I need to shorten my visit with brother/SIL

[Anonymous]

How old is your son?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just suck it up

Nope.

[Anonymous]

You need to stop worrying about what they want and just plan something that works for you and your kid. And just say: Since I have limited vacation and already have our plane tickets booked based on this plan, we’re going to go ahead to the XYZ road trip on our own, but we’re looking forward to our time together before that!” Make your plans first and then tell them - you don’t need their permission!

[Anonymous]

I will be honest. I find your posts confusing. So it is hard to come up with any real advice. You can't do a road trip, but are complaining that SIL doesn't want to go to NYC or Acadia which are FAR from Cape Cod. I am guessing that you are not a great communicator (maybe SIL isn't either). As others said, just plan what you want to do and let them know your itinerary. They can choose to go or not.

[Anonymous]

Is it just that you don’t want to be in their house that second week? (I assume it’s not their company since you were planning a road trip with them)

You and your son can go on shorter road trips/overnights even if they won’t. Try places in NH, Maine, RI - all just fine for one adult driver.

Are the day trips they’re considering really that bad?

[Anonymous]

Op, didn't your parents teach you and your brother ~ guests should be there more than 3 days. Remind him (even if your parents never said it). Meanwhile, Op why do they get to decide? Seriously, act on what you think would be best.

[Anonymous]

guest should *not* be there more than 3 days

what was meant ^

[Anonymous]

OP here. I am still waffling over it I must say. I don’t mind their company but I do mind staying in the house as our basement doesn’t have AC and only one foldable couch.
I am planning to ask for a yoga mat and a sleeping bag (they are outdoorsy) for my kid though, and maybe I will just sleep upstairs in the living room with AC.
I am also planning to book a hotel for the last night there as we have an early morning flight.
One of their day trips is ok, one isn’t and I said no.
I think I will just play it by ear… just an unfortunate trip I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am still waffling over it I must say. I don’t mind their company but I do mind staying in the house as our basement doesn’t have AC and only one foldable couch.
I am planning to ask for a yoga mat and a sleeping bag (they are outdoorsy) for my kid though, and maybe I will just sleep upstairs in the living room with AC.
I am also planning to book a hotel for the last night there as we have an early morning flight.
One of their day trips is ok, one isn’t and I said no.
I think I will just play it by ear… just an unfortunate trip I guess.

No AC in July? Gross. Dealbreaker.

[Anonymous]

“You have been so generous in inviting us to stay at your home. However, I’m just not accustomed to the heat/sleeping on a sofa/whatever. I don’t want to put you out in any way, so DS and I are going to stay in a hotel/get a place on Martha’s Vineyard/head home early.”