Locks on bedroom doors

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes! A privacy doorknob “locks,” but you can just pop it open with a Bobby pin, an Allen wrench, whatever. Or it will have a little thing you can turn with a dime or a fingernail. It keeps out siblings and people who forget to knock.

It would be super weird to have bedrooms without a privacy knob. Bathrooms and bedrooms all have privacy knobs.

Same here. Their doors lock but it's not like they're dead bolts.

[Anonymous]

Ummm...of course my kid has a lock on her door. She rarely uses it, and I always knock (unless it's like she overslept and I need to wake her up for school). I have a lock on my door and use it sometimes when I'm changing, or for other reasons. Why would I not give my kid the ability to lock her door unless I didn't trust her? And if I didn't trust her, I'd have way worse problems than a lock!

[Anonymous]

All of our bedrooms have locks. We have keys and can easily get in if needed.

[Anonymous]

Our kids have locks on their doors for privacy. NBD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do your kids bedroom doors have locks? I need to replace the upstairs doorknobs and would really rather they didn't have locks, but am I denying them privacy that they're somehow entitled to?

Nope. No locks. But you can give them privacy by not entering without their permission and knocking etc.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do your kids bedroom doors have locks? I need to replace the upstairs doorknobs and would really rather they didn't have locks, but am I denying them privacy that they're somehow entitled to?

Nope. No locks. But you can give them privacy by not entering without their permission and knocking etc.

Same here. Everyone knocks on closed doors and waits for permission to come in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes! A privacy doorknob “locks,” but you can just pop it open with a Bobby pin, an Allen wrench, whatever. Or it will have a little thing you can turn with a dime or a fingernail. It keeps out siblings and people who forget to knock.

It would be super weird to have bedrooms without a privacy knob. Bathrooms and bedrooms all have privacy knobs.

Same here. Their doors lock but it's not like they're dead bolts.

Agree. I have only heard of locks not being allowed when the child was at risk of suicide or abusing substances. Maybe some posters here are going through that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one with siblings that try to annoy and barge in on other siblings? My oldest uses a lock every day so the younger siblings don’t bust in while he’s doing homework, reading, etc. I always used to lock my door to keep my brother out too when I was growing up. No locks on bathrooms is a pet peeve of mine..

I mean, the alternative is to have a family environment where your kids listen to each other and respect one another's needs and space. As a parent, I feel like it's important that I establish that norm and enforce it. Locks are fine but should not be necessary for your kid to have the peace he needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My tween has a lock. She’s only used it once and we read her the riot act. Hadn’t done it since, closed door us enough to ensure privacy.

I clearly lack imagination, but what is inherently wrong with using a lock? If she’s doing drugs behind a locked door, I would think the issue would be the drugs, not the lock.

[Anonymous]

My siblings and I used to lock each other out of our rooms all the time. When my preschooler accidentally locked herself in her room, I told her to wait a minute, and I got a wire coat hanger and straightened the hook and stuck it in the lock, which popped it right in. My daughter threw her arms around me and said, “Mommy is the hero!”

My mother was always irritated that so many of our hangers were bent and wouldn’t hang correctly. Now, with the mostly hangars we have, I’d have to hunt for a bobby pin or paper clip, I guess.

[Anonymous]

No locks. But a history of knocking and being invited in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My tween has a lock. She’s only used it once and we read her the riot act. Hadn’t done it since, closed door us enough to ensure privacy.

I clearly lack imagination, but what is inherently wrong with using a lock? If she’s doing drugs behind a locked door, I would think the issue would be the drugs, not the lock.

Some people don't feel like parents unless they have have supreme control over their children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My tween has a lock. She’s only used it once and we read her the riot act. Hadn’t done it since, closed door us enough to ensure privacy.

I clearly lack imagination, but what is inherently wrong with using a lock? If she’s doing drugs behind a locked door, I would think the issue would be the drugs, not the lock.

I'm OP and my kids love to lock their door. It just drives me batty. I knock, they say come in, I try the handle, it's locked, they say oh hold on, and I stand there waiting to ask a simple question. And a couple of times they've accidentally fallen asleep with it locked (they know its not supposed to be locked for sleep, and generally comply).

The house came with locks and now that I need to replace the knobs anyway, I want to not have them. I know they will protest and I'm trying to decide if it's worth putting my foot down.

[Anonymous]

DS wishes he had a lock. A few months ago I walked in and saw him with an erection. Talk about shocking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS wishes he had a lock. A few months ago I walked in and saw him with an erection. Talk about shocking.

That's why I knock and wait for a "come in". And if I get a "hold on!" I say I'll come back later.