Is this really “normal” parenting?

[Anonymous]

She is mentally ill,
Of course its mot normal!

[Anonymous]

It's not functional parenting, but I don't think it proves whatever point KFed was trying to make by releasing it.

I mean, she clearly loves the boys and she is not really well. It was probably for the best that he mostly raised them, and I don't know what he's trying to accomplish now releasing the videos. She's not getting the teens back ever so what is the point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: It's not functional parenting, but I don't think it proves whatever point KFed was trying to make by releasing it.

I mean, she clearly loves the boys and she is not really well. It was probably for the best that he mostly raised them, and I don't know what he's trying to accomplish now releasing the videos. She's not getting the teens back ever so what is the point?

He just wants the gravy train to keep coming, he's worried the cash flow will go away soon now that she's remarried and is doing everything in his power to retain full custody of the kids and keep the $$$$$$$ coming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She had her first baby at 24 and never went to high school or college. For the uneducated it is.

I can’t even say it’s a ‘lower’ class thing because Britney is richer than 99% of Americans.

Britney is low class, no matter how much money she's worth. I think she'd probably even be ok with calling herself that if you phrased it as "country."

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

No not normal. But I’ve always felt that when I see a parent acting this way, it’s due to the way they were failed as children, to a lack of resources (not money, I mean emotional resources as well as external supports and community). I don’t necessarily feel sorry for the parents (I save that for the kids) but I don’t just write them off either, the way I would with physical abuse.

I’ve worked with families in shelters and have encountered parenting like this in that environment. There, it always reads as fear to me. That super authoritarian parenting kicks in when the parent is scared— of losing them, or scared for them, or just scared of how bad things can get. Obviously Britney wasn’t living in a shelter when these videos were made, but she was in a terrible place, emotionally. It should not surprise anyone that this got passed down to her kids. Inter generational trauma is very common.

[Anonymous]

She clearly has borderline personality disorder (for starters). No, her parenting isn’t normal, and it’s abusive.

[Anonymous]

I haven't seen the video you are writing about but this is pretty much par for the course for the white parents at my Title 1 school. In fact, it took me a while to realize that most students didn't recognize the evil eye when I looked at them that way. Their parents just start screaming at them so the low level evil eye is not something they have ever seen. I had to explain it to them. Their parents will start screaming at them right in front of teachers and other staff. They might tone down the swearing around teachers but that's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m referring to the Britney Spears videos. I hope this doesn’t get deleted or reposted to entertainment because my issue really isn’t with her per se but the many people coming out of the woodwork to say that they see nothing wrong with her parenting in these videos

In the videos you see her yelling at her 11 and 12 year olds over extremely minor issues (not wearing shoes in a store in one, not putting lotion on their faces in another), cursing them out, telling them to “get the f&ck out of here” and using f&ck every other word, waking them up in the middle of the night to berate them and commanding them to respect her. It’s very authoritarian - you will do as I say because I am in charge.

Look, I’m not saying she should lose custody over this (I think instead she could have benefitted from taking some parenting classes) but do people really see this as normal? Is this how people are commonly treating their kids these days?

It’s weird to me because every other irl and online parenting group I’ve ever been involved with (including to some extent DCUM) is all about child centric parenting and gentle parenting. To the extent that yelling at your kids is seen as truly abusive, never mind spanking or hitting.

Ftr, I like Britney and understand the desire to defend her against the many people who have taken advantage of her. I think her ex’s decision to post the videos was an absolutely appalling violation of her privacy and harmful to their sons. But, that aside, the parenting in the videos is just not good and it surprises me that people have been defending the actual content of the videos.

What do you think?

Can't believe you're even wondering if this is normal.

[Anonymous]

Her parenting style is exactly the same as my redneck cousins.

It's not bad, per se, it's just not up to our northern standards (or most of society's).

It's a learned behavior. Her parents probably parented this way and her kids will probably parent the same way.

You can take the girl out of Louisiana but you can't take the Louisiana out the girl... and all that.

[Anonymous]

I watched a clip and it honestly wasn’t that bad. Why would a teenager go barefoot in a store? It’s not appropriate. No shirt, no shoes = no entry. Britney is absolutely right. And she is trying to teach the boys to be nice to women. I’m sure they were being rude. She only sees them 1-2 times a week and they probably don’t respect her when they come to her house. I feel bad this is all on public display. Shame on Kevin.

[Anonymous]

I’m genuinely curious how folks saying this is inappropriate would have handled these situations?

[Anonymous]

It's what my family calls country trash parenting. For one branch of my family is very normal. Also normal to have children in your teens for that side of the fam

[Anonymous]

OP I don't think it's good parenting. And to answer your original question, which many commenters have overlooked, I also think it's odd that people are coming to her defense and responding to these clips via tik-tok by saying how "she's just doing her best" "she's acting like a normal mom raising boy teenagers"

My parents never spoke to me in that way and I would never speak to my kids that way either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen the video you are writing about but this is pretty much par for the course for the white parents at my Title 1 school. In fact, it took me a while to realize that most students didn't recognize the evil eye when I looked at them that way. Their parents just start screaming at them so the low level evil eye is not something they have ever seen. I had to explain it to them. Their parents will start screaming at them right in front of teachers and other staff. They might tone down the swearing around teachers but that's it.

What is this evil eye? My Turkish family is very familiar with evil eyes but this is different...

[Anonymous]

The video where she went into her son's room was weird and over the top-- totally intrusive and controlling.

The shoes thing (I didn't watch all of that one) was less weird, but too angry and berating.

I have a DS15-- I work very hard to be constructive and calm (I'm mostly, but not always, successful).

I think she was set up by Kevin-- the boys' responses are way too mature for anything but theater. If I went into my son's room and acted like that, he would hit the roof + he would have talked back about the shoes/store...the only kid who wouldn't is physically terrified, and I don't get the impression that she beats them.

Kevin def asked these boys to film "mom at her worst" for insurance in case she stops wanting to give him all that money.