No upper class housing..when to look for apts/houses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you really need to loosen the apron strings. Your kid will figure all of this out on their own while on the ground. Mommy doesn’t have to be involved.

Try being polite.

School starts Aug 30 for many places, and 5-8 weeks later freshman are expected to find a place to live for next year? As in find who they want to live with and which are the decent apartment complexes/landlord? I can assure you my two oldest did not know who they wanted to live with sophomore year after only 1 month of freshman year. That is a lot of pressure on freshman. Makes me extremely glad my kids have all attended schools with 2 year live on campus requirement. It's bad enough when they start looking 1 week back in sophomore year

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty much. My kids go to UVA where there is plenty of on grounds housing but many second years decide to get apartments. Mine did and had signed leases by Nov 1st. Things started moving on and off the market super fast once Oct 1st hit.

How do kids have strong enough friendships in Oct of first year to commit to living with each other the following year? When I started college (many moons ago), the friendshios made in the first few weeks tended to be friendships of convenience, and then later in the semester “real” friendshios emerged which sometimes included thise first friends but often did not.

This^^^ Sophomore year could be a really miserable experience for some people or they will be stuck finding submitters for their original place and then finding another place to live

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty much. My kids go to UVA where there is plenty of on grounds housing but many second years decide to get apartments. Mine did and had signed leases by Nov 1st. Things started moving on and off the market super fast once Oct 1st hit.

How do kids have strong enough friendships in Oct of first year to commit to living with each other the following year? When I started college (many moons ago), the friendshios made in the first few weeks tended to be friendships of convenience, and then later in the semester “real” friendshios emerged which sometimes included thise first friends but often did not.

They don’t and many times sophomore year rooming situations are messy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you really need to loosen the apron strings. Your kid will figure all of this out on their own while on the ground. Mommy doesn’t have to be involved.

You are wrong about that. Mommy HAS to be involved. I should not have to explain to you or anyone else why!

It’s weird.

[Anonymous]

My DD signed a lease for the 23 24 school year last weekend. A relief to know it is covered. It is a huge issue at her school. Kids camp out to be on line to sign at popular spots. Waiting would be a bad idea as lots of landlords are crummy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you really need to loosen the apron strings. Your kid will figure all of this out on their own while on the ground. Mommy doesn’t have to be involved.

You are wrong about that. Mommy HAS to be involved. I should not have to explain to you or anyone else why!

It’s weird.

Please explain why? I’ll wait!

[Anonymous]

kids will et antsy and will want to sign a lease SOOOO early. some kids won't even like the kids they sign u with come the end of the year, so i think it is better to wait. if kid HAS to have a spot at a certain new place or high demand place, then they may want to sign early, but it is NOT necessary if they are ok with several housing options.

kids are crazy on this topic!

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP and other posters, but this is just so over the top. You don't have to rescue your children once they start college. Thousands of college students at these schools manage to find places to live without mommy's help. It's called growing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP and other posters, but this is just so over the top. You don't have to rescue your children once they start college. Thousands of college students at these schools manage to find places to live without mommy's help. It's called growing up.

You are so wrong and have zero idea what you are talking about.

[Anonymous]

In mid-August, my sophomore and several friends applied (as did all of their parents - we have to co-sign) for an off campus apartment for 23-24. They have been approved and the lease has been signed. This is at an urban OOS Flagship.

The early bird gets the worm. Our children got this place because one of them is friends with the seniors currently in the house. It is a great location, and a great place to live. They are happy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP and other posters, but this is just so over the top. You don't have to rescue your children once they start college. Thousands of college students at these schools manage to find places to live without mommy's help. It's called growing up.

You are so wrong and have zero idea what you are talking about.

I've sent four kids to college and I know exactly what I'm talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP and other posters, but this is just so over the top. You don't have to rescue your children once they start college. Thousands of college students at these schools manage to find places to live without mommy's help. It's called growing up.

You idiot. No one is talking about rescuing adults, but as most places require a guarantor and MOMMY IS OAYING. Mommy absolutely gets a say and has a right to get involved!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD signed a lease for the 23 24 school year last weekend. A relief to know it is covered. It is a huge issue at her school. Kids camp out to be on line to sign at popular spots. Waiting would be a bad idea as lots of landlords are crummy.

How the heck does a Freshman find who to live with next year at the end of August? I understand the rush to sign a lease. It just sucks that this is done to freshman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In mid-August, my sophomore and several friends applied (as did all of their parents - we have to co-sign) for an off campus apartment for 23-24. They have been approved and the lease has been signed. This is at an urban OOS Flagship.

The early bird gets the worm. Our children got this place because one of them is friends with the seniors currently in the house. It is a great location, and a great place to live. They are happy

Doing that soph year is fine...still crazy and a bit early but my own kids did that (after being required to live on campus first 2 years). So basically my kid signed a lease for junior year about 1 week after being a sophomore. Good thing their core group of friends were roommates and floor mates from freshman year, so they had a great group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty much. My kids go to UVA where there is plenty of on grounds housing but many second years decide to get apartments. Mine did and had signed leases by Nov 1st. Things started moving on and off the market super fast once Oct 1st hit.

How do kids have strong enough friendships in Oct of first year to commit to living with each other the following year? When I started college (many moons ago), the friendshios made in the first few weeks tended to be friendships of convenience, and then later in the semester “real” friendshios emerged which sometimes included thise first friends but often did not.

This^^^ Sophomore year could be a really miserable experience for some people or they will be stuck finding submitters for their original place and then finding another place to live

This is why one of the reasons I want my introverted DS to choose a school with guaranteed housing at least thru sophomore year. I feel like the situation with having to secure sophomore housing in Oct of freshman year would not be good for him. It is one of the reasons I’m not pushing him to consider Tech although academically it might be a good fit. I know some people here want to call anything coddling but kids are developmentally/socially at different places and I think it’s an important consideration.