If you have an overweight child...

[Anonymous]

If you just don’t post pictures of your kids on social media, it doesn’t matter

[Anonymous]

I would still post the same. But us women have such internalized fat phobia and body shaming that goes deep, that I could see a mom doing this, possibly even unaware they are doing it

[Anonymous]

Why anyone keeps junk food in the house once they have kids is beyond me. The kids will find junk food on their own as they get older. Establish good eating habits from day one.

Yes, they always have overweight / obese parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why anyone keeps junk food in the house once they have kids is beyond me. The kids will find junk food on their own as they get older. Establish good eating habits from day one.

Yes, they always have overweight / obese parents.

My husband, I, and our other 2 kids are thin as rails. We have one obese child. They grew up around healthy food.
I don’t share pictures on social media anymore, but when I still did, I did share all three kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would still post the same. But us women have such internalized fat phobia and body shaming that goes deep, that I could see a mom doing this, possibly even unaware they are doing it

Not sure what you mean by internalized fat phobia. No one should want to be fat. >70% of adults are. Everyone should be afraid their lifestyle and food choices could lead to obesity if they don't watch it, since it is so so easy to become overweight now. And chances are if your children aren't overweight now, they will be at some point as adults, especially if they already are as a child. What parent wants that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why anyone keeps junk food in the house once they have kids is beyond me. The kids will find junk food on their own as they get older. Establish good eating habits from day one.

Yes, they always have overweight / obese parents.

Actually it’s the opposite with a lot of people. Kids who grow up with some junk food in the house, but also a lot of healthy options are more likely to make better choices later. We had a friend growing up who’s parents didn’t allow them to eat anything remotely bad for them. They would come over and gorge themselves on whatever junk we had.

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Anonymous wrote:Why anyone keeps junk food in the house once they have kids is beyond me. The kids will find junk food on their own as they get older. Establish good eating habits from day one.

Yes, they always have overweight / obese parents.

Actually it’s the opposite with a lot of people. Kids who grow up with some junk food in the house, but also a lot of healthy options are more likely to make better choices later. We had a friend growing up who’s parents didn’t allow them to eat anything remotely bad for them. They would come over and gorge themselves on whatever junk we had.

Some kids are just prone to gorging. No child is deprived of junk food. Even if parents keep "zero" in house, there are frequent class parties, school events, school prizes, free meals at school (which are pretty much sugar junk), friends' houses, grandparents houses, cousins houses, holidays (halloween, easter, christmas, etc), birthday parties, sports events....kids are exposed to junk food on a very regular basis whether you keep it in your house or not. A kid isn't gorging at your house bc mom doesn't buy any Ho-Hos or Kit Kats.

[Anonymous]

Agree on the no junk food in the house. Kids get it at school and at friends' houses.

What is with all the junk snacking? My kids eat at 8(eggs or smoothie) , 12 (sandwich / fruit), 4 (something like hummus/apple), and 8 (dinner before bed).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why anyone keeps junk food in the house once they have kids is beyond me. The kids will find junk food on their own as they get older. Establish good eating habits from day one.

Yes, they always have overweight / obese parents.

I’m thin and one of my kids is very petite. I’m very active as well. My husband has struggled with weight on/off but is not obese. Our 10 year old DD is definitely overweight. She’s active in sports and dance. The petite one hates physical activity. My overweight DD doesn’t eat different things from the family but she likes to eat. And there are some anxiety issues as well. It’s SO hard to keep a balance between encouraging her to be healthy and not wanting to cause body image issues. And she does have body image issues bc she knows she’s bigger than say her ballet friends. Judgmental jerks like you don’t help.

[Anonymous]

The Demise of my child was the constant rewarding of junk food/candy for good behavior at school. Just couldn’t control the sweet tooth addiction after that. We have struggled to find rewards that don’t include food, but it is hard. Look at Maria shriver. When her youngest was larger, she always posted pixs of him. His recent weight loss is commended.

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Anonymous wrote:are you embarrassed? Self-conscious about posting pictures them on social media?

This is the saddest, most pathetic thing I have ever seen on DCUM, and that's saying a lot. The fact that ANY parent would be thinking about their children in terms of social media posts makes my skin crawl. If this is you, I truly hope you do a lot of soul searching. And for the love, get off Instagram for at least three months or until you can get your head on straight.

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Anonymous wrote:I would still post the same. But us women have such internalized fat phobia and body shaming that goes deep, that I could see a mom doing this, possibly even unaware they are doing it

Not sure what you mean by internalized fat phobia. No one should want to be fat. >70% of adults are. Everyone should be afraid their lifestyle and food choices could lead to obesity if they don't watch it, since it is so so easy to become overweight now. And chances are if your children aren't overweight now, they will be at some point as adults, especially if they already are as a child. What parent wants that?

Nobody wants that, absolutely. I aspire to be a healthy weight - I'm a little overweight now and I don't think it would be healthy to just lean into that and not try to better my health.

What I mean by internalized fat phobia is thinking someone is less than a person, or something to be ashamed of, if they happen to be fat. They are still a valued person, and do not need to be hidden from the world. A lot of women have a lot of shame about themselves, and think that if they are bigger, they are less worthy. This becomes ingrained in us due to family factors and cultural messaging, and I could see it bleeding into how they treat a fat child compared to thin ones. Many girls grew up that way and repeat the history even if they aren't aware they are doing it. I wasn't treated that way, nor was I fat (although I was more sturdy, compared to my own kids who are slender).