Married parents-taking child out of state without the other parent’s consent

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is the “primary” parent for a married cohabitating couple. Are they in the midst of divorce proceedings?

Yes, you’re right. I just meant that he takes the bulk of child rearing responsibilities. No divorce proceedings in process.

Then he shouldn’t do this, what the hell? Why on earth would a husband who is not divorcing so defy the wishes of his children’s other parent that he seriously fears she will call the police and report a kidnapping?

Wife doesn’t want kid to see grandparents who practice a different religion.

And what’s your point? If my husband pulled a move like this, divorce would go from “not in consideration” to “active docket” before he got back. And if he has so little regard for his wive’s views he should welcome that. Madness.

And if your husband told you that you can’t take the kids to your parents, that’s cool right? You wouldn’t go, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is the “primary” parent for a married cohabitating couple. Are they in the midst of divorce proceedings?

Yes, you’re right. I just meant that he takes the bulk of child rearing responsibilities. No divorce proceedings in process.

Then he shouldn’t do this, what the hell? Why on earth would a husband who is not divorcing so defy the wishes of his children’s other parent that he seriously fears she will call the police and report a kidnapping?

Wife doesn’t want kid to see grandparents who practice a different religion.

And what’s your point? If my husband pulled a move like this, divorce would go from “not in consideration” to “active docket” before he got back. And if he has so little regard for his wive’s views he should welcome that. Madness.

And if your husband told you that you can’t take the kids to your parents, that’s cool right? You wouldn’t go, right?

I would totally leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is the “primary” parent for a married cohabitating couple. Are they in the midst of divorce proceedings?

Yes, you’re right. I just meant that he takes the bulk of child rearing responsibilities. No divorce proceedings in process.

Then he shouldn’t do this, what the hell? Why on earth would a husband who is not divorcing so defy the wishes of his children’s other parent that he seriously fears she will call the police and report a kidnapping?

Wife doesn’t want kid to see grandparents who practice a different religion.

And what’s your point? If my husband pulled a move like this, divorce would go from “not in consideration” to “active docket” before he got back. And if he has so little regard for his wive’s views he should welcome that. Madness.

And if your husband told you that you can’t take the kids to your parents, that’s cool right? You wouldn’t go, right?

Well first I’d ask why he felt that way. Maybe my parents are members of a cult. Maybe he’s scared they are going to kidnap me and the kids (this certainly has happened in cult scenarios).

If I thought he was wrong, and being controlling by trying to forbid me from being my parents, I would file for divorce immediately.

But in no case would I remove his children without his consent and then show back up in a week like nothing happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:No one is the “primary” parent for a married cohabitating couple. Are they in the midst of divorce proceedings?

Yes, you’re right. I just meant that he takes the bulk of child rearing responsibilities. No divorce proceedings in process.

Then he shouldn’t do this, what the hell? Why on earth would a husband who is not divorcing so defy the wishes of his children’s other parent that he seriously fears she will call the police and report a kidnapping?

Wife doesn’t want kid to see grandparents who practice a different religion.

And what’s your point? If my husband pulled a move like this, divorce would go from “not in consideration” to “active docket” before he got back. And if he has so little regard for his wive’s views he should welcome that. Madness.

And if your husband told you that you can’t take the kids to your parents, that’s cool right? You wouldn’t go, right?

Well first I’d ask why he felt that way. Maybe my parents are members of a cult. Maybe he’s scared they are going to kidnap me and the kids (this certainly has happened in cult scenarios).

If I thought he was wrong, and being controlling by trying to forbid me from being my parents, I would file for divorce immediately.

But in no case would I remove his children without his consent and then show back up in a week like nothing happened.

DP. Clearly there is more going on in this marriage than you understand. Taking OP at their word, the wife here has some serious control issues that should not be given into. The husband may not be ready to divorce for a variety of reasons. When you have a partner who is engaged in this kind of behavior it’s not easy to exit. Yet he is right to show her that he will not be controlled by her - she needs to learn that.

I have been (almost) brought to this kind of decision by my STBX. The problem is not that he would have called the police, but that he would have assaulted me in front of the kids.

So yeah you are lucky that you can’t understand this dynamic.

Hopefully getting more family support will help OP’s brother on the road to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Which side has the wacky religion, OP? Yours or SIL's?