teacher insensitivities?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something like a third or a quarter of kids are in households with only one parent, so with such a huge chunk of kids in a non-two-parent household, you'd think teachers would be aware of it.

So? It doesnt mean the other parent isn’t in the picture. I guess the teacher should draft a special email to each child, specifically address their (so we don’t assume kid has a gender, right, how rude) circumstances… Dear single transgender undefined parent, your genderless child will need to bring an extra snack to school tomorrow… something like that ?

You seem like you have a rod in your butthole. It's super easy to just refer to "families" or "households". It's actually pretty easy to be inclusive in this context, and the fact that you are this upset suggests you have some issues.

[Anonymous]

Hetero married mom here, and 'mom and dad' communications make me cringe. It costs nothing and should be no skin off anyone's back to say 'families' or 'your adults' or something else that doesn't give a kid who has a different family structure yet another reminder that they're different. They know already. Be inclusive and kind. It's worth saying something and worth modeling more inclusive language too.

It's not 1958 anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something like a third or a quarter of kids are in households with only one parent, so with such a huge chunk of kids in a non-two-parent household, you'd think teachers would be aware of it.

So? It doesnt mean the other parent isn’t in the picture. I guess the teacher should draft a special email to each child, specifically address their (so we don’t assume kid has a gender, right, how rude) circumstances… Dear single transgender undefined parent, your genderless child will need to bring an extra snack to school tomorrow… something like that ?

You seem like you have a rod in your butthole. It's super easy to just refer to "families" or "households". It's actually pretty easy to be inclusive in this context, and the fact that you are this upset suggests you have some issues.

The people screaming inclusivity are the ones with issues. People besides parents have raised kids for years and nobody ever complained about stupid stuff like this until recently. It’s been parents/guardians for years and years, you’re lucky you get the “guardian “ part. It’s becoming an issue of this generation not to accept what is normal and think everyone needs to be included in every little thing. You need to realize people don’t have time to worry that your feelings might get hurt. The world runs on what is normal, sure there’s always exceptions but nobody has time to list every exception for everything and people like op that worry about the little things like that are the biggest problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hetero married mom here, and 'mom and dad' communications make me cringe. It costs nothing and should be no skin off anyone's back to say 'families' or 'your adults' or something else that doesn't give a kid who has a different family structure yet another reminder that they're different. They know already. Be inclusive and kind. It's worth saying something and worth modeling more inclusive language too.

It's not 1958 anymore.

So you expect the teacher to waste their time changing form letters that they probably didn’t even write rather than caring for the education of your child? If you have an issue go to the school board meeting but chances are they’ll think you’re just as ridiculous as everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hetero married mom here, and 'mom and dad' communications make me cringe. It costs nothing and should be no skin off anyone's back to say 'families' or 'your adults' or something else that doesn't give a kid who has a different family structure yet another reminder that they're different. They know already. Be inclusive and kind. It's worth saying something and worth modeling more inclusive language too.

It's not 1958 anymore.

So you expect the teacher to waste their time changing form letters that they probably didn’t even write rather than caring for the education of your child? If you have an issue go to the school board meeting but chances are they’ll think you’re just as ridiculous as everyone else.

What, exactly, are you afraid of here? That single-mother households -- which have also always existed -- will be recognized by teachers? What's wrong with that? You seem really bent out of shape about this.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to blow your mind here, butthole-rod PP: When I've noticed teacher communications that could be more inclusive I've written to them and said, "hey it would be great if you just mentioned 'families' instead of 'mom and dad'!" and the teachers have, without fail or strife, said, "Oh good suggestion!" No one died, cried, or had their way of life destroyed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hetero married mom here, and 'mom and dad' communications make me cringe. It costs nothing and should be no skin off anyone's back to say 'families' or 'your adults' or something else that doesn't give a kid who has a different family structure yet another reminder that they're different. They know already. Be inclusive and kind. It's worth saying something and worth modeling more inclusive language too.

It's not 1958 anymore.

So you expect the teacher to waste their time changing form letters that they probably didn’t even write rather than caring for the education of your child? If you have an issue go to the school board meeting but chances are they’ll think you’re just as ridiculous as everyone else.

What, exactly, are you afraid of here? That single-mother households -- which have also always existed -- will be recognized by teachers? What's wrong with that? You seem really bent out of shape about this.

So if they use the term parents do you have nothing better to do as a single mother than be offended by the “S”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to blow your mind here, butthole-rod PP: When I've noticed teacher communications that could be more inclusive I've written to them and said, "hey it would be great if you just mentioned 'families' instead of 'mom and dad'!" and the teachers have, without fail or strife, said, "Oh good suggestion!" No one died, cried, or had their way of life destroyed.

Way to go putting a target on your kid’s back as having the annoying parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to blow your mind here, butthole-rod PP: When I've noticed teacher communications that could be more inclusive I've written to them and said, "hey it would be great if you just mentioned 'families' instead of 'mom and dad'!" and the teachers have, without fail or strife, said, "Oh good suggestion!" No one died, cried, or had their way of life destroyed.

Way to go putting a target on your kid’s back as having the annoying parent.

Yeah I'm afraid that the teacher will retaliate against my child. Wait, wait. I'm not. Because I think teachers are normal, reasonable, generally kind people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hetero married mom here, and 'mom and dad' communications make me cringe. It costs nothing and should be no skin off anyone's back to say 'families' or 'your adults' or something else that doesn't give a kid who has a different family structure yet another reminder that they're different. They know already. Be inclusive and kind. It's worth saying something and worth modeling more inclusive language too.

It's not 1958 anymore.

So you expect the teacher to waste their time changing form letters that they probably didn’t even write rather than caring for the education of your child? If you have an issue go to the school board meeting but chances are they’ll think you’re just as ridiculous as everyone else.

What, exactly, are you afraid of here? That single-mother households -- which have also always existed -- will be recognized by teachers? What's wrong with that? You seem really bent out of shape about this.

So if they use the term parents do you have nothing better to do as a single mother than be offended by the “S”?

Is it that time you had sex with another lady in college? And you really need to suppress the memory? So you need to make sure everything is "one man one woman married 4eva please don't make me go bra shopping I might orgasm"/

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t ask in Virginia- here teachers can get reported on a tip line if there is a whiff of anything but two married parents from the 1960s in newsletters or anything else from schools.

How strange. I'd've said it was the other way around in Virginia.

Not with Youngkin: https://wtop.com/virginia/2022/03/virginia-superintendents-call-for-end-to-teacher-tip-line-collaboration-on-divisive-concepts-report/

I think what you describe is changing, but probably slower outside of certain areas. In my NOVA school we address "families," as a general and inclusive term and we ask kids about their "adults," not their mom and dad, to be sensitive to the many kinds of families our students have. I don't think it's that way everywhere yet, though.

This may be sensitive but it's also depersonalizing. Mom or dad or other adult, or parent or guardian, is less depersonalizing, fwiw.

Can you clarify? When I say, “I sent your grownups the flier about today’s spirit night,” I know my student who is being raised by their aunt or uncle is included equally as the kid being raised by just dad because mom died, or being raised by mom and dad. I’ll also say “I’m sending home a form for your families” or “your adults need to sign this form.” I did the switch after a student whose mother died was repeatedly bothered by “moms and dads,” but I’m very open to hearing how my language could be refined. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

I have noticed at least 2 teachers who still use the offensive “Latina / Latino” instead of the correct term, Latinx.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This may be more of a Southern thing as we do not live in the DC area anymore but I've found that teachers, in their newsletters and weekly e-mails will sometimes write things that could be offensive.

Just referring to two parents vs. other combination of guardians of children or cultural references. Little things that you don't want to rock the boat but could see if they didn't fit the perfect mold, it could be seen as insensitive.

It's not a HUGE deal as there are much larger issues but I notice them. I also notice these type of things happen from older teachers.

Two parents of different sexes that speak English and are American is normal. The world is not going to cater to the abnormal in any area of life.

Oh, grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something like a third or a quarter of kids are in households with only one parent, so with such a huge chunk of kids in a non-two-parent household, you'd think teachers would be aware of it.

So? It doesnt mean the other parent isn’t in the picture. I guess the teacher should draft a special email to each child, specifically address their (so we don’t assume kid has a gender, right, how rude) circumstances… Dear single transgender undefined parent, your genderless child will need to bring an extra snack to school tomorrow… something like that ?

God, you people are so fragile and threatened. Must be a hard way to go through life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hetero married mom here, and 'mom and dad' communications make me cringe. It costs nothing and should be no skin off anyone's back to say 'families' or 'your adults' or something else that doesn't give a kid who has a different family structure yet another reminder that they're different. They know already. Be inclusive and kind. It's worth saying something and worth modeling more inclusive language too.

It's not 1958 anymore.

So you expect the teacher to waste their time changing form letters that they probably didn’t even write rather than caring for the education of your child? If you have an issue go to the school board meeting but chances are they’ll think you’re just as ridiculous as everyone else.

Oh, no! They have to change a few words and hit save! Whatever will they do? It’s sooooo haaaard.