40 dating someone 60+?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had a casual meet up with a professional acquaintance yesterday. We're both divorced. He's a youthful 65 - but doesn't look or act it I would have guessed mid 50s. We had fun, engaging convo and I liked him. I could tell he was attracted to me but stayed a complete gentleman throughout. I'm not sure if I was attracted to him as I've never dated anyone that much older than me, but I guess I wasn't 'not' attracted per se? He says he wants to hang out again. I am not sure if I want to date him but I am not against seeing him again. What to do? FWIW he's also pretty well off.

If he's wealthy and generous, then yes. Otherwise, no. Make sure that he doesn't get any ideas that you will be his caretaker. I know several old men who trapped younger women for the sole purpose to serve as unskilled healthcare worker.

[Anonymous]

Even if he seems youthful at 65, in 10 years he will be decrepit. Facts are facts.

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If you're not sure you're attracted to him and are seeking feedback about the age gap, then your gut is telling you not to proceed. Listen to your gut.

Curious why you had to throw in the detail at the end of your post that he is well off.

[Anonymous]

If you want to be a caretaker.

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Anonymous wrote:Can’t even believe a 40-year-old would even go on a date with him to begin with. I’m 44 and I barely date my own age—I will not go above it because there’s no need to. (However, I could care less humps on how much money somebody has because I’m never getting married again).

OP here - it wasn’t really a ‘date’ - he is someone I met through my work (same field but different company). He is retiring soon from a career path that I’m interested in so we’d discussed meeting some time to chat about it. But I guess it kind of turned into a date as we ended up talking about other things besides work. Like I said, I don’t think I am interested in dating him seriously but I guess I wouldn’t mind hanging out again - he was fun to talk to and has good energy. But I’m afraid if I do that he’s going to want more.

Say no. Is obvious he’s going to want more because men don’t talk to women they don’t want to have sex with. How do you not know this is 40 years old?

You're wrong. Women here love to declare exactly what men want and how they behave when they have no clue. I'm not too far from 60 and have friendship/relationships with several women I don't intend to have sex with.

Then you are an outlier. This is not the norm.

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Don’t go there, even for a little fling. What if you get attached then you’re stuck basically care taking him (and possibly your parents at the same time). I think 10 years up or down would be a better fit.

[Anonymous]

My spouse is 14 years older than me, he will be 60 this year and I'm 46. Although, 10 years ago or earlier, the age difference wasn't so noticeable, now it is. I look much younger than my age. My spouse went through cancer, retirement from work, other health issues. I'm thinking, in about 10 years, I'll be still young looking and he will be really old. Although, I don't have regrets, but I would not advise anybody to date with age difference greater than 15 years apart.

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I’m confused about OP’s question. She’s obviously not really attracted to the old guy. Is she asking for permission to be a 40 something sugar baby?

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In 10 years he’ll be 75 and practically dead. Seriously why bother?!

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OP here. I wouldn’t say I was not attracted. There was definitely a certain ‘something’ - he was charming, funny etc. The sugar baby angle wasn’t where I was going but I could see why it seemed that way. He did mention he’d previously dated a women who was 20 years younger and talked about how hes a “giver” and later showed me a pic of a new Mercerdes he’d just bought (all these things fit the conversation we were having he didn’t just randomly bring them up) So maybe that was the hook.

Like I said I don’t think I want to “date” him. I guess my real question is would it be unwise to just see him again? Like do you think it’s possible we could just be friends? He is a good person to know in my line of work.

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Anonymous wrote:Can’t even believe a 40-year-old would even go on a date with him to begin with. I’m 44 and I barely date my own age—I will not go above it because there’s no need to. (However, I could care less humps on how much money somebody has because I’m never getting married again).

OP here - it wasn’t really a ‘date’ - he is someone I met through my work (same field but different company). He is retiring soon from a career path that I’m interested in so we’d discussed meeting some time to chat about it. But I guess it kind of turned into a date as we ended up talking about other things besides work. Like I said, I don’t think I am interested in dating him seriously but I guess I wouldn’t mind hanging out again - he was fun to talk to and has good energy. But I’m afraid if I do that he’s going to want more.

Say no. Is obvious he’s going to want more because men don’t talk to women they don’t want to have sex with. How do you not know this is 40 years old?

You're wrong. Women here love to declare exactly what men want and how they behave when they have no clue. I'm not too far from 60 and have friendship/relationships with several women I don't intend to have sex with.

I don’t even know how you managed to find these special unicorns known as “women worth talking to if you’re not having sex with them” - I’ve never met one. You are a lucky man!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I wouldn’t say I was not attracted. There was definitely a certain ‘something’ - he was charming, funny etc. The sugar baby angle wasn’t where I was going but I could see why it seemed that way. He did mention he’d previously dated a women who was 20 years younger and talked about how hes a “giver” and later showed me a pic of a new Mercerdes he’d just bought (all these things fit the conversation we were having he didn’t just randomly bring them up) So maybe that was the hook.

Like I said I don’t think I want to “date” him. I guess my real question is would it be unwise to just see him again? Like do you think it’s possible we could just be friends? He is a good person to know in my line of work.

You are overlooking the fact that he may want to date you. If he is important in your line of work be prepared to either a) fall for him or b) decide now whether this is someone you can afford to alienate if you date him and things don’t work out.

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Anonymous wrote:In 10 years he’ll be 75 and practically dead. Seriously why bother?!

Joe Biden is older than that, and he's the leader of the free world!

George W. Bush is 75 and in great shape and his paintings sell for lots of money. He will probably be around for another two decades.

[Anonymous]

Let us know how you feel when his big white wrinkly body is on top of you with his loose skin and old balls...