Vaginismus effect or relationships

[Anonymous]

A series of what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A series of what?

Sorry.

A series of plastic tubes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My GF is a 40 year old virgin. She has this condition. I've been taking it slow and she's been appreciative and getting a bit better. I'm pretty sure there's a major mental component to the condition. She'd never had an O until she met me, never gave a man an O until she met me (although she'd watched a man give himself one), she's very uncomfortable talking about sex, and she'd never spent time undressed with any man other than me. She actually does have a very athletic looking body and she is very sexual, and she enjoys sexual activity a lot, up to a point, so I figured I should be patient.

Unfortunately, she recently said that she thinks she can be very happy in her life if she never has intercourse with anyone and she doesn't understand why men think that intercourse is a big deal.

I'm a patient and understanding man but I don't think I'll be happy if I never have intercourse again.

I don’t understand what this has to do with anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My GF is a 40 year old virgin. She has this condition. I've been taking it slow and she's been appreciative and getting a bit better. I'm pretty sure there's a major mental component to the condition. She'd never had an O until she met me, never gave a man an O until she met me (although she'd watched a man give himself one), she's very uncomfortable talking about sex, and she'd never spent time undressed with any man other than me. She actually does have a very athletic looking body and she is very sexual, and she enjoys sexual activity a lot, up to a point, so I figured I should be patient.

Unfortunately, she recently said that she thinks she can be very happy in her life if she never has intercourse with anyone and she doesn't understand why men think that intercourse is a big deal.

I'm a patient and understanding man but I don't think I'll be happy if I never have intercourse again.

I don’t understand what this has to do with anything.

DP.. I assume no hangups with her body.

[Anonymous]

I did during pregnancy, and after birth it just went away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My GF is a 40 year old virgin. She has this condition. I've been taking it slow and she's been appreciative and getting a bit better. I'm pretty sure there's a major mental component to the condition. She'd never had an O until she met me, never gave a man an O until she met me (although she'd watched a man give himself one), she's very uncomfortable talking about sex, and she'd never spent time undressed with any man other than me. She actually does have a very athletic looking body and she is very sexual, and she enjoys sexual activity a lot, up to a point, so I figured I should be patient.

Unfortunately, she recently said that she thinks she can be very happy in her life if she never has intercourse with anyone and she doesn't understand why men think that intercourse is a big deal.

I'm a patient and understanding man but I don't think I'll be happy if I never have intercourse again.

I don’t understand what this has to do with anything.

Some people who are not athletic looking are very uncomfortable being undressed in front of other people.

Also, some people tend to find athletic bodies more attractive than unathletic bodies.

Go figure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My GF is a 40 year old virgin. She has this condition. I've been taking it slow and she's been appreciative and getting a bit better. I'm pretty sure there's a major mental component to the condition. She'd never had an O until she met me, never gave a man an O until she met me (although she'd watched a man give himself one), she's very uncomfortable talking about sex, and she'd never spent time undressed with any man other than me. She actually does have a very athletic looking body and she is very sexual, and she enjoys sexual activity a lot, up to a point, so I figured I should be patient.

Unfortunately, she recently said that she thinks she can be very happy in her life if she never has intercourse with anyone and she doesn't understand why men think that intercourse is a big deal.

I'm a patient and understanding man but I don't think I'll be happy if I never have intercourse again.

You are such a sweetie. I had this condition and my husband was also very patient. Online I bought a kit and you slowly introduce different sizes in your body.. it helped tremendously.. and we are now married with 2 kids. I would suggest googling the kit..

[Anonymous]

I have one of those kits, and I use it in bed when DH is there. It always leads to him getting turned on. So, he takes care of me in other ways, and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in my 60s and have this condition. It definitely delayed my sexual experiences. I had a couple failed attempts in my very early 20s. It was before the Internet and I didn't understand what was happening and was too afraid to ask my doctor. The young men I were seeing were nice enough about it but the relationships quickly fizzled out. After that I didn't date much, cutting relationships off after a few dates so I didn't disappoint anyone or take up too much of their time.

In my mid 20s I met an experienced, amazing man who thought I was lovely and worth the trouble. He encouraged me to see my physician who gave me a series of tu to practice with. My boyfriend was patient and part of the process.

Almost 40 years later, we have an amazing relationship and beautiful adult kids.

pretty much my experience as well, just one attempt in college with someone from my social group, it became awkward after that and nothing came out of it, then didn’t find anyone worth trying it again for couple of years until I met my dh … took tons of understanding and I’m happy he didn’t think much of it and we made it work

[Anonymous]

there’s one Japanese movie or series on netflix around the theme, My wife won’t fit or something like that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:there’s one Japanese movie or series on netflix around the theme, My wife won’t fit or something like that

It is also mentioned in Unorthodox, the Netflix miniseries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A series of what?

Sorry.

A series of plastic tubes.

no need for those, use fingers, his, start with one, then two and if ready and enough lubricator then go for it but slowly one inch at the time, in-and-out without full penetration from the beginning

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A series of what?

Sorry.

A series of plastic tubes.

no need for those, use fingers, his, start with one, then two and if ready and enough lubricator then go for it but slowly one inch at the time, in-and-out without full penetration from the beginning

The tubes have the advantage of being in the woman’s control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My GF is a 40 year old virgin. She has this condition. I've been taking it slow and she's been appreciative and getting a bit better. I'm pretty sure there's a major mental component to the condition. She'd never had an O until she met me, never gave a man an O until she met me (although she'd watched a man give himself one), she's very uncomfortable talking about sex, and she'd never spent time undressed with any man other than me. She actually does have a very athletic looking body and she is very sexual, and she enjoys sexual activity a lot, up to a point, so I figured I should be patient.

Unfortunately, she recently said that she thinks she can be very happy in her life if she never has intercourse with anyone and she doesn't understand why men think that intercourse is a big deal.

I'm a patient and understanding man but I don't think I'll be happy if I never have intercourse again.

I don’t understand what this has to do with anything.

DP.. I assume no hangups with her body.

Another DP. I assumed the same.

People should not just jump to always being offended. It is getting ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Does the condition return after you use the tubes?