Why you should think twice before sending your daughter to boarding school

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Anonymous wrote:My best friend’s kid got sucked into drugs at boarding school.

Your friends kid makes bad choices. He/she would have made bad choices at home too.

I also got into drugs and drinking at boarding school. I don't think it would have happened if I were living at home. I was a "good kid" before I left and don't think I would've had the same opportunities to get into drugs and alcohol if I were still living with my parents, who were pretty strict. It was so easy to sneak around at boarding school

At my boarding school it was not easy to sneak around. A bunch of people got kicked out for drugs. Zero tolerance policy for that stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gosh, you know what? I often had a tough time at public school in my local district. It was a hard and challenging experience and many tears were shed.

Knowing this, why do parents send their kids to public school? They seem like they could do a lot of damage.

NP, I had a horrible time at public school ( and my time at boarding school ) but at least at home I had my loving parents close by...
I think a good fit private day school is best if an option.

[Anonymous]

I have an idea: how about we assume everyone is doing what’s best for them, rather than proclaiming what should be done? I went to boarding school and had/still have a loving relationship with my parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an idea: how about we assume everyone is doing what’s best for them, rather than proclaiming what should be done? I went to boarding school and had/still have a loving relationship with my parents.

+10000. Love this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an idea: how about we assume everyone is doing what’s best for them, rather than proclaiming what should be done? I went to boarding school and had/still have a loving relationship with my parents.

This. Spouse went to boarding school a nerdy virgin, graduated boarding school a nerdy virgin, and still ended up close to family.

Go figure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have an idea: how about we assume everyone is doing what’s best for them, rather than proclaiming what should be done? I went to boarding school and had/still have a loving relationship with my parents.

This. Spouse went to boarding school a nerdy virgin, graduated boarding school a nerdy virgin, and still ended up close to family.

Go figure.

Lol same: nerdy virgin who didn't touch drugs all through it. Boarding school was great for me -- I wasn't bullied the way I had been in public school for one thing. On the other hand I have a friend from the same school who attended as a day student; she might have been happier at a different type of school, although a lot of her challenges were related to being a teenager, so I'm not sure. An acquaintance at that school might also have been better off with more parental supervision but since her parents' response to her getting kicked out was to send her to finishing school in Europe, I assume they would have been equally uninvolved if she had been home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an idea: how about we assume everyone is doing what’s best for them, rather than proclaiming what should be done? I went to boarding school and had/still have a loving relationship with my parents.

This. Spouse went to boarding school a nerdy virgin, graduated boarding school a nerdy virgin, and still ended up close to family.

Go figure.

Is that what she told u?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an idea: how about we assume everyone is doing what’s best for them, rather than proclaiming what should be done? I went to boarding school and had/still have a loving relationship with my parents.

This. Spouse went to boarding school a nerdy virgin, graduated boarding school a nerdy virgin, and still ended up close to family.

Go figure.

Is that what she told u?

Not PP, but I think you’ve seen too many movies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At boarding schools, kids are basically on their own - just like another poster said “much like college”. We pulled our kid out and it was sheer hell getting reacclamated to family life. Kids are raising themselves there with zero parental support.

True, but boarding school saved me from family life with 2 alcoholic parents.

[Anonymous]

I think most kids from most families aren't ready to leave home before 18.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gosh, you know what? I often had a tough time at public school in my local district. It was a hard and challenging experience and many tears were shed.

Knowing this, why do parents send their kids to public school? They seem like they could do a lot of damage.

+1. In 8th grade public I figured out smoking, drinking, sex, and pot. I skipped class for most of 8th grade. However, I showed up for exams and turned in assignments on time. Got straight As. I forged my moms signature on my absence notes. My parents had no idea that what I was doing while I was supposed to be at school. I left for school on time and came home when it was expected.

Your parents were clearly uninvolved and clueless.

Welcome to the Gen X experience.

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Yeah, new poster here who loved boarding school after coming from a turbulent family. I consider it why I am who I am today - hugely formative and positive for me. Everyone is different!

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, new poster here who loved boarding school after coming from a turbulent family. I consider it why I am who I am today - hugely formative and positive for me. Everyone is different!

Boarding school was amazing for me with a rocky family situation at home (very loved but both parents at the height of their career success and very busy and a tough relationship with one parent). But here’s the thing: it’s also amazing for my daughter who has an amazing family life, is very loved and supported and we have a very close relationship-we talk and text daily and she’s growing so much and feels so much self confidence from school.

I would never force a child to go to boarding school but I’d also never hold them back. Everyone makes their own choices and gross generalizations are really not helpful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, new poster here who loved boarding school after coming from a turbulent family. I consider it why I am who I am today - hugely formative and positive for me. Everyone is different!

Boarding school was amazing for me with a rocky family situation at home (very loved but both parents at the height of their career success and very busy and a tough relationship with one parent). But here’s the thing: it’s also amazing for my daughter who has an amazing family life, is very loved and supported and we have a very close relationship-we talk and text daily and she’s growing so much and feels so much self confidence from school.

I would never force a child to go to boarding school but I’d also never hold them back. Everyone makes their own choices and gross generalizations are really not helpful.

My daughter is also thriving at boarding school. We talk and text daily as well.

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My friend's daughter returned home from boarding school last year wanting to become a boy. She attends public school at home now (parents moved to better school district) and she still wants to become a boy.