Diapers preschoolers and Babysitter’s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The part that I go to on it not being a big deal is she will be helping with there bath so what’s the difference.

Where is a bath mentioned?

Sorry I’m the OP that mentioned it in the post about not seeing the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP what time are you leaving? Could you put a diaper on him before you go?

We did diapers instead of pull-ups on my DD at night when she was 4/5. She was a very deep sleeper and pull-ups did not contain the pee well. Even the overnights were not absorbent enough, but diapers worked well. It was no problem. She could actually pull them down if she had one on and had to use the bathroom, which she did almost every morning. It was harder to pull it back up because sometimes it would pop open, but in the morning this didn’t matter since it was wet and she didn’t need to put it back on. But if she got up to pee early in the night, she just ask us to help reattach it.

In your situation, it d just put him in the diaper before you leave and let the sitter know that if he has tjj on use the bathroom before he falls asleep, he might need a hand reattaching it.

That might work too. We have always just put it on as he was getting into bed and he goes to the bathroom right before getting into bed. He may be able to pull it up and down like underwear, I don’t know that he has tried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is completely normal and appropriate. If you trust your babysitter to do babysitting and being alone with your child, then you should trust your babysitter to be able to put on a diaper on your child. It doesn’t matter if they’re two years old or five year olds.

OP didn’t say, but maybe the child would feel uncomfortable? I know my older one would have been fine, but my younger one would have felt uncomfortable starting at age 4 about a new sitter putting a diaper on him.

OP again, he is certainly not bashful. Sometimes I wish he was just a little more bashful or modest than he is. Lol He has answered the door totally naked on more than one occasion when I was trying to get his little brother dressed after there bath. 😳

[Anonymous]

You give your kid a bath before you leave and you have him put the pullup on then. Practice with the pull up the night before so there are no surprises. 5 is too old for diapers/babysitter baths (actually I've never had a babysitter give a kid a bath)

[Anonymous]

You need pull-ups for these situations. Children need to understand from as young as possible that their privates are off limits to other adults. Preferably everyone but just parents and doctors by 5. A 5 yo should have body autonomy and independence. You are sacrificing these to save a little $

[Anonymous]

If your baby sitter is a child molester the pullup vs diaper issue will make no difference at all. Either you trust her or not.

Talk through the difference between helping with a diaper vs inappropriate touch. A 5 year old should be able to verbally tell you they were molested.

The idea that a child should never be seen naked by a stranger wouldn't work in our household because we use public pools.

[Anonymous]

Can you put the diaper on him, tape the tabs down, then have him pull it off and on like a pullup?

[Anonymous]

My 5 year old doesn't wear diapers to bed anymore but if she did she would definitely not be comfortable w a babysitter--especially a new one--putting them on her. But maybe your kid doesn't care. Not sure if that's the issue or if you're just generally wondering if it's OK for a babysitter to diaper a child who is not a baby. I think if you trust your babysitter and your kid doesn't mind, it's fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is completely normal and appropriate. If you trust your babysitter to do babysitting and being alone with your child, then you should trust your babysitter to be able to put on a diaper on your child. It doesn’t matter if they’re two years old or five year olds.

OP didn’t say, but maybe the child would feel uncomfortable? I know my older one would have been fine, but my younger one would have felt uncomfortable starting at age 4 about a new sitter putting a diaper on him.

OP again, he is certainly not bashful. Sometimes I wish he was just a little more bashful or modest than he is. Lol He has answered the door totally naked on more than one occasion when I was trying to get his little brother dressed after there bath. 😳

Lol- your son sounds cute and funny.

I’m the first quoted person and when I read this reply I thought I misunderstood!

[Anonymous]

+1 to the pre-fastened diaper idea. Have him practice putting one on with you.

But a side note, I would keep a small pack of Goodnites on hand for use with babysitters. They are way more absorbent than regular pull-ups. My oldest wasn’t reliably dry at night until 7. He’s always been 99th percentile and outgrew size 6 diapers before he turned 3.

[Anonymous]

What is wrong with using pull ups for one night? They make some that are plenty absorbent, and even designed for nighttime.

https://www.amazon.com/Pull-Ups-Night-Time-Training-Disposable-Packaging/dp/B0728GGZDX

No reason you couldn't buy a small pack for situations exactly like this. Your DS could put the pull-up on without anyone even needing to know.

[Anonymous]

That's fine. Having adhd son is worst. Diaper phase will be gone soon

[Anonymous]

Not understanding what the problem is here. Why would it be a problem for the babysitter to get him ready for bed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not understanding what the problem is here. Why would it be a problem for the babysitter to get him ready for bed?

Agree - I assumed the son felt uncomfortable. But if he is fine with it and you allowed your previous sitter to do it, I assume OP is concerned about having a new sitter put on the diaper. Eventually, OP’s 5 year old will be 6, then 7, and there’s no guarantee he will be dry by then. May as well teach him to put on his own diaper or pull-ups or whatever now.

[Anonymous]

At 5 my kid could put a diaper on herself and wouldn’t let us do it anyway. I bet you could teach him how to do it himself.