What makes someone attractive?
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Anonymous
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It's obviously subjective, but also: you can check some boxes and not others and still be attractive.
Like there are people with perfectly symmetrical faces and desirable features (high foreheads, large eyes, strong bone structure, etc.) plus long glossy health, plus perfectly proportioned bodies, plus great skin tone, plus a good sense of style. But they are incredibly rare. Think of the most attractive person you've known in real life. Do they check all these boxes? Also, how old were they? Will they continue to check all boxes when they are 40 or 50 (even with intervention)? It's a tiny percentage of the population for whom this is true. So among the rest of the population, it's a question of whether they tick enough boxes to tip the scales. This is why so many women fixate on weight, because it feels like the factor that is easiest to change and thus to push someone from okay to pretty. But I personally think this is wrong, and that most women would do better to focus their energy on having really good hair, learning how to dress the body they already have in the most flattering way, fixing/whitening teeth, investing in good skincare, etc. This is why rich people seem to be more attractive than non-rich people, on average. They aren't actually more naturally attractive (many wealthy people are well below average in terms of natural beauty), but they can go all in on teeth, skin, hair, fashion, and to some extent, weight. It's amazing how much these factors will change you from "fine" to "attractive". Especially as you age. |
Anonymous
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For me, it's hair with volume, bright eyes, and some color contrast.
That's why I find Gwyneth Paltrow so unattractive. Her hair is lank and every part of her is some shade of beige. |
Anonymous
| Personality and great sense of style. I've met a lot of dull attractive people. The ones who are the most attractive have fun personalities and look pulled together/stylish. |
Anonymous
| I’m in my mid 40’s and a little chubby by DCUM standards. I invest pretty heavily in prescription skin care, laser once a year and Botox a few times a year. My clothes are average (I shop only at second hand spots and don’t do anything too fancy) but I think good hair and keeping my skin more youthful helps a lot. For younger people I think beauty is more nature driven. As we get older I think it’s more about effort and maintenance, although like others have said not going too crazy overboard. |
Anonymous
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In terms of physical beautiful:
BMI of 19-20 symmetrical face straight, white teeth clear, minimally wrinkled skin whites of eyes are bright long lashes thick, groomed hair groomed nails (I prefer neutral or clear polish) good posture I think minimal makeup and neutral clothing is most attractive, but that is quite subjective. |
Anonymous
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Good hair
Good skin Nice smile People see how shape first. Then skin. A nice smile helps. Symmetry is lovely and has been shown to be preferred in studies with hair pulled tightly back, but first impressions are the shape of the head with hair! |
Anonymous
| Pp here. And to expand by nice smile I mean a nice smile with white teeth. |
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Anonymous
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Why do women think that having their nails done makes them more attractive? I find that so odd. Like sure, if your nails are in bad shape - discolored, damaged, broken etc - it’s not pretty. But just normal healthy nails are like….good.
I have NEVER seen a woman w/ her nails done and been like wow, that factors into her beauty. Beauty is 80% face and 20% body (except that if your face is fat, it’s hard to be as beautiful). |
Anonymous
This, exactly! |
Anonymous
+2 |
Anonymous
+3. I think it's such a weird focus. Clean hands and nails are, to me, far more attractive than having a manicure. In fact, when I see long, fake nails, all I can think about is how dirty and gross it must be under her fingernails. I suppose that and also having "man hands" are negatives, but seriously, having manicured nails is a non-issue. |
Anonymous
I think of nails as an accessory. They can make you look more put together, but they aren't a real difference maker in terms of overall attractiveness. Good teeth, hair, and skin are 80% of the battle. |
Anonymous
| Facial symmetry is a factor in classic beauty for sure, but I've encountered people who look amazing in pictures but in person are awkward or have other detracting factors. |
Anonymous
+4 though pedicures are a must for me. But, if your nails are clean and short and not jagged--it wouldn't even register to me they aren't polished, etc. Personally, I absolutely cannot stand fake nails. The trend of those super long pointy fake nails on younger women also makes me think---non-professional/educated because you cannot type or do anything with nails that long. Also, wiping your butt--gross!!--THE GYM? how do you lift weights? I think there are so many things before manicures. Healthy weight, exercise, clean fresh skin, no yellow messed up teeth (don't mind imperfections), healthy hair (nothing fried or over-processed). I'm a minimalist so fresh-scrubbed is attractive to me---no heavy make-up or 'out-there' fashion. I like a more healthy, fresh look. More the 'make up, but no make up' look. I also can't stand fake eyelashes!! WTH is with women wearing these daily? |