How much are you spending on birthday party presents these days?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$10 and I judge you for not making it a “no gifts” party.

+1 million.

Why can we agree to just go to no gift parties. Children need to stop being rewarded for existing.

+ 1 to no gifts. I reward my child for just existing but I don’t expect other people to, especially families she doesn’t even know at school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$10 and I judge you for not making it a “no gifts” party.

+1 million.

Why can we agree to just go to no gift parties. Children need to stop being rewarded for existing.

+ 1 to no gifts. I reward my child for just existing but I don’t expect other people to, especially families she doesn’t even know at school.

NY magazine just ran an article on advice for all different life situations, and they say you are expected to bring gifts to a no gift party. I found that advice very annoying. But I would never judge someone for not having a no gifts party as I think as a guest they are awkward because some people follow it, some people don’t, and some don’t know what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When the invitation comes from school and you don't really know the family? People used to say $20 but you can't get much for that anymore.

You can get a lot for $20 - small lego sets, board games, squish mallows, books, puzzles, tons of stuff is under $20. What are you buying???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$10 and I judge you for not making it a “no gifts” party.

+1 million.

Why can we agree to just go to no gift parties. Children need to stop being rewarded for existing.

+ 1 to no gifts. I reward my child for just existing but I don’t expect other people to, especially families she doesn’t even know at school.

NY magazine just ran an article on advice for all different life situations, and they say you are expected to bring gifts to a no gift party. I found that advice very annoying. But I would never judge someone for not having a no gifts party as I think as a guest they are awkward because some people follow it, some people don’t, and some don’t know what to do.

They're wrong! No gifts means no gifts. No one who writes that will be offended if you follow instructions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$10 and I judge you for not making it a “no gifts” party.

+1 million.

Why can we agree to just go to no gift parties. Children need to stop being rewarded for existing.

+ 1 to no gifts. I reward my child for just existing but I don’t expect other people to, especially families she doesn’t even know at school.

NY magazine just ran an article on advice for all different life situations, and they say you are expected to bring gifts to a no gift party. I found that advice very annoying. But I would never judge someone for not having a no gifts party as I think as a guest they are awkward because some people follow it, some people don’t, and some don’t know what to do.

They're wrong! No gifts means no gifts. No one who writes that will be offended if you follow instructions.

It is gross to say anything for a party. There is no reason a child cannot get gifts for their birthday. Usually the parents demanding no gifts are the ones who buy their kids a crazy amount of stuff and just want to be in the spotlight. Gifts are fun for kids.

If you want a no gift party, then you should not be buying your child gifts either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$10 and I judge you for not making it a “no gifts” party.

I will judge you for mentioning gifts on an invitation.

[Anonymous]

We average $25. I don’t like giving gift cards for kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When the invitation comes from school and you don't really know the family? People used to say $20 but you can't get much for that anymore.

You can get a lot for $20 - small lego sets, board games, squish mallows, books, puzzles, tons of stuff is under $20. What are you buying???

+1 Who are you people who can't find things for under $20. We have a local toy store and there is a TON of stuff there under $20. It's never been a problem.

[Anonymous]

I keep it to ~$15 for younger elem classmates — books, art supplies, slime supplies, bucket of Pearler beads …

When kids are older and only going to a couple parties a year that are small (e.g., sleepover with 2-3 kids), then a $25 gift card or something like that.

[Anonymous]

$10-$20. Something like a small Lego set, craft kit, or a nat Geo science kit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$10 and I judge you for not making it a “no gifts” party.

Your measly $10 can be considered "no gift".

[Anonymous]

$25-$50

[Anonymous]

$15-$20. I will ask the parent for suggestions though and try and honor that.

[Anonymous]

$20 gift card for older kids. $15-$20 for younger kids. Art supplies, board games, craft kit, etc.

[Anonymous]

$0. I can't remember the last time either of our kids attended a party that didn't specifically call out "no gifts" on the invitation. My kids and most of the kids' parties they are attending have too much stuff already. I've had lots of conversations with parents who have expressed that they always specify "no gifts" and prefer it that way.