UTTERLY AMAZED at comment made by my not yet 4-year-old son

[Anonymous]

I am sitting here with tears in my eyes, too.

What a wonderful little guy.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the sweetest post ever on this board.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for sharing such a sweet moment!

[Anonymous]

Yet another one who teared up.

Honestly, OP, I don't know how you kept it together in front of your sweet little boy.

[Anonymous]

But the important question is, how was his hair?

(Obviously joking. I cried a little at the OP. I love how the little ones surprise us with their depth and intuition.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yet another one who teared up.

Honestly, OP, I don't know how you kept it together in front of your sweet little boy.[/quote]


PP here: you know, I think it wouldn't have been horrible if she cried in front of her DS. Kids can see emotions. They, esp at his age, might be well-served to see that we can feel sad, and just *be* with that emotion for a little bit and move on. I personally think that is quite healthy. Not sobbing endlessly on front of your kid, but I think it's a valuable teaching moment to let your kid see you cry bc you miss your Mom... Sorry for the digression.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for sharing that, OP. How bittersweet that encounter must have been.

My mother passed away 7 months ago, and I often see my mother's face in my 11 mo old DD. People can say what they will, but I do believe my mother's spirit is in her.
Maybe similarly with your son. I often hear social workers say that children comment and behave as though they communicate with passed loves ones.
I hope, for your sake and mine, that is possible.

Hugs to you, OP. I feel your pain. Losing a mother is so tough, and I think you should be proud of yourself for raising such a thoughtful and loving child.

[Anonymous]

OP again.

15:01 - you're right about sharing emotion. DS has definitely seen his share from me. On a funny note, we also have a 6 week old (DD) and a few days after we were home from delivery I decided to pick DS up from daycare (gave DH some alone time with DD and allowed me to get out of the house and pick up DS for some Mommy/son time). He clearly was adjusting to life with his little sister and I was exhausted and VERY hormonal. I was supposed to hand him a book to look at while I drove home, but got in the driver's seat and completely forgot. He was very grumpy and this little voice says "You didn't get me my book. I'm not your friend any more". I BURST into tears while driving and it was the kind of tears that you can't keep in and then you catch your breath and have trouble talking type of cry. Poor little man didn't know what to think and he hasn't said "I'm not your friend" since! I just had to say "sorry. Your comment made Mommy sad. Mommy is really tired and everything is okay. Mommy will be okay in a few minutes"!

15:06. I'm so sorry about your Mom's passing. I'm glad she was able to meet DD. I like to think that my Mom can see DD too...

[Anonymous]

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http://www.carolbowman.com/

[Anonymous]

WOW kids are amazing!

[Anonymous]

It's amazing what kids know/say/do. I lost my sister 3 days before DS's 1st birthday. When I got the call about her death it was just the two of us at home. Of course I broke down sobbing (her death was unexpected). DS was playing quietly but got up and came over to pat my knee and told me "Mommy sad but gonna be ok." I still get weepy and the chills when I think about it. Sorry for your loss OP. You have a special little boy!

[Anonymous]

Tears here, too, OP! I'm so sorry for your loss and also so happy for you about your blessing of a little boy.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for all the virtual hugs about my Mom's passing.

19:36 - so sorry to read about your sister. Your kiddo sounds so sweet.

It's comments like these from DS that I will honestly cherish forever...

[Anonymous]

Another crier here. God I have cried all day at work today. Luckily no one is here and I can close my door and sob. My dad passed away a few years ago and its still hard on me especially during father's day. My daughter looks JUST like him. He never got to meet my little girl but I know he is with us everyday. I have so many wornderful memories with him and I also try to recreate those memories with her. I am constantly talking to her about him, showing her pictures, sharing my stories. I want her to know what a wonderful person he was and that even though he is not with us he loves her very much.

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12:48 - so sorry to hear about your Dad. I am sure Sunday will be a tough day for you. Mother's Day was tough for me (this is OP). I know so many people say that my Mom is "around" and is able to see my new DD, but it doesn't take away the sadness and anger I feel some days. My Mom worked her A _ _ off for her family for so many years, and then a few years after she retired to Florida with my Dad, she gets sick with cancer that wasn't caught until it was Stage IV. It was like she never had a chance to beat it. She did radiation and chemo and it still killed her within 4 months of her diagnosis (almost to the day). So, 12:48 and others - I hear ya. We just have to take it day by day when it's hard, I suppose.