Girl name: Jacquelyn but ex’s name was Jack

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We named our daughter a very similar name to DH’s ex (think Julie vs. Juliana). It has never bothered me.

I wouldn't think it would, but did it bother dh?

Ha no — we definitely had a conversation about it before deciding the name! He was totally fine with it. They are just different enough for us all to be comfortable I think.

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My first little boyfriend when I was a kid was named Eric.

Years later, my husband and I named a child Erica.

I thought it was funny that it wound up that way, but I don’t really associate her name with him.

What do you think of the name Veronica? I think it has a similar vibe to the names you are considering. It was actually our first choice for Erica, but it just didn’t fit when we saw her. Still love the name though

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We gave our daughter the same name as the woman my husband dated before we met. I knew it was the name of DH’s ex, but it was my all-time favorite girl name so we went with it. It was never an issue for either of us, and no friend or family member ever said anything about it. If you love the name, use it.

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I don’t think you will think about it once you have the kid. My ex and I had agreed on a baby name (family name) that I ended up using for my first kid (also a family name just different family). I recently found out he has a son with the same name as mine and I laughed. My kid is the first thing that crosses my mind when I hear this name and I’m sure it will be the same for you.

[Anonymous]

Pick a different name!

[Anonymous]

I'd think of key and peele substitute teacher...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why Jacquelyn? It's not that common a name or that current a name. I'm wondering why you'd choose it considering your ex?

Jacqueline in all its spelling forms is a pretty common name in the high school where i teach. There are always about 20 in a population of 2K students.

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Op here: this is all really helpful input, thank you! Still not sure what to do. Would welcome more opinions!

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I would (use that name.)

When I was pregnant with my first baby, I really loved the name Susannah. LOVED it! My Dh had dated a girl in high school (so more than a decade prior!) named Suzanne.

It didn't bother me at all, but MIL FLIPPED OUT when we said if the baby was a girl we would name her Susannah. She insisted that "everyone" would think Dh was naming a baby after his ex girlfriend because he wasn't over her.

When we didn't change our mind about the name, she went out and bought a goat (yes, a GOAT!) and named the goat Susannah, because she thought that would change our minds ("you don't want to name your baby after a goat, do you?")

Our baby was a boy, so it became a non-issue.

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I call my daughter Maddie and I have an ex named Matt (who I called Marty.) ancient history, and my daughter is named for my late grandmother. I get joy out of seeing my daughter and being reminded of my grandmother, and never really think about the similarity of the name to my ex from many years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:I call my daughter Maddie and I have an ex named Matt (who I called Marty.) ancient history, and my daughter is named for my late grandmother. I get joy out of seeing my daughter and being reminded of my grandmother, and never really think about the similarity of the name to my ex from many years ago.

Sorry, called the ex Matty not Marty*

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We have a child with the same name as two of my spouse’s exes. It was my favorite name and the exes were from before I met my spouse and not all that important or long relationships in the big scheme of things.

I do hope neither of these exes think our child is named for one of them, haha!

(Now, there’s another ex whose name I would never, ever entertain the use of. Bad, bad feelings all around with that one.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would (use that name.)

When I was pregnant with my first baby, I really loved the name Susannah. LOVED it! My Dh had dated a girl in high school (so more than a decade prior!) named Suzanne.

It didn't bother me at all, but MIL FLIPPED OUT when we said if the baby was a girl we would name her Susannah. She insisted that "everyone" would think Dh was naming a baby after his ex girlfriend because he wasn't over her.

When we didn't change our mind about the name, she went out and bought a goat (yes, a GOAT!) and named the goat Susannah, because she thought that would change our minds ("you don't want to name your baby after a goat, do you?")

Our baby was a boy, so it became a non-issue.

OMG. Your MIL’s response would have pissed me off so much! She sounds ridiculous! So sorry you had to endure that (even though you had a boy).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you name your daughter Jacquelyn if one of your serious ex-boyfriend’s names before DH was Jack? I love the name Jacquelyn and Jackie for short but I’m wondering if it will cause me (or my family who had previously met him) to think of my ex. Things didn’t end too well between us but I think I can get over it since it’s just a similar name, right? What does DCUMs think? Will I regret it?

You are already debating if it will make you think of your ex. So yes, it will make you think of your ex.

Pick a different name, and not one that begins with a J. Don't look for a loophole. Decide on a new name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: this is all really helpful input, thank you! Still not sure what to do. Would welcome more opinions!

I see your comments involve phrases like "I think" and "pretty sure" and "not sure."

Sounds like a red flag! Pick to different name.