MIL has no plan

[Anonymous]

Definitely apply for an EBT food card. My BIL is 61 and unable to work. No kids or wife. He gets $600 a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Doesn't want to" may actually mean "cannot" drive or work. This is where my father is, at 72. His executive functioning skills and memory have declined slowly and he hides this by saying he doesn't want to do things.

Your MIL might not have long living independently anyway, OP. After that it will be a Medicare facility.

What is a Medicare facility?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Doesn't want to" may actually mean "cannot" drive or work. This is where my father is, at 72. His executive functioning skills and memory have declined slowly and he hides this by saying he doesn't want to do things.

Your MIL might not have long living independently anyway, OP. After that it will be a Medicare facility.

What is a Medicare facility?

There's no such thing. I think she meant a Medicaid facility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely apply for an EBT food card. My BIL is 61 and unable to work. No kids or wife. He gets $600 a month.

600 a month for one person for food?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother in law is 65 with no plan for the future. She gets under $2k a month social security (it’s from her divorced ex husband, DH’s dad, that she gets this high amount) and I applied for her to live in a nice low income senior housing apartment.

She was a rough mom for my DH (alcoholic and not very involved) but she tries hard to be a good grandparent but she has a lot of issues and anxiety (will no longer drive even though she’s in good health because she’s anxious) so she relies on us a lot. She also refuses to work because she doesn’t want to be on her feet but we have offered to help her get a part time job. No interest at all.

What should WE be doing now? How much financially do we need to plan for her? We are couple early 40’s.

She may not know it but she is extremely lucky to have you in the family. May God bless you to take over this project, many want to volunteer and do charity to look like good people but few help out where no social glory is involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely apply for an EBT food card. My BIL is 61 and unable to work. No kids or wife. He gets $600 a month.

600 a month for one person for food?

I am a single woman in my late 60s and that is more than enough. Lots of Aldi and Walmart shopping, very little eating out. Completely possible.