Travel soccer as an abusive relationship

[scrswm]

SDC wrote:This sounds like Loudoun Soccer for sure....

Agreed- it does. We left this year for of many reasons but watching this scenario happen to kids year after year is not fun. There are better cultures out there!

[soccermum79]

scrswm wrote:

SDC wrote:This sounds like Loudoun Soccer for sure....

Agreed- it does. We left this year for of many reasons but watching this scenario happen to kids year after year is not fun. There are better cultures out there!

For sure. We know players who have sadly had similar circumstances. Not cool to jerk kids around. I hope the OP speaks directly to their club to figure out what's going on! Makes zero sense to have players miss out on game opportunities for circumstances beyond their control.

[soccerVA1]

soccermom4608 wrote:For anyone interested in an update, last night we got an email from the purple coach asking our son to practice with purple rather than cyan again this week but no comment on whether DS might even play with purple this weekend. It's pretty clear the purple coach isn't looking to bring our kid up to his team permanently, he's just trying to stack his bench with options without making a commitment. We responded that he would not be able to practice with purple because we felt it was important for him to practice with his actual team, as it wouldn't be fair to cyan to have someone just drop in for games who hasn't practiced with the team, doesn't understand their play style/strategy, etc.

DS is pissed at us because he thinks we tanked his chances to play with purple. Maybe we did, but I cannot condone this behavior by playing along with it. And I legitimately believe what I said to the purple coach - I think DS bailing on practices for what may be a better opportunity at some point at the expense of his current team is really poor character and sportsmanship. If the purple coach wants DS to commit to his team, he needs to put DS on his team officially so everyone can plan accordingly (including cyan) instead of jerking everyone around.

You are way nicer than I would have been to Purple Coach. In the meantime, I would be requesting a partial refund from the club because you weren't able to play in the tournament this weekend.

[Heloise]

SDC wrote:This sounds like Loudoun Soccer for sure....

Could also be Arlington. Apparently they overrostered a bunch of their higher level teams to keep kids from leaving during last spring’s exodus by offering spots on higher level teams than they might otherwise be placed. Now that they have the kids all locked in, they are figuring out who they actually want on those teams and demoting the rest. Could explain why the “purple” coach thought he had a spot for OP’s kid but then had to retract it because he had someone pushed down from above into the spot.

[drewster711]

A lot of travel programs are bad in this area. I promote finding a quality coach and program in your local community and staying with it for as long as possible. If your player shows motivation like dribbling and shooting of their own and is dominating the local intermediate level teams that move to only top teams in clubs where he fits in the starting lineup. Lower-level teams unless in the high school age groups are there to assist the top teams in fulfilling required spots in leagues and there is a lot of unnecessary travel for competition that might be better in the town next door.