Strategically missing school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a fan of teaching kids it’s fine to lie to get some small advantage. If they need all this extra time then their classes are too hard or their schedule is not ok right or they need to learn time management. Skipping tests to “get feedback” is cheating.

Do you tell your employer the real reason when you take a day off to interview?

[Anonymous]

We do it. I have no problem calling my kid in sick so they can study.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a fan of teaching kids it’s fine to lie to get some small advantage. If they need all this extra time then their classes are too hard or their schedule is not ok right or they need to learn time management. Skipping tests to “get feedback” is cheating.

Nobody's lying.
Students just don't go to school and are marked absent.

And as the parent of a child with disabilities who is entitled to extended time, get out of there with your self-righteous screed on time management. My son and all his friends are all working as hard as they can. They all have the time management skills they have. Everyone is doing their best and strategizing to get into the colleges they want. This means dozens of APs and straight As. If they need a half-day here and there, it's all fine. You should applaud their drive and willpower, considering there are so many kids skipping school to smoke weed and experiment with pills instead of keeping their eyes on the prize.

[Anonymous]

feedback from friends what was on the test

This is wrong. Very wrong. I was on-board with the occasional strategic absence, but not when it interferes with a test or taking the test honestly.

[Anonymous]

Getting information from friends about a test is cheating, no ifs, ands, or butts. But taking a mental health day to do some extra studying? As long as they're not missing a quiz, test, or turning in a paper late because they're missing a day, I'm fine with that.

[Anonymous]

I never understand kids who give their friends the answers in cases like this. This is only hurting themselves.

I'm let my son come in late to finish homework or study but this has seriously backfired when he's missed a lecture in the class he's skipped. We've backed away from ever doing this.

[Anonymous]

There is no need to skip school to study, the fact is they waste tons of time on games and social media.

[Anonymous]

I have two in high school now. They are in rigors classes (all honors/AP's) and do a good amount of EC. They have never asked nor have we offered to work the system. They do leave early some days if they have school games that are away (and they have to make up missed work, etc). I did not know that students/parents did this. It seems like it gives an unfair advantage while simultaneously telling the school they know better about the correct way to structure the curriculum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an 11th grader who has a tough schedule and almost always call in “sick” on half days so they can catch up on sleep and school work.

Wait til they start working full time, you are literally setting them up for failure.

[Anonymous]

I've got one in college and 2 in high school, 1 of which is a senior. I don't have a problem with them staying home to study or if they need a wellness day. I would absolutely have a problem with them getting intel on what was on the exam. That's cheating and the goal is for them to master content, not get certain test scores.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Getting information from friends about a test is cheating, no ifs, ands, or butts. But taking a mental health day to do some extra studying? As long as they're not missing a quiz, test, or turning in a paper late because they're missing a day, I'm fine with that.

+1 to all of this. I'm a teacher and I let my own upper elementary and middle school kids take the occasional full or partial mental health day if there's going to be a stupid Boosterthon assembly or a field trip they don't want to attend. The former is time they could be spending doing independent reading or practicing math at home and the latter is probably doing their teacher a favor because it's one less kid to keep track of. I don't let them miss school when there's a test or something due unless they are physically ill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a fan of teaching kids it’s fine to lie to get some small advantage. If they need all this extra time then their classes are too hard or their schedule is not ok right or they need to learn time management. Skipping tests to “get feedback” is cheating.

Nobody's lying.
Students just don't go to school and are marked absent.

And as the parent of a child with disabilities who is entitled to extended time, get out of there with your self-righteous screed on time management. My son and all his friends are all working as hard as they can. They all have the time management skills they have. Everyone is doing their best and strategizing to get into the colleges they want. This means dozens of APs and straight As. If they need a half-day here and there, it's all fine. You should applaud their drive and willpower, considering there are so many kids skipping school to smoke weed and experiment with pills instead of keeping their eyes on the prize.

Not true. Parents have to send a note for the absence to be excused. No way are these parents and kids accepting h excused absences in high school, when it actually matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a fan of teaching kids it’s fine to lie to get some small advantage. If they need all this extra time then their classes are too hard or their schedule is not ok right or they need to learn time management. Skipping tests to “get feedback” is cheating.

Do you tell your employer the real reason when you take a day off to interview?

There’s no need to lie when you take a day off of work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a fan of teaching kids it’s fine to lie to get some small advantage. If they need all this extra time then their classes are too hard or their schedule is not ok right or they need to learn time management. Skipping tests to “get feedback” is cheating.

Nobody's lying.
Students just don't go to school and are marked absent.

And as the parent of a child with disabilities who is entitled to extended time, get out of there with your self-righteous screed on time management. My son and all his friends are all working as hard as they can. They all have the time management skills they have. Everyone is doing their best and strategizing to get into the colleges they want. This means dozens of APs and straight As. If they need a half-day here and there, it's all fine. You should applaud their drive and willpower, considering there are so many kids skipping school to smoke weed and experiment with pills instead of keeping their eyes on the prize.

Not true. Parents have to send a note for the absence to be excused. No way are these parents and kids accepting h excused absences in high school, when it actually matters.

*unexcused

[Anonymous]

Giving your kid a flex day because for their mental health here and there I can understand, but strategically doing so because of a difficult test or a sub in class is malicious and not setting a good example from a moral perspective. I don't like it.