Did anyone else’s kid get a great fall schedule?

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Anonymous wrote:Online classes wouldn't make my list of qualities for a great college schedule.

Why not?

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.

Wow - I'm not going to lie, that's pretty crazy. If it works for you, fine, but I really really cannot imagine tracking my college kid with enough detail to know if he gets out of class early. That's a lot of watching. My DS texts usually every day and he often tells me where he is going - walking to class, mom, but I don't know that level of detail. I also pay for my kid to go to college but he is responsible and doing well - I want him to be independent and have no need for that type of oversight.

I call it monitoring my investment.

I call it crazy and borderline stalking.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.

Wow - I'm not going to lie, that's pretty crazy. If it works for you, fine, but I really really cannot imagine tracking my college kid with enough detail to know if he gets out of class early. That's a lot of watching. My DS texts usually every day and he often tells me where he is going - walking to class, mom, but I don't know that level of detail. I also pay for my kid to go to college but he is responsible and doing well - I want him to be independent and have no need for that type of oversight.

I call it monitoring my investment.

I call it crazy and borderline stalking.

I agree. That is straight up psycho. Not to mention you are incentivizing him to lie and sneak around. My child had a friend whose parents were like you and he used to engage in elaborate ruses involving sending his phone off with his friends to places they thought he would be so he could do what he wanted to do. I bet he is counting the days until graduation so he can move far away and distance himself from you.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.

Wow - I'm not going to lie, that's pretty crazy. If it works for you, fine, but I really really cannot imagine tracking my college kid with enough detail to know if he gets out of class early. That's a lot of watching. My DS texts usually every day and he often tells me where he is going - walking to class, mom, but I don't know that level of detail. I also pay for my kid to go to college but he is responsible and doing well - I want him to be independent and have no need for that type of oversight.

I call it monitoring my investment.

I call it crazy and borderline stalking.

I agree. That is straight up psycho. Not to mention you are incentivizing him to lie and sneak around. My child had a friend whose parents were like you and he used to engage in elaborate ruses involving sending his phone off with his friends to places they thought he would be so he could do what he wanted to do. I bet he is counting the days until graduation so he can move far away and distance himself from you.

No more Psycho than the parents here who “won’t let their adult child go to college” in certain states because of that state’s politics. Their claim was it was their right as they were paying. PP can do that they want when it is their money. Their dollars, their rules!

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.

Wow - I'm not going to lie, that's pretty crazy. If it works for you, fine, but I really really cannot imagine tracking my college kid with enough detail to know if he gets out of class early. That's a lot of watching. My DS texts usually every day and he often tells me where he is going - walking to class, mom, but I don't know that level of detail. I also pay for my kid to go to college but he is responsible and doing well - I want him to be independent and have no need for that type of oversight.

oh yes, my DD told me about a similar mom of one of her friends, and he would just leave his phone in his dorm room or have someone bring it somewhere he was supposed to do. Once he had someone take it to church just for giggles. It's over the top monitoring and totally innappropriate for a college student. Elementary school maybe.
I call it monitoring my investment.

I call it crazy and borderline stalking.

I agree. That is straight up psycho. Not to mention you are incentivizing him to lie and sneak around. My child had a friend whose parents were like you and he used to engage in elaborate ruses involving sending his phone off with his friends to places they thought he would be so he could do what he wanted to do. I bet he is counting the days until graduation so he can move far away and distance himself from you.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.

Wow - I'm not going to lie, that's pretty crazy. If it works for you, fine, but I really really cannot imagine tracking my college kid with enough detail to know if he gets out of class early. That's a lot of watching. My DS texts usually every day and he often tells me where he is going - walking to class, mom, but I don't know that level of detail. I also pay for my kid to go to college but he is responsible and doing well - I want him to be independent and have no need for that type of oversight.

My DD has a friend last year whose mother was like this, tracked his every move. He routinely left his phone in his room when he went to do stuff, or have his friends take it to class. Once he even had a friend take it to church just for giggles (he does not attend church).



oh yes, my DD told me about a similar mom of one of her friends, and he would just leave his phone in his dorm room or have someone bring it somewhere he was supposed to do. Once he had someone take it to church just for giggles. It's over the top monitoring and totally innappropriate for a college student. Elementary school maybe.
I call it monitoring my investment.

I call it crazy and borderline stalking.

I agree. That is straight up psycho. Not to mention you are incentivizing him to lie and sneak around. My child had a friend whose parents were like you and he used to engage in elaborate ruses involving sending his phone off with his friends to places they thought he would be so he could do what he wanted to do. I bet he is counting the days until graduation so he can move far away and distance himself from you.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

It’s comments like these that make me realize DCUM is full of a bunch of miserable, miserable people. Nothing in OP’s message indicated s/he had anything to do with creating this schedule — rather, the child told him/her about it because, well, it’s kind of cool to have a 3-day weekend every week in college. My own son was excited about his schedule (he also has a recurring 3-day weekend) and called me at work to tell me about it. I had nothing to do with his schedule, but he thought it was neat enough to tell me. Jeez, people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

Did text and Facetime exist when you were in college?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.

What do you do if he stays the night with a girl? Or does he need to go put his phone in his room and have his roommate cover texts for the night.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.

Your poor child. This is not about finances (which you seem unable to decouple from parenting). It is about mental health. Learning independence. Feeling trusted.

You really need therapy. And of course your child will for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.

Wow - I'm not going to lie, that's pretty crazy. If it works for you, fine, but I really really cannot imagine tracking my college kid with enough detail to know if he gets out of class early. That's a lot of watching. My DS texts usually every day and he often tells me where he is going - walking to class, mom, but I don't know that level of detail. I also pay for my kid to go to college but he is responsible and doing well - I want him to be independent and have no need for that type of oversight.

I call it monitoring my investment.

I call it crazy and borderline stalking.

I agree. That is straight up psycho. Not to mention you are incentivizing him to lie and sneak around. My child had a friend whose parents were like you and he used to engage in elaborate ruses involving sending his phone off with his friends to places they thought he would be so he could do what he wanted to do. I bet he is counting the days until graduation so he can move far away and distance himself from you.

No more Psycho than the parents here who “won’t let their adult child go to college” in certain states because of that state’s politics. Their claim was it was their right as they were paying. PP can do that they want when it is their money. Their dollars, their rules!

Nope, way more psycho. And just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. I mean I could tie a bell around my teenager’s neck I suppose to make sure he can’t sneak out of the house at night but that doesn’t make it a good idea.

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Anonymous wrote:Last spring, my now sophomore was able to curate a schedule which allowed her Fridays off. Her first classes were Wednesday. At her Thursday class, the professor announced it would be hybrid and only meet in person on Tuesdays. So with two online classes (to satisfy the core requirements), my kid only has to be on campus three days a week. Being four hours away, I asked if she would visit for long weekends, but I didn’t get an answer. I didn’t expect to, but I can have wishful thinking.

Anyone else’s kid get a sweet schedule?

I know it's just me but I hate the new use of the word "curate". "Amazon curators". It means nothing. Your kid "created" "scheduled" "designed" "requested" etc a schedule that they liked. They didn't "curate" it like an artist. OK done with the complaining

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.

What do you do if he stays the night with a girl? Or does he need to go put his phone in his room and have his roommate cover texts for the night.

We installed a ring doorbell camera on the front and back door of his apartment. We know who comes and goes and when.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

Did text and Facetime exist when you were in college?

Why would that have mattered? Texting existed, but not FaceTime. I probably told my parents what classes I was taking, but I don’t remember ever telling them my entire schedule.

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Anonymous wrote:I seriously don’t think my parents ever knew my class schedule. Land the helicopter.

We are paying for the college he was allowed to attend. He certainly was not permitted to apply for a college in a state we didn’t approve of. We pay for tuition, food and a room. We pay for his car and insurance and his phone. We have the paid version of Life360 on all our phones.

We know his schedule and have places set for every building he has classes and the Dining hall plus every bar and his fraternity.

If he skips class, we would know. If he is late, we would know. He texts us if a professor lets them out early as we would see him leaving the building outside of class hours. When he starts paying, we will not be watching.

Please tell me this is a troll post. It has to be, right?

I'm just going to keep telling myself it is, but on this site, you can never be too sure. I had to Google Life360.