Would you go out to Brunch with your Unvaccinated cousins?

[Anonymous]

I might go without my elderly mother, preferably outside. I wouldn’t take my elderly mother. I have this same situation with my DH’s brother and his wife. I guess forever. They don’t care, but I weigh my risk tolerance and act accordingly. I don’t chose to be inside with unvaccinated people if I can help it.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. I don't go anywhere with people I know are unvaccinated and I keep a mask on around people whose vaccination status is unknown.

[Anonymous]

You’re nuts. Weekly testing?? Are you aware the vaccine doesn’t prevent transmission?

[Anonymous]

It's time to get over it and move on OP. I'm on a plane now with 250 maskless people, all headed for DCA

Don't be That Person.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would. How does their vaccination status affect you? You can still get it. If you’re vaxxed, you’re protected from serious illness - they’re not. How is this an issue still?

[Anonymous]

Most elderly I know are back to eating indoors routinely and have been for awhile.

[Anonymous]

There will be other non-vaccinated people in the restaurant--possibly your server or the other people sitting directly behind your mother. If you are concerned about your mom being in proximity of unvaccinated people you should not be taking her out to brunch on the busiest day of the year.

[Anonymous]

All these “you can still get it if your vaxed” people must intentionally misunderstand. I can’t believe they say it and can’t comprehend that vaccines help immensely but not 100%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence now....we have cousins who we used to be close to...but alas....they are anti-vaxxers now and have since all gotten Covid...TWICE. They believe they have natural immunity because they got Covid already two times.

They are also very touchy about the subject and got all bent out of shape when I asked if they do weekly testing since they are not vaccinated...I was just curious because they work and have kids in school.

So....I invited them to join us for brunch...since my elderly mother will be with us I told them she would simply sit at opposite end of table. She got all defensive and said "omg....so we're still a threat?" and subsequently declined the invite.

I feel like they should accommodate the fact that we are extra cautious with my elderly mother rather than get all upset.

I know this an explosive topic, but I just needed to vent a little and see what others think

I think "Here we go again...." You do what's best for you. But don't keep crowdsourcing "What would you do?" It's your decision and I'll respect it. Your body. Your choice. Their body. Their choice. Your lunch. Your choice on whom to invite.

It's possible your cousins like you anymore. (Yes, I'm vaccinated and boosted, but I'd be furious if someone were asking me about my health status/practices at this point.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm on the fence now....we have cousins who we used to be close to...but alas....they are anti-vaxxers now and have since all gotten Covid...TWICE. They believe they have natural immunity because they got Covid already two times.

They are also very touchy about the subject and got all bent out of shape when I asked if they do weekly testing since they are not vaccinated...I was just curious because they work and have kids in school.

So....I invited them to join us for brunch...since my elderly mother will be with us I told them she would simply sit at opposite end of table. She got all defensive and said "omg....so we're still a threat?" and subsequently declined the invite.

I feel like they should accommodate the fact that we are extra cautious with my elderly mother rather than get all upset.

I know this an explosive topic, but I just needed to vent a little and see what others think

I think "Here we go again...." You do what's best for you. But don't keep crowdsourcing "What would you do?" It's your decision and I'll respect it. Your body. Your choice. Their body. Their choice. Your lunch. Your choice on whom to invite.

It's possible your cousins like you anymore. (Yes, I'm vaccinated and boosted, but I'd be furious if someone were asking me about my health status/practices at this point.)

Meant to say it's possible your cousins DON'T like you anymore.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these “you can still get it if your vaxed” people must intentionally misunderstand. I can’t believe they say it and can’t comprehend that vaccines help immensely but not 100%.

+1. You can’t fix stupid. oP, Yes I would probably go to an outdoor brunch with unvaxxed cousins but I would leave your elderly mom out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, does vaccination actually matter anymore? I'm vaxed and have also had covid twice.

Yes, I would go see your cousins.

If you look at who's still dying of Covid, in addition to the unvaxxed, it's a lot of elderly vaccinated people. Their immune systems just don't mount the same response as younger people.

The new variants are super contagious, so I wouldn't trust the distance of a long table to keep OP's mom safe. (Well, maybe a Putin table would work.) A restaurant meal with extended relatives you haven't seen lately is going to last at least an hour, and the mom will not be masked.

[Anonymous]

At this point, yes. A month ago my answer would have been absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

I would go to brunch with your cousins but in their position would also decline having brunch with you. You’re overstepping so not worth the hassle.