Cancelled gap year

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any parent that allows their child to convince them a gap year is in their best interest is the problem. Not the kid, the parent. A gap year? for what purpose? Oh the stress of life they need a year off before they take on this next challenge. Grow a pair, tell your kid to buckle up and get some control of their poor decision making.

Now you are wondering what to do when the gap year is cancelled? How about get a job? That is usually a solid option that answers just about every problem one might have especially at 18 years old

?? I know a kid doing some amazing things on her gap year. Lots of UK students I knew did them, usually an international service type. Growing experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any parent that allows their child to convince them a gap year is in their best interest is the problem. Not the kid, the parent. A gap year? for what purpose? Oh the stress of life they need a year off before they take on this next challenge. Grow a pair, tell your kid to buckle up and get some control of their poor decision making.

Now you are wondering what to do when the gap year is cancelled? How about get a job? That is usually a solid option that answers just about every problem one might have especially at 18 years old

?? I know a kid doing some amazing things on her gap year. Lots of UK students I knew did them, usually an international service type. Growing experience.

The first PP sounds really bitter and out of touch. Gap years can be valuable to kids trying to figure out what they’d like to do before starting school. Lots of maturation can happen that lets them go into school more focused. What’s the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any parent that allows their child to convince them a gap year is in their best interest is the problem. Not the kid, the parent. A gap year? for what purpose? Oh the stress of life they need a year off before they take on this next challenge. Grow a pair, tell your kid to buckle up and get some control of their poor decision making.

Now you are wondering what to do when the gap year is cancelled? How about get a job? That is usually a solid option that answers just about every problem one might have especially at 18 years old

Judgmental, uninformed and lacking in empathy. Congrats, PP! You've hit the DCUM Triple Crown for nastiness!

Have a nice day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any parent that allows their child to convince them a gap year is in their best interest is the problem. Not the kid, the parent. A gap year? for what purpose? Oh the stress of life they need a year off before they take on this next challenge. Grow a pair, tell your kid to buckle up and get some control of their poor decision making.

Now you are wondering what to do when the gap year is cancelled? How about get a job? That is usually a solid option that answers just about every problem one might have especially at 18 years old

Judgmental, uninformed and lacking in empathy. Congrats, PP! You've hit the DCUM Triple Crown for nastiness!

Have a nice day!

This is a poster whose writing I recognize whose response to every question is some version of kids need to "grow a pair." So gross. And yet they seem to be on so many threads on DCUM--obviously this super parent has a lot of time to waste telling everyone else to buckle up etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any parent that allows their child to convince them a gap year is in their best interest is the problem. Not the kid, the parent. A gap year? for what purpose? Oh the stress of life they need a year off before they take on this next challenge. Grow a pair, tell your kid to buckle up and get some control of their poor decision making.

Now you are wondering what to do when the gap year is cancelled? How about get a job? That is usually a solid option that answers just about every problem one might have especially at 18 years old

Judgmental, uninformed and lacking in empathy. Congrats, PP! You've hit the DCUM Triple Crown for nastiness!

Have a nice day!

I actually love that there are parents out there listening to the voices in their heads rather than actual data. Their direction to their kids to “buckle down and grow a pair” means that it’s easier for kids like mine —- whose gap year was filled with research, volunteering in his second language, and work experience in addition to fun and travel — to compete for interesting internships and jobs.

PPP — you’re absolutely right, your kid should definitely continue to joylessly grind along without looking for enrichment or additional opportunities outside of your narrow worldview. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

I had a gap year and I'm from the UK. I only think they work if you've got a LOT going on that year, so it's time very well spent.

[Anonymous]

and how many kids take a gap year and sit on their butts in the parents basement ?
You all keep coddling these kids and then let them run up huge student debt when they do get their act together and finally make it to school

Gap year, what a joke

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and how many kids take a gap year and sit on their butts in the parents basement ?
You all keep coddling these kids and then let them run up huge student debt when they do get their act together and finally make it to school

Gap year, what a joke

So, when you post something like this, does it make you feel better? Why? I mean, you know that your belittlement based on zero evidence isn't at all helpful, right? So, does it make you feel superior to all the people you believe are "coddling" their kids? And when you're confronted with information to the contrary -- e.g., stories about so many kids who used their gap year to explore career interests or to volunteer or to become proficient in a foreign language or to travel or to earn money for college or other goals -- how do you process that information? Really, I'm curious -- please tell us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:and how many kids take a gap year and sit on their butts in the parents basement ?
You all keep coddling these kids and then let them run up huge student debt when they do get their act together and finally make it to school

Gap year, what a joke

Exactly none of the kids I know had the year you are imagining, including my own.

[Anonymous]

What happens when all their peers go away to college? is it depressing for the kid staying home for a gap year? Not being snarky at all -- actually interested in hearing from those who took a gap year or whose kids did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What happens when all their peers go away to college? is it depressing for the kid staying home for a gap year? Not being snarky at all -- actually interested in hearing from those who took a gap year or whose kids did.

It depends on what they do. My kid’s plan involved working for a couple of months to save money before starting programs and trips. I worried about this, but he had a really cool six week international trip to look forward to, and then home for a bit and another trip. So, he wasn’t sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a job. Start community college.

Be careful about starting community college. Many schools have a strict limit on the number of credits a student can earn during a gap year.

No this is absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:and how many kids take a gap year and sit on their butts in the parents basement ?
You all keep coddling these kids and then let them run up huge student debt when they do get their act together and finally make it to school

Gap year, what a joke

So, when you post something like this, does it make you feel better? Why? I mean, you know that your belittlement based on zero evidence isn't at all helpful, right? So, does it make you feel superior to all the people you believe are "coddling" their kids? And when you're confronted with information to the contrary -- e.g., stories about so many kids who used their gap year to explore career interests or to volunteer or to become proficient in a foreign language or to travel or to earn money for college or other goals -- how do you process that information? Really, I'm curious -- please tell us.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What happens when all their peers go away to college? is it depressing for the kid staying home for a gap year? Not being snarky at all -- actually interested in hearing from those who took a gap year or whose kids did.

1. Not all peer go to 4 year colleges
2. Many kids do gap years to work so they won't have so many loans
3. So do them for mental health
4. Who cares it is none of your business.