Changes in toddler after weaning?

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Anonymous wrote:I can't remember where I heard this, but someone once told me: You either wean your child before 18 months, or when they tell you they're done nursing.

OP you need to be fully committed to doing this, or you're going to fail. The incessant whining, grabbing, crying etc is hard to tolerate, and if you give in once, you've basically taught them to cry until you give in again.

This. Sorry OP, but if you’re still breastfeeding now I don’t see you being the kind of mom who can say no.

Also, your child is likely lower weight because of the nursing instead of eating, which is very selfish of you. If you care about your child’s health you wean ASAP.

Why do people post complete bull$hit like this?

Because it’s true. A woman who has an underweight toddler because his primary source of nutrition is breastmilk, is not going to successfully wean for quite some time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't remember where I heard this, but someone once told me: You either wean your child before 18 months, or when they tell you they're done nursing.

OP you need to be fully committed to doing this, or you're going to fail. The incessant whining, grabbing, crying etc is hard to tolerate, and if you give in once, you've basically taught them to cry until you give in again.

This. Sorry OP, but if you’re still breastfeeding now I don’t see you being the kind of mom who can say no.

Also, your child is likely lower weight because of the nursing instead of eating, which is very selfish of you. If you care about your child’s health you wean ASAP.

This is total BS. Child is probably at a higher weight than they would have been without BF. Wean if you want to but it is also not selfish not to. A middle ground is to set some time limits around breastfeeding like not doing it at 5am, not doing it before dinner etc. Those limits are reasonable first steps for weaning.

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We don’t do grabbing or whining before weaning why would we do it afterward? First step to weaning is boundaries around nursing. In our house at 18M it went to wakeup, weekend nap, and bedtime. At 22M we dropped nap— her dad put her to bed for two weekends of naps and she didn’t seek it out again. Bedtime went to 10min, followed by 10min of cuddle. Then 5min followed by 10min of cuddle than 2min followed by 10min cuddle. Then one day you just cuddle. Wake up was the last one to end because DH and I were using it as a snooze button, but it started going wake-up/potty/nurse instead of wake up/nurse/potty and then she got distracted by other things after nursing and, again, stopped seeking it out. She was fully weaned at two and no dramatic change other than I miss my 15 minutes of sleep in the morning…

People who act like it’s a huge deal haven’t actually nursed/weaned a toddler they just want an excuse to shame you. Ignore it.

Lol, I've weaned 3 toddlers. The several of us that say it's a challenge know of which we speak.

Or did you gather from your experience with your one child that you know better than all of us? And you managed to deny us our experience in the process.