Is it rude to sit with your back to someone?

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sends a pretty clear message about what they think about you and your role in this group.

Yeah. Agree.

For the record, I’m a Black woman, and they are both white women. (One is young; one is about the same age as me.)

[OP]

They don't think you're going to add much or say anything meaningful so they are angling towards more high value people. Is this a work situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends on the room set up and what is going on.

This. Do the chairs or desks adjust easily? Would turning it leave them out of the discussion? Was someone else blocking their view? It’s pretty hard to figure out all the variables without seeing the set up.

Both situations were very casual discussions.

During one discussion, the chairs were on wheels and easily maneuverable. In the other situation, the person was leaning against my desk (with her back to me).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sends a pretty clear message about what they think about you and your role in this group.

Yeah. Agree.

For the record, I’m a Black woman, and they are both white women. (One is young; one is about the same age as me.)

[OP]

They don't think you're going to add much or say anything meaningful so they are angling towards more high value people. Is this a work situation?

More high value people?

Barf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sends a pretty clear message about what they think about you and your role in this group.

Yeah. Agree.

For the record, I’m a Black woman, and they are both white women. (One is young; one is about the same age as me.)

[OP]

They don't think you're going to add much or say anything meaningful so they are angling towards more high value people. Is this a work situation?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sends a pretty clear message about what they think about you and your role in this group.

Yeah. Agree.

For the record, I’m a Black woman, and they are both white women. (One is young; one is about the same age as me.)

[OP]

Yeah, and I’m sure you’re telling everything truthfully and as it happened. Suuuurrreee!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sends a pretty clear message about what they think about you and your role in this group.

Yeah. Agree.

For the record, I’m a Black woman, and they are both white women. (One is young; one is about the same age as me.)

[OP]

They don't think you're going to add much or say anything meaningful so they are angling towards more high value people. Is this a work situation?

More high value people?

Barf.

Well, yeah. If the boss is in the room people probably turn their chairs to better see or hear and don't really care if Linda from Accounts Payable gets boxed out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sends a pretty clear message about what they think about you and your role in this group.

Yeah. Agree.

For the record, I’m a Black woman, and they are both white women. (One is young; one is about the same age as me.)

[OP]

They don't think you're going to add much or say anything meaningful so they are angling towards more high value people. Is this a work situation?

More high value people?

Barf.

Well, yeah. If the boss is in the room people probably turn their chairs to better see or hear and don't really care if Linda from Accounts Payable gets boxed out.

The boss wasn’t around. Even still, I’d think it would still be rude. I dunno.

[OP]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sends a pretty clear message about what they think about you and your role in this group.

Yeah. Agree.

For the record, I’m a Black woman, and they are both white women. (One is young; one is about the same age as me.)

[OP]

They don't think you're going to add much or say anything meaningful so they are angling towards more high value people. Is this a work situation?

More high value people?

Barf.

Well, yeah. If the boss is in the room people probably turn their chairs to better see or hear and don't really care if Linda from Accounts Payable gets boxed out.

The boss wasn’t around. Even still, I’d think it would still be rude. I dunno.

[OP]


Well, yeah, it's rude. But who else was in the room and what else was going on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, yeah, it's rude. But who else was in the room and what else was going on?

Picture a small group having a very casual, non-work-related convo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, yeah, it's rude. But who else was in the room and what else was going on?

Picture a small group having a very casual, non-work-related convo.

How well do you know them to begin with? Were they already in conversation and you walked in, and they stayed where they were instead of inviting you in? Was it in a break room type space during a break?

[Anonymous]

Yes it's rude, it's called giving someone the cold shoulder, literally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sends a pretty clear message about what they think about you and your role in this group.

Yeah. Agree.

For the record, I’m a Black woman, and they are both white women. (One is young; one is about the same age as me.)

[OP]

I’m white and I think African Americans often have better manners and are more conscious of such things like body language, selling hello to people you pass in the hall way, giving your chair to old people. This is especially true when compared to white people
reared in the north (I was raised in both the north and the south)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sends a pretty clear message about what they think about you and your role in this group.

Yeah. Agree.

For the record, I’m a Black woman, and they are both white women. (One is young; one is about the same age as me.)

[OP]

I’m white and I think African Americans often have better manners and are more conscious of such things like body language, selling hello to people you pass in the hall way, giving your chair to old people. This is especially true when compared to white people
reared in the north (I was raised in both the north and the south)

+2

I’m biracial (Latina and white) and grew up in DC. All of my teachers and 90% of my classmates growing up were black. Black people are SO much more conscious of respect, tone, formalities, and proper behavior. So much is communicated nonverbally, too. Living in white majority places since makes me distinctly uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sends a pretty clear message about what they think about you and your role in this group.

Yeah. Agree.

For the record, I’m a Black woman, and they are both white women. (One is young; one is about the same age as me.)

[OP]

They don't think you're going to add much or say anything meaningful so they are angling towards more high value people. Is this a work situation?

More high value people?

Barf.

Well, yeah. If the boss is in the room people probably turn their chairs to better see or hear and don't really care if Linda from Accounts Payable gets boxed out.

Why is it always Linda who gets shafted? It's really rude