FTM daycare tour... should I stay away?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our day care didn’t even have swings or bouncers.

This is the correct answer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Watching a baby sleep in a bouncer or swing doesn’t prevent the baby from stopping breathing. This is a HARD no. And probably report them to licensing. I definitely let my daughter sleep in swings when I was an exhausted new mom. I also slept while holding her. I expected daycare to only lay her down to sleep on safe sleep surfaces.

It won't prevent the baby from not breathing momentarily, but a fast acting caregiver can prevent the child from dying. A child doesn't die the very second they can't breath. Not a game I'd want played at daycare, though.

Good plan to keep looking, OP.

This.

[Anonymous]

Our daycare only had babies sleep in the crib, on their back. No blankets allowed, we send a sleepsac. This is what I would want followed at a daycare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trust your gut.

FWIW, I would not trust a daycare that allowed babies to sleep in swings or bouncers.

Same.

Oh please- during Covid all those little rules were ignored and your kids were sleeping anywhere they pleased. I hate sanctimommies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust your gut.

FWIW, I would not trust a daycare that allowed babies to sleep in swings or bouncers.

+1 I did this at home BUT I was watching baby for the whole nap. I wouldn't trust a day are to do the same because they have other babies to tend to and the ones who are awake will need attention.

I say this as someone who loves the daycare my kids go to, so I'm not anti-daycare or anything. But trust your gut - it seems like they are casual about something that is a SIDS risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trust your gut.

FWIW, I would not trust a daycare that allowed babies to sleep in swings or bouncers.

Same.

Oh please- during Covid all those little rules were ignored and your kids were sleeping anywhere they pleased. I hate sanctimommies.

Licensing and accrediting agencies in every state are pretty serious about implementing safe sleep policies. Firm mattress, one sheet, sleep sack. Maybe a blanket for older kids. Do these policies get violated? Sure, all the time. I saw it repeatedly when I toured day cares. But reputable centers with trained staff will not violate these rules.

The larger issue is that a lot of babies (mine included) just don’t sleep well in a room with 8-10 other babies plus caregivers with bright lights, crying, and a crib/sleep environment that’s not quiet, familiar, and cozy. For our oldest we accepted that she just would not sleep at daycare and would just get these tiny 15-20 min cat naps of exhaustion a few times each day. It was painful and she was incredibly exhausted but the daycare environment was stressful and we just accepted it and moved to a home day care that was slightly better when we could. For our younger son, we hired a nanny and he naps well in his own crib at home. It’s not popular to say this but being honest, a lot of Infants don’t sleep at daycare.

[Anonymous]

In Maryland it’s against licensing regulations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust your gut.

FWIW, I would not trust a daycare that allowed babies to sleep in swings or bouncers.

This. Children who die in daycares are in unsafe sleep environments, it’s easily researched.

To the moron saying these rules were relaxed in COVID I wonder how you think a virus affects video cameras.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't tour any daycares that had bouncers.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In Maryland it’s against licensing regulations.

In my state too-I'm some distance away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There should be NO swings or bouncers in daycares. Period.

These contraptions are creating container baby syndrome. They delay healthy development.

"Container baby syndrome"? You totally made that up. Plus, millions of Gen xers are from the swing blinder generation and are now leading the world. Your post is totally unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Trust your gut.

FWIW, I would not trust a daycare that allowed babies to sleep in swings or bouncers.

Same.

Oh please- during Covid all those little rules were ignored and your kids were sleeping anywhere they pleased. I hate sanctimommies.

Lol what? They were not ignored by licensed daycares. Not sure what covid has to do with that.

[Anonymous]

It's probably a bad sign. In itself, don't think it's some horrible thing - I let my sons nap in a rock n play when I was awake - but to me it would be a red flag that they don't seem to know/care about the SIDS recommendations. Most daycares don't have swings/bouncers anymore at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There should be NO swings or bouncers in daycares. Period.

These contraptions are creating container baby syndrome. They delay healthy development.

"Container baby syndrome"? You totally made that up. Plus, millions of Gen xers are from the swing blinder generation and are now leading the world. Your post is totally unhinged.

Nope, this is a thing. Plagiocephaly (flat head) is a huge issue with babies kept in containers too long. My friend who mothers by keeping her babies constantly in swings and car seats had this with all her kids. Spent a fortune on helmets when she just needed to get them out of their container.

[Anonymous]

No issue with bouncers being used, but definitely not for sleep.

I know some people are more relaxed about sleep rules but I’ll just say licensing rules matter and the daycare policies should always be stringent about them. It’s totally one thing for a mom to make informed choices while at home with her baby; it’s not okay for a daycare to do this.

They’re openly violating the regulations and it’s probably the tip of the iceberg.