an environment that is supportive of her different learning style, and where she’ll just be allowed to be herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m assuming you have a newly diagnosed teen. High School is around the time that social skills deficits become most apparent.

You probably aren’t going to get your child’s social skills needs met by any high school (public or private). Private services are going to be your best bet. You’ll need to try different social skills groups, classes, etc. until you find something that really helps your child.

I am also looking for a new HS for my DD (ASD, ADHD). She certainly has social issues but I’m actually veering away from “social skills” support or instruction. Yes, her social differences are more apparent than ever, but I just do not think they are going to change based on social skills training, in school or otherwise. She’s in a program now that has it, and she gets it intellectually. Being corrected in real time just makes her feel like she’s constantly being criticized. I’m thinking of focusing our search on finding a nurturing environment and creative teaching model. As far as the social skills, I feel like what she really needs is an empathetic group of kids who “get” her, an environment that is supportive of her different learning style, and where she’ll just be allowed to be herself.

My adhd/asd teenage daughter is loving Harbour School. This board is going to get sick of hearing about it from me, but I can't stop bringing it up because it's been a godsend for her and for our whole family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m assuming you have a newly diagnosed teen. High School is around the time that social skills deficits become most apparent.

You probably aren’t going to get your child’s social skills needs met by any high school (public or private). Private services are going to be your best bet. You’ll need to try different social skills groups, classes, etc. until you find something that really helps your child.

I am also looking for a new HS for my DD (ASD, ADHD). She certainly has social issues but I’m actually veering away from “social skills” support or instruction. Yes, her social differences are more apparent than ever, but I just do not think they are going to change based on social skills training, in school or otherwise. She’s in a program now that has it, and she gets it intellectually. Being corrected in real time just makes her feel like she’s constantly being criticized. I’m thinking of focusing our search on finding a nurturing environment and creative teaching model. As far as the social skills, I feel like what she really needs is an empathetic group of kids who “get” her, an environment that is supportive of her different learning style, and where she’ll just be allowed to be herself.

Unless she wants a super rigorous academic environment, Nora hits all your requirements.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m assuming you have a newly diagnosed teen. High School is around the time that social skills deficits become most apparent.

You probably aren’t going to get your child’s social skills needs met by any high school (public or private). Private services are going to be your best bet. You’ll need to try different social skills groups, classes, etc. until you find something that really helps your child.

I am also looking for a new HS for my DD (ASD, ADHD). She certainly has social issues but I’m actually veering away from “social skills” support or instruction. Yes, her social differences are more apparent than ever, but I just do not think they are going to change based on social skills training, in school or otherwise. She’s in a program now that has it, and she gets it intellectually. Being corrected in real time just makes her feel like she’s constantly being criticized. I’m thinking of focusing our search on finding a nurturing environment and creative teaching model. As far as the social skills, I feel like what she really needs is an empathetic group of kids who “get” her, an environment that is supportive of her different learning style, and where she’ll just be allowed to be herself.

My adhd/asd teenage daughter is loving Harbour School. This board is going to get sick of hearing about it from me, but I can't stop bringing it up because it's been a godsend for her and for our whole family.

Would you be willing to share a dummy email so I can get in touch with you directly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m assuming you have a newly diagnosed teen. High School is around the time that social skills deficits become most apparent.

You probably aren’t going to get your child’s social skills needs met by any high school (public or private). Private services are going to be your best bet. You’ll need to try different social skills groups, classes, etc. until you find something that really helps your child.

I am also looking for a new HS for my DD (ASD, ADHD). She certainly has social issues but I’m actually veering away from “social skills” support or instruction. Yes, her social differences are more apparent than ever, but I just do not think they are going to change based on social skills training, in school or otherwise. She’s in a program now that has it, and she gets it intellectually. Being corrected in real time just makes her feel like she’s constantly being criticized. I’m thinking of focusing our search on finding a nurturing environment and creative teaching model. As far as the social skills, I feel like what she really needs is an empathetic group of kids who “get” her, an environment that is supportive of her different learning style, and where she’ll just be allowed to be herself.

Unless she wants a super rigorous academic environment, Nora hits all your requirements.

The problem is she has some behaviors I don’t think Nora would accept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hey, Level 1 is an outdated term. As is "high functioning" Please avoid.
- autistic person

I got my Level 1 diagnosis last year as an adult and am fine with that term to describe me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m assuming you have a newly diagnosed teen. High School is around the time that social skills deficits become most apparent.

You probably aren’t going to get your child’s social skills needs met by any high school (public or private). Private services are going to be your best bet. You’ll need to try different social skills groups, classes, etc. until you find something that really helps your child.

I am also looking for a new HS for my DD (ASD, ADHD). She certainly has social issues but I’m actually veering away from “social skills” support or instruction. Yes, her social differences are more apparent than ever, but I just do not think they are going to change based on social skills training, in school or otherwise. She’s in a program now that has it, and she gets it intellectually. Being corrected in real time just makes her feel like she’s constantly being criticized. I’m thinking of focusing our search on finding a nurturing environment and creative teaching model. As far as the social skills, I feel like what she really needs is an empathetic group of kids who “get” her, an environment that is supportive of her different learning style, and where she’ll just be allowed to be herself.

Unless she wants a super rigorous academic environment, Nora hits all your requirements.

The problem is she has some behaviors I don’t think Nora would accept.

I’m interested to hear more about what kind of behaviors you mean as we too are looking at Nora for our ASD teen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m assuming you have a newly diagnosed teen. High School is around the time that social skills deficits become most apparent.

You probably aren’t going to get your child’s social skills needs met by any high school (public or private). Private services are going to be your best bet. You’ll need to try different social skills groups, classes, etc. until you find something that really helps your child.

I am also looking for a new HS for my DD (ASD, ADHD). She certainly has social issues but I’m actually veering away from “social skills” support or instruction. Yes, her social differences are more apparent than ever, but I just do not think they are going to change based on social skills training, in school or otherwise. She’s in a program now that has it, and she gets it intellectually. Being corrected in real time just makes her feel like she’s constantly being criticized. I’m thinking of focusing our search on finding a nurturing environment and creative teaching model. As far as the social skills, I feel like what she really needs is an empathetic group of kids who “get” her, an environment that is supportive of her different learning style, and where she’ll just be allowed to be herself.

Unless she wants a super rigorous academic environment, Nora hits all your requirements.

The problem is she has some behaviors I don’t think Nora would accept.

I’m interested to hear more about what kind of behaviors you mean as we too are looking at Nora for our ASD teen.

Occasionally having meltdowns in class (crying, screaming). Appearing unmotivated, not doing her work and drawing in a sketchbook instead, withdrawing. Saying annoying things to other kids or teachers and not stopping when asked. We spoke to the admissions person at Nora who said they couldn’t meet her needs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m assuming you have a newly diagnosed teen. High School is around the time that social skills deficits become most apparent.

You probably aren’t going to get your child’s social skills needs met by any high school (public or private). Private services are going to be your best bet. You’ll need to try different social skills groups, classes, etc. until you find something that really helps your child.

I am also looking for a new HS for my DD (ASD, ADHD). She certainly has social issues but I’m actually veering away from “social skills” support or instruction. Yes, her social differences are more apparent than ever, but I just do not think they are going to change based on social skills training, in school or otherwise. She’s in a program now that has it, and she gets it intellectually. Being corrected in real time just makes her feel like she’s constantly being criticized. I’m thinking of focusing our search on finding a nurturing environment and creative teaching model. As far as the social skills, I feel like what she really needs is an empathetic group of kids who “get” her, an environment that is supportive of her different learning style, and where she’ll just be allowed to be herself.

Unless she wants a super rigorous academic environment, Nora hits all your requirements.

The problem is she has some behaviors I don’t think Nora would accept.

I’m interested to hear more about what kind of behaviors you mean as we too are looking at Nora for our ASD teen.

Occasionally having meltdowns in class (crying, screaming). Appearing unmotivated, not doing her work and drawing in a sketchbook instead, withdrawing. Saying annoying things to other kids or teachers and not stopping when asked. We spoke to the admissions person at Nora who said they couldn’t meet her needs.

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The not stopping when asked was likely the deal breaker. Everything else is something I've seen (maybe not the yelling, but my child has definitely cried in class).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:hey, Level 1 is an outdated term. As is "high functioning" Please avoid.
- autistic person

How would you prefer the various points on the spectrum to be referred to?

Autistic, needing support in A and B but not C. https://neuroclastic.com/its-a-spectrum-doesnt-mean-what-you-think/

that’s absurd

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m assuming you have a newly diagnosed teen. High School is around the time that social skills deficits become most apparent.

You probably aren’t going to get your child’s social skills needs met by any high school (public or private). Private services are going to be your best bet. You’ll need to try different social skills groups, classes, etc. until you find something that really helps your child.

I am also looking for a new HS for my DD (ASD, ADHD). She certainly has social issues but I’m actually veering away from “social skills” support or instruction. Yes, her social differences are more apparent than ever, but I just do not think they are going to change based on social skills training, in school or otherwise. She’s in a program now that has it, and she gets it intellectually. Being corrected in real time just makes her feel like she’s constantly being criticized. I’m thinking of focusing our search on finding a nurturing environment and creative teaching model. As far as the social skills, I feel like what she really needs is an empathetic group of kids who “get” her, an environment that is supportive of her different learning style, and where she’ll just be allowed to be herself.

I agree with you SO much. I think some skills training is useful - like, how to order in cafés and bars, how to ensure when you are making requests that they are heard (including possible need to make eye contact), how to remember to say please/thank you. But this can be done in a very positive and goal-orientated way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m assuming you have a newly diagnosed teen. High School is around the time that social skills deficits become most apparent.

You probably aren’t going to get your child’s social skills needs met by any high school (public or private). Private services are going to be your best bet. You’ll need to try different social skills groups, classes, etc. until you find something that really helps your child.

I am also looking for a new HS for my DD (ASD, ADHD). She certainly has social issues but I’m actually veering away from “social skills” support or instruction. Yes, her social differences are more apparent than ever, but I just do not think they are going to change based on social skills training, in school or otherwise. She’s in a program now that has it, and she gets it intellectually. Being corrected in real time just makes her feel like she’s constantly being criticized. I’m thinking of focusing our search on finding a nurturing environment and creative teaching model. As far as the social skills, I feel like what she really needs is an empathetic group of kids who “get” her, an environment that is supportive of her different learning style, and where she’ll just be allowed to be herself.

Unless she wants a super rigorous academic environment, Nora hits all your requirements.

The problem is she has some behaviors I don’t think Nora would accept.

I’m interested to hear more about what kind of behaviors you mean as we too are looking at Nora for our ASD teen.

Occasionally having meltdowns in class (crying, screaming). Appearing unmotivated, not doing her work and drawing in a sketchbook instead, withdrawing. Saying annoying things to other kids or teachers and not stopping when asked. We spoke to the admissions person at Nora who said they couldn’t meet her needs.

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The not stopping when asked was likely the deal breaker. Everything else is something I've seen (maybe not the yelling, but my child has definitely cried in class).

Ironically I don’t think we talked about that, and I don’t think that was it.