Anyone eise's kid dragging their feet onboarding?
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Anonymous
Agree. I pushed on an early health form deadline because there was a vaccination situation I needed to help them figure out, but I’m not going to pester them on the rest until after graduation. Thankfully, DC’s college sends emails to the parents with deadlines, etc, so it’s easy to keep an eye on it. |
Anonymous
+1 from a college prof. Entering college students need to learn to 1) read emails (not other forms of messages--specifically emails); 2) interpret what is required; 3) write down deadlines; 4) target actions to be completed before said deadlines; 5) complete and submit. 1, 3, and 5 should be part of executive functioning that is at least somewhat practiced in HS, but 2 and 4 require some experience with adulting, which can be the justified excuse for family collaboration at this point. Try making a mandatory "appointment" (in the way an adviser might do) with your student to go through all of the existing material together and create a shared to-do list. While you're at it, schedule a follow-up appointment for sometime before the approaching deadlines at which you *both* will show each other what you have accomplished from the list. Don't do it for DC, but don't let it slide, either: a student who doesn't open emails is a student who is going to miss important information from professors. We can't message them on social media or text in order to communicate typical issues and deadlines. And, yes, as an adviser I do make once-per-semester appointments with my students mandatory. I'm willing to be extremely flexible on precisely when and in what format I meet with them, but I refuse to let them slip through the cracks. |
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Anonymous
| Mine has major senioritis and he’s been a straight A student his whole life. Hes finding it hard to finish up with Bs in some classes. He’s done! |
Anonymous
| My sister missed deadlines because she was hoping to get into a waitlisted school. She got horrible housing and only had one class on her schedule when she arrived at campus. It’s important not to miss those deadlines, especially the housing ones. |
Anonymous
My A senior is fighting off a D in a core class right now. Parents of future seniors - do NOT assume your smart, organized kid is going to stay that way through the last semester. |
Anonymous
Why don’t the schools text? They are sending emails to that generation? SMH The teens TEXT. |
Anonymous
Yes, and they also let laundry pile up and leave dishes under their beds, but we try to help them grow into healthy adult habits. I don't really want my boss texting me. |
Anonymous
| Relax, mothers. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, same here. I pushed DD and she got them in. But it's been a struggle, and it's not over yet. Yes, AP tests this week too, and that's been a distraction. |
Anonymous
Same thing happened a few years back with my oldest A+ student. It got so bad her teacher called me, saying she was worried! We had a little chat, and DD pulled herself together. Big time senioritis. It's OK. DD graduated from college, and she's doing well. |
Anonymous
Because we shouldn't care if kids don't get into dorms or miss out on the classes they want / need to take?? |
Anonymous
At some point you can’t manage every aspect of their lives. There is way too much over-parenting DCUM parents. Sometimes they have to learn life lessons the hard way. |
Anonymous
Yes, it's very important for seniors to realize that a D could get their college acceptance rescinded or at a minimum be put on "probation". And not just elite universities. Have heard of a ~T90 send letters for senior first semester Ds and warn students. |
Anonymous
These are ADULTS. It’s way past time to stop this nonsense. I didn’t check my kids’ portals when they were in high school. If your college aged adult cannot navigate this on their own, they probably aren’t ready for college. /mom of four college grads. One kid still in college. |
Anonymous
They should be handling all this on their own. |