I fight my DH on taking cat to vet.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH would believe ANYTHING the vet said and spend whatever the bill is. He never questions his vet. This is why I'm so leary of this particular vet, because he knows he has a big gullible fish.

You do know there are other vets in the land, don't you? There's this nifty website called yelp and people leave reviews of businesses, including vets. Find one near your home and, for the live of God, get your cat examined, vaccinated and treated for the eye issue.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH would believe ANYTHING the vet said and spend whatever the bill is. He never questions his vet. This is why I'm so leary of this particular vet, because he knows he has a big gullible fish.

You do know there are other vets in the land, don't you? There's this nifty website called yelp and people leave reviews of businesses, including vets. Find one near your home and, for the live of God, get your cat examined, vaccinated and treated for the eye issue.

FYI my DH has this issue. It’s called misguided loyalty! He never ever ever changes his people. Probably because he doesn’t want to admit that they were not good for whatever reason..

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So you're calling your adult son's vet to fight with them over charges?

Lololololololollll

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OP update . So after the wrath was given to me on this site, I went ahead and let my DH take our cat to his vet. Lo and behold she has pink eye! He sent her home with eyedrops and that was about it. To make matters absolutely astonishing was the fact that the vet bill was only $120 total! Of course cynical Sally here, I believe his vet is bait and switching him because I haven’t allowed him to bring our cats to his vet for years. The next visit will be the typical $1000.

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Anonymous wrote:OP update . So after the wrath was given to me on this site, I went ahead and let my DH take our cat to his vet. Lo and behold she has pink eye! He sent her home with eyedrops and that was about it. To make matters absolutely astonishing was the fact that the vet bill was only $120 total! Of course cynical Sally here, I believe his vet is bait and switching him because I haven’t allowed him to bring our cats to his vet for years. The next visit will be the typical $1000.

I think you and your husband are both extreme and you need to find a happy medium.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to do ONE series of diagnostic visits, OP, for ethical reasons. You can't leave a symptom flapping in the wind. What if it's something other than allergies? It has to be something else, otherwise it would be both eyes, wouldn't it? And if it turns out to be an optic nerve tumor, your choice of whether you want to operate or euthanize.

I'm with you on the "less is more" vet expense philosophy, but not until you have a good idea of what's at stake and the discomfort level of the animal. For example: my young adult dog is incontinent, which is rare, and it wasn't until I spent $400 to assure myself that there was no bladder or urinary tract infection, or anything else outstanding, that I shrugged, and bought washable diapers. I needed to check first.

Oh god that’s what I’m afraid of. Optic tumor? There goes 10k!!! FYI my DH would never euthanize an animal unless it was absolutely 1000% necessary. He kept our dog a year too long. She was clearly suffering but he wouldn't acknowledge it. He took her to work with him daily and when I saw she hadn't eaten in 48 hrs I told him not to bring her home, go straight to vet because I didn't want to deal with a 110lb dead dog in a condo. He took her to the vet and she took her last breath soon after they arrived. He doesn't have his animals euthanized, he waits till they die on their own which imo is bonkers.

Your DH should not own pets.

You think the DH is the problematic pet owner in this scenario? OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you're calling your adult son's vet to fight with them over charges?

Lololololololollll

I saw that too. Has to be a troll. I hope, anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:So you're calling your adult son's vet to fight with them over charges?

Lololololololollll

I saw that too. Has to be a troll. I hope, anyway.

Same! There's a lot of gray in between letting a pet suffer for 6 years and not getting ripped off by vets. I don't see why asking during the annual visit isn't an option. Even a visit every 2 years for a young pet would be fine.

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Opposites attract! You sound like a good balance for each other. Glad everything worked out this time.

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Anonymous wrote:Could be herpes. My cats both had it present as you describe. Sometimes progressed to a “cold” for the younger cat, but rarely for him and never for the other. The Dr can give you some ointment to smear on the eye and clear it right up; if it happens again, break out the leftover ointment. There are low-cost supplements to add directly to their food that help keep things in check.

+ 1. This is what my cat had. She ended up having chronic respiratory infections in her later years but there wasn’t much that we could do (we did take her to the vet for those).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you're calling your adult son's vet to fight with them over charges?

Lololololololollll

I saw that too. Has to be a troll. I hope, anyway.

Same! There's a lot of gray in between letting a pet suffer for 6 years and not getting ripped off by vets. I don't see why asking during the annual visit isn't an option. Even a visit every 2 years for a young pet would be fine.

Because OP doesn't want to pay for annual visits. She should not own pets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH would believe ANYTHING the vet said and spend whatever the bill is. He never questions his vet. This is why I'm so leary of this particular vet, because he knows he has a big gullible fish.

Jesus Christ, OP - you're a piece of work. But - respectfully - why don't you both take the cat to the vet, together. This way you will be there to ask questions - though please do not be an a-turd; most vets are doing heroic work for not very much money, and suicide rates in this profession are sky high. Your husband can be there to show compassion and care. Between the two of you, surely you can come to a reasonable decision.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to do ONE series of diagnostic visits, OP, for ethical reasons. You can't leave a symptom flapping in the wind. What if it's something other than allergies? It has to be something else, otherwise it would be both eyes, wouldn't it? And if it turns out to be an optic nerve tumor, your choice of whether you want to operate or euthanize.

I'm with you on the "less is more" vet expense philosophy, but not until you have a good idea of what's at stake and the discomfort level of the animal. For example: my young adult dog is incontinent, which is rare, and it wasn't until I spent $400 to assure myself that there was no bladder or urinary tract infection, or anything else outstanding, that I shrugged, and bought washable diapers. I needed to check first.

Oh god that’s what I’m afraid of. Optic tumor? There goes 10k!!! FYI my DH would never euthanize an animal unless it was absolutely 1000% necessary. He kept our dog a year too long. She was clearly suffering but he wouldn't acknowledge it. He took her to work with him daily and when I saw she hadn't eaten in 48 hrs I told him not to bring her home, go straight to vet because I didn't want to deal with a 110lb dead dog in a condo. He took her to the vet and she took her last breath soon after they arrived. He doesn't have his animals euthanized, he waits till they die on their own which imo is bonkers.

I hope you're a troll, because you are both extremists. You do realize you're letting this cat suffer for years with something that could be causing pain, right? That's just as bad as not putting an animal out of its misery - if not worse.

Animals deserve to benefit from modern veterinary diagnostics. What you choose to do with the diagnosis is up to you, as long as the pain is managed. And if your spouse chooses to waste their money on treatments you think are unnecessary, then argue with him, separate your finances, do what you can. But if fear of spending is causing you to refuse all vet visits for your animals, you're the monster, not him.

Oh ffs! You sound like the extremist. The cats get their annual checkups and shots and are fine. I doubt this cat has had an eye infection for six years! Guarantee it’s allergies, which will need to be treated with costly inconvenient medication’s. She’s probably allergic to humans.

Why haven't you ever brought this issue up once during the six years your cat has been getting her annual exam?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you're calling your adult son's vet to fight with them over charges?

Lololololololollll

I saw that too. Has to be a troll. I hope, anyway.

Same! There's a lot of gray in between letting a pet suffer for 6 years and not getting ripped off by vets. I don't see why asking during the annual visit isn't an option. Even a visit every 2 years for a young pet would be fine.

Because OP doesn't want to pay for annual visits. She should not own pets.

This, appalling.

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Anonymous wrote:Could be herpes. My cats both had it present as you describe. Sometimes progressed to a “cold” for the younger cat, but rarely for him and never for the other. The Dr can give you some ointment to smear on the eye and clear it right up; if it happens again, break out the leftover ointment. There are low-cost supplements to add directly to their food that help keep things in check.

+ 1. This is what my cat had. She ended up having chronic respiratory infections in her later years but there wasn’t much that we could do (we did take her to the vet for those).

Yeah, it is really common in cats. My vet recommended to get Lysine supplements from the drugstore which did seem to help. We also keep a tube of the eye ointment on hand.