Where did all your money go? The house> I don't get where all your savings/investments went. |
Both of us had student loans until 5 years ago. Prioritized 401ks and putting some money in 529. Purchased a house late (we rented until our kid was in middle school) and needed to use most of our savings for a 20% downpayment/465K mortgage. House appreciated quickly in the last 7 years. No family help and didn't make over 150 HHI until fairly recently. |
All my numbers are very similar to yours, except I’ll have a lot less equity. I think you’re doing great and have obviously made some smart choices. It’s a different situation if you’ve been making 200k for 20 years or 5 years. People don’t always get that. |
Still don't get it but we made less than you, but a much cheaper house and still saved for college, and more. |
' I don't get not living in your means and saving. We made much less and seemed to save. |
Good for you! I don’t think we lived beyond our means. Do/did you have student loan debt? How much did you pay for childcare? What is the housing market like in your area? Do you also take care of a relative and need additional space/ housing requirements? Many factors to consider. |
Everyone’s circumstances are different. Also, some people (not myself) are philosophically opposed to paying for the entire degree in cash because if the kid drops out or fails classes, it costs the kid nothing, then. |
| If you kid is in elementary and has 10 years to go OP, your salary will rise between now and then. Even with a meager 3% increase, you will be at 300K. That is barring either of you making a jump for a 20-40% increase to advance your careers. You will DEFINITELY not quality for any need based aid. |
+1 |
You have a really poor view of your kids. With loans it does not give them an incentive to be more responsible and if they are not something went wrong long before college years. You have to save from the start and make it a priority. |
Yes, we do. We bought a tiny crappy house, only vacation every few years and with child care could not afford to work with one child as it would have been more than my take home. Plus health issues and a relative needing care. But, we fit the relative in our tiny house. Tiny as in under 1000 square feet and one bathroom. Yes, life is messy. |
You missed the part where I said “not myself.” I saved for my kids. But you would be foolish to think that a kid doesn’t have to want their degree really bad to finish school if they have to work and/or take out loans. And I don’t think you have any clue how expensive life is today. |
Only in America are you screwed if your parents happen to not do so. |
WOW. I hope your life goes perfectly and you never have a car accident, a cancer diagnosis, a flood, a job loss or any other issues. You truly do not have a clue. |
Again, different priorities and circumstances. I don’t question your choices but we made different ones. We didn’t prioritize saving more for college because we don’t think paying 60k+ for any school is worth it. Living beyond your means means debt your can’t afford/ pay back and the inability to pay for things your prioritize. Even if we had cash/savings to pay 60k, wouldn’t do it so not complaining about not being able to attend Duke and don’t think the school needs to subsidize us. |