AITA: Grocery bagging

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you come off as a jerk. While you’re technically correct it was antisocial of you to refuse to help when asked.

Wrong. OP was correct. It is not anti-social to not do the work for someone for free when they are being paid for it. If the cashier was so handicapped, she could quit working.

[Anonymous]

ESH (everybody sucks here).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ESH (everybody sucks here).

I like this option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's very strange. I roll up with my bags, no matter how quiet or busy and say - I have bags so just chuck everything down. They still help me bag sometimes.

I have never had a cashier preemptively ask me to bag, but YATA to not just say -sure- . It's three minutes you don't need to be on your phone. Don't you want to get out of there? Get out to your car then sit on your phone. Especially if someone is waiting for your spot, ahole.

OP made clear that there was no rush at the store. Why is the cashier working there if she is unable to do her job properly? What a waste of space!

If the stores have a policy, they need to put up signs stating that cashiers will not bag your stuff in bags provided by you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you come off as a jerk. While you’re technically correct it was antisocial of you to refuse to help when asked.

The cashier is PAID to check out and bag and until I am paid to bag, I don't. The Same reason I don't use self checkout. If I'm doing all the work then I want 50% off my groceries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you come off as a jerk. While you’re technically correct it was antisocial of you to refuse to help when asked.

Wrong. OP was correct. It is not anti-social to not do the work for someone for free when they are being paid for it. If the cashier was so handicapped, she could quit working.

It's anti-social not to help someone just because you can. I also move my water glass closer to the server so they can fill it more easily. I don't have to, but I do because it makes their life a little easier.

[Anonymous]

If the cashier said what OP says they said, the cashier was not rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would speak to the manager about the cashier.

+ 1

Also, if the store has a policy of not bagging, they can post the notice at the checkout.

[Anonymous]

That's annoying but doesn't surprise me. Harris Teeter (at least the one near me) seems to have moved to a culture of people bagging their own groceries. It wasn't like that pre-Covid, but now it's in a gray area and I think a lot of cashiers have gotten used to people doing it.

One major issue is that Harris Teeter's checkouts are actually set up for there to be a bagger working alongside the checker, bagging groceries. But they don't staff them anymore. So now it's really awkward for everyone. The checker has a small area with plastic bags, but if you bring your own, your bag probably won't fit in that area, so they have to use the turn table thing and it's awkward. Alternatively, you can bag but you have to walk around the counter to the bagging area, which means you either have to go bag before coming back around to pay, or wait until you've paid and then go bag. Either way is not efficient and is awkward for the customer.

Which is why I do self checkout at HT, even when I'm a few items over. At least then there is no confusion and I can bag as I go because it's set up for that.

I like that at Trader Joe's, they always bag your items, their spaces are set up to accommodate you bringing your own bag, and there is no friction. For a while they wouldn't put groceries in your bags due to Covid, but now that people know you can't get Covid from a bag someone brought from home ( ), that's over, thankfully.

[Anonymous]

I think you're an obnoxious jerk. Your bags, you should bag if you're able.

Just say "challenge accepted" and be a helping hand to a person doing physical labor making minimum wage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think YTA, but I don't know that I would have handled it the same way.

I'm going to do a thing I hate on here - assume facts that have no basis in the original post. I probably would have assumed the checker didn't want to bag for some reason - injury, germaphobe, or whatever. The "we're a team!" attitude is irritating. We most clearly are not. I am also with you that I find the reluctance to return to bagging since the pandemic to be very irritating.

OP strolling up with this:

[Anonymous]

I would have been annoyed by how the cashier said it. A "would you mind bagging" is fine with me and I automatically bag when there is no bagger, but I don't need to be assigned/get a cutesy task-IATA!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you come off as a jerk. While you’re technically correct it was antisocial of you to refuse to help when asked.

Wrong. OP was correct. It is not anti-social to not do the work for someone for free when they are being paid for it. If the cashier was so handicapped, she could quit working.

It's anti-social not to help someone just because you can. I also move my water glass closer to the server so they can fill it more easily. I don't have to, but I do because it makes their life a little easier.

The server does not ask you to move the water glass closer or stack up the plates, right? You do it because you want to. The server should not expect that other customers would do the same.

The issue here is that the cashier was not doing her job and was rude and unprofessional. If the OP would have complained about the casher, the cashier would have been reprimanded at the very least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you're an obnoxious jerk. Your bags, you should bag if you're able.

Just say "challenge accepted" and be a helping hand to a person doing physical labor making minimum wage.

A lot of minimum wage earners are posting here!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's annoying but doesn't surprise me. Harris Teeter (at least the one near me) seems to have moved to a culture of people bagging their own groceries. It wasn't like that pre-Covid, but now it's in a gray area and I think a lot of cashiers have gotten used to people doing it.

One major issue is that Harris Teeter's checkouts are actually set up for there to be a bagger working alongside the checker, bagging groceries. But they don't staff them anymore. So now it's really awkward for everyone. The checker has a small area with plastic bags, but if you bring your own, your bag probably won't fit in that area, so they have to use the turn table thing and it's awkward. Alternatively, you can bag but you have to walk around the counter to the bagging area, which means you either have to go bag before coming back around to pay, or wait until you've paid and then go bag. Either way is not efficient and is awkward for the customer.

Which is why I do self checkout at HT, even when I'm a few items over. At least then there is no confusion and I can bag as I go because it's set up for that.

I like that at Trader Joe's, they always bag your items, their spaces are set up to accommodate you bringing your own bag, and there is no friction. For a while they wouldn't put groceries in your bags due to Covid, but now that people know you can't get Covid from a bag someone brought from home ( ), that's over, thankfully.

I would avoid HT. TJ, WF and wegmans - all the cashier's bag the customer purchases.