Should I mention to my kid that her breasts are budding?

[Anonymous]

Have you talked to her about puberty? This is totally normal and natural and if you haven’t already had this conversation then you need to get on it ASAP. I don’t think you have otherwise she would already know that her body is changing and what it means, or you would have that door of conversation already opened. Like the others have suggested, offered to take her shopping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course not! Don't you know it's inappropriate to comment on someone else's body?!

As a mother I think she can talk to her daughter about her changing body.

OP sounds like a creepy male pedo.

+1. It's a creepy pedo.

[Anonymous]

Ask about bra shopping - it was SO awkward for me to bring it up to my mom and I really wish she had mentioned it first. I endured a lot of teasing because I was trying to wait for her to take the lead because I was so embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have read several books and have had some ahead of time conversations but now that it it happening I don’t know what to do or say. Certainly she has noticed, right?
We change in front of each other (we have talked about stopping when/if she wants privacy). I can see it’s happening and I try to avoid looking to not make her feel subconscious but is it time to say something?

No. Say nothing. She is developing and her body is changing and when she wants to talk about these changes, she will let you know. I remember when I was beginning to develop and being asked if I had had my first period. I was beyond embarrassed and felt humiliated. Give her the privacy you wanted at her age!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you talked to her about puberty? This is totally normal and natural and if you haven’t already had this conversation then you need to get on it ASAP. I don’t think you have otherwise she would already know that her body is changing and what it means, or you would have that door of conversation already opened. Like the others have suggested, offered to take her shopping.

This! I talk to my three year old in an age appropriate way about nipples when she points to them with glee and asks if she has "milk for a baby?!!" ("Yes, but not now, when you're big, if you want a baby." She smiles and nods proudly.)

[Anonymous]

The title of the post is a little odd, but of course a mom should have these talks with a daughter. Get her some bras!

[Anonymous]

There's no universally right answer to this question, it totally depends on your family and your kid. Some obviously could be embarrassed by it (as some have indicated there were as kids), but in other cases this is totally a normal NBD conversation about "hey, should we go bralette shopping?" and some have expressed they wish their mom's HAD done so. In my case I agree that NOT talking about it makes a bigger deal of it and amplifies embarrassment or shame or whatever... we're pretty open about all subjects with our kids (as my Mom was with me) and that goes for all aspects of development, not excluding sexual development and put it on some sort of weird taboo pedastal or whatever. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

It's not like your daughter doesn't know this is happening. I assume you have had discussions about puberty?

[Anonymous]

I say no, don't directly address her "budding breasts" -- it's too cringey. But certainly offer to do some spring shopping soon and mention buying "new spring tops, underwear, and a bra if you're interested" or whatever. Give her an in, but don't comment directly on her changing body.

[Anonymous]

Many of the posters are spot on in my opinion. At this age kids are self cautious so all you have to do is suggest shopping for bras or bralettes. My daughter was very shy, and I just took her to the mall one day to do general clothes shopping, and while we were doing that we casually went to the lingerie Area. At that time I found out apparently a lot of girls wear Victoria’s Secret brand PINK so we ended up shopping there. By the way I am a mother so it all happened very organically

[Anonymous]

My girls were so self conscious about it that I just bought different kinds of beginner bras and put them in the drawer. After awhile I said they are there if you needs them. And some sports bras.
Then when they turn 13 and have real breasts they show them off in a way that’s a bit cringy. But again they are very self conscious so you can’t say much. GL OP.

[Anonymous]

It is possible also that she hadn’t noticed that it’s noticeable to other people. That happened to me. Cringing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is possible also that she hadn’t noticed that it’s noticeable to other people. That happened to me. Cringing.

This is what happened to me, too. I was horrified when my mom said she and my dad noticed that I needed to start wearing a bra. I was a late bloomer emotionally and so not ready for this business.

[Anonymous]

You mention that she might need to wear a bra soon. My 9yo started wearing one just for a sport. That went on for a couple months and now she wears one every day. They look like sports bras but there’s no cup to them. They just provide coverage.

[Anonymous]

It’s a little weird to me that some people won’t address it at all. It’s a natural and necessary conversation, which you can of course tailor to your particular child. With my daughter, who still walks around in just underwear at 10, I said “Time to go bra shopping, huh?!”