For the straight ladies: how much effort did you put into getting a man's attention?
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I'm not single, but these are my answers for when I was. I was last single around 30.
Do you wait around for a guy to show interest in you? If you mean, see if we make eye contact in a restaurant or bar, sure. If you mean pine after someone in a college class yearning for interest to be shown, no. Do you make a move if a guy appeals to you? Yes, I might. I'd like some eye contact, but not opposed to approaching as the woman once that was established. I've cold approached men as well. They actually often appreciate it! How far will you go to get his attention? Smile and be nice. That's about it. Do you limit yourself to dressing nice, smiling, laughing, starting a conversation, general flirting? I'm kind of a crappy flirt, but I'm attractive and men find me funny and fun to be around. I smile and laugh and all of that, but I don't, and never have, done that for every man. I'm kind of a b+tch about unwanted attention and my boundaries are firm. I was never out for "every man" just one. Are you extreme like Kate and Meghan and make sure you get into his circle? Absolutely not. How did you get your husband? I was with a friend having a drink at a happy hour, and there was a line of guys angling to talk to us. My timid (but intrepid?) DH wanted to see what the fuss was about, so came up and approached and we talked. He seemed super nice, but didn't ask for my number. I wrote it on a napkin and told him to call me. |
Anonymous
| None. From around age 18 to when I got engaged at 36 and started wearing a ring, life was much more about trying to fend off male attention from guys I *wasn’t* interested in. (Ironically, half the time my disinterest only made them more interested.) |
Anonymous
| Zilch. Met my husband of 23 years at a 10k race, had no make up, hair in a ponytail and was sweaty and gross. While we were in the initial stages of dating, I would dress nicely, shave, etc. Never wear makeup so that was not an issue. |
Anonymous
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My DH told me that what got his attention was that I looked put together, dressed for the occasion and always had a smile on my face regardless of the situation.
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Anonymous
| I was an associate at his firm. I walked right up to his desk and did the Bend and Snap™️ that my hairdresser taught me. From there, it was kismet. |
Anonymous
DP. Getting dolled up vs "attracting" are different. It is more fun than discussing the latest Nats game for right-brained women. Men are attracted to what's attainable. Techbod guys are more attracted to unflattering, mismatched clothes than a woman they will have to protect from bigger guys harassment. |
Anonymous
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Basically, this.
Are you one of them girls? That peels off the Bud-Light label Just might run a pool table Roll your eyes if I call you an angel Ain't you, one of them girls? Ask you to dance, you say, "No" Just to see how far I'll go Your song comes on and your eyes closed That's when I know, yeah You got your heart on lockdown Got a wall I gotta knock down Kinda wanna do a shot now, come on now And you're one of them girls that Ain't tryna meet nobody You're just here for the party If I'm wrong then stop me, yeah You're one of them girls that Ain't handin' out your number You like to make us want you You like to make us wonder If you're one of them girls 'Cause I'm one of them boys Who'll trade his whole world, hmm, yeah For one of them girls Who likes to act all quiet Sexy, not even tryin' Yeah, you know I ain't lyin', damn right You one of them girls Broke every heart in your hometown On the day you rode out Got 'em all wishin' on stars now If I find one of them girls that Ain't tryna meet nobody You're just here for the party If I'm wrong them stop me, yeah You're one of them girls that Ain't handin' out your number You like to make us want you You like to make us wonder If you're one of them girls Well I'm one of them boys Who'll trade his whole world, yeah For one of them girls You're one of them girls I wanna put my lips on Hold all night long Write a little love song For one of them girls that Ain't tryna meet nobody You're just here for the party If I'm wrong then stop me, yeah You're one of them girls that Ain't handin' out your number You like to make us want you You like to make us wonder If you're one of them girls Well I'm one of them boys Who'll trade his whole world (his whole world) For one of them girls |
Anonymous
How Stepford of him. |
Anonymous
This is me except engaged at 29. I don’t get the concept of effort for male attention. They look at anything that walks. |
Anonymous
| What? If I want to meet someone I will say hello, like any otherhuman., |
Anonymous
| Who is Kate and Meghan? |
Anonymous
I didn't put any effort in. I thought a guy was cute but my roommate had already said she was interested in him. It took quite some time for him to convince her that he wasn't interested back, because he kept hanging around, interested in me. But I wasn't paying attention. I didn't flirt at all. We were neighbors and otherwise in very different social circles.. I was focused on my education and health at the time, plus I had a lot of friend stuff going on then too. |
Anonymous
And…. |