When you talk about your parents to others... do you say...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very close, but only say "Mom took us ..." to my siblings. Not even to my cousins.

This. I have some friends who just say "Mom" or "Dad" and it always makes me do a double-take.

I worked with a woman (she was 26 or 27) who was raised by a single dad - I can't remember why - and would refer to him when talking to us, her COWORKERS, as "Daddy." Skeeved me out. "Daddy is taking me to New York for the long weekend." At first we thought this was a romantic sugar daddy situation so we nominated one coworker to ask. Nope. Her actual father.

[Anonymous]

My mom and my dad. Not particularly close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very close, but only say "Mom took us ..." to my siblings. Not even to my cousins.

This. I have some friends who just say "Mom" or "Dad" and it always makes me do a double-take.

I worked with a woman (she was 26 or 27) who was raised by a single dad - I can't remember why - and would refer to him when talking to us, her COWORKERS, as "Daddy." Skeeved me out. "Daddy is taking me to New York for the long weekend." At first we thought this was a romantic sugar daddy situation so we nominated one coworker to ask. Nope. Her actual father.

Well, bless your heart. That's a regionalism. It is very common, for example, for people from the South to say "Daddy" instead of Dad, just like some people in the North-East will say "Mummy" instead of Mom. Try to get out of your tunnel, PP. It will do you a world of good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my mom and my dad. very much so.

+1

If I'm recounting a funny or exciting story, and they are basically characters in the story, I might call them Mom and Dad. If I'm talking about them or something they did, I'd say my mom and dad.

So...

"My mom made great lasagna and my dad loved to fish."

But...

"So there I was, standing in the middle of the living room, dripping wet and holding a bucket of fish, and the smoke alarm is going off, and Dad's trying to wrangle the chickens, and Mom says, 'I hope you remembered to buy milk!'"

Same. I'm very close with my parents. Sometimes I'll say "Dad" and sometimes I will say "my Dad." I just came back from my parent's house. As I was driving I stopped and saw a neighbor. While we chatted I mentioned that I had been to see "my parents because Dad needed help with his computer. And, look, my mom sent me home a Sweet Potato Pie!"

[Anonymous]

I use the "my" in front unless talking to my siblings. It annoys me when people don't. Your mom isn't EVERYONE's mom, just yours.

One of my friends from high school used to say "my" even when talking to her sister-I thought that was so weird. She'd say something to her sister like "My mom said that when we get home from school she wants us to vacuum the living room and walk the dog." They both had the same mom--so it was weird to me that they used "my."

[Anonymous]

Initially in the conversation, I’d say “my mom” but then I might shorten to “mom.”

Ex: “My mom called yesterday afternoon. I told her we got the house! She was so excited. She told my dad, too. Mom’s gonna come down to visit on the 13th and help me pick out curtains.”

We’re pretty close.

[Anonymous]

We are close. I use "my mom/dad".

[Anonymous]

I say My mom and My dad. We are very close always have been.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:my mom and my dad. very much so.

+1

If I'm recounting a funny or exciting story, and they are basically characters in the story, I might call them Mom and Dad. If I'm talking about them or something they did, I'd say my mom and dad.

So...

"My mom made great lasagna and my dad loved to fish."

But...

"So there I was, standing in the middle of the living room, dripping wet and holding a bucket of fish, and the smoke alarm is going off, and Dad's trying to wrangle the chickens, and Mom says, 'I hope you remembered to buy milk!'"

Same. I'm very close with my parents. Sometimes I'll say "Dad" and sometimes I will say "my Dad." I just came back from my parent's house. As I was driving I stopped and saw a neighbor. While we chatted I mentioned that I had been to see "my parents because Dad needed help with his computer. And, look, my mom sent me home a Sweet Potato Pie!"

Same here.

[Anonymous]

I say my.. when talking to others. I say your… when talking to my siblings. It’s not “our mother/brother,” it’s “your mother/brother.” Our mother is dysfunctional, so none of us claim her, and it has become our dysfunctional vernacular.

[Anonymous]

I had one friend 20 years ago who would refer to her mother just as "mom" even though this woman was not MY mom. I still remember how weird it was an it's been 25 years since I've seen either of these people.

So yeah, my mom, and mom with my siblings. I don't even say just "mom" with my sibling's spouses.

[Anonymous]

Fascinating thread.

Never really paid attention to this. Nor would it bother me if someone referred to their mother as mom in conversation. I know they are talking about their mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very close, but only say "Mom took us ..." to my siblings. Not even to my cousins.

This. I have some friends who just say "Mom" or "Dad" and it always makes me do a double-take.

I worked with a woman (she was 26 or 27) who was raised by a single dad - I can't remember why - and would refer to him when talking to us, her COWORKERS, as "Daddy." Skeeved me out. "Daddy is taking me to New York for the long weekend." At first we thought this was a romantic sugar daddy situation so we nominated one coworker to ask. Nope. Her actual father.

Well, bless your heart. That's a regionalism. It is very common, for example, for people from the South to say "Daddy" instead of Dad, just like some people in the North-East will say "Mummy" instead of Mom. Try to get out of your tunnel, PP. It will do you a world of good.

Go bless your own heart, PP. The former coworker wasn't from the South. She was from California. NORTHERN California.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very close, but only say "Mom took us ..." to my siblings. Not even to my cousins.

This. I have some friends who just say "Mom" or "Dad" and it always makes me do a double-take.

I worked with a woman (she was 26 or 27) who was raised by a single dad - I can't remember why - and would refer to him when talking to us, her COWORKERS, as "Daddy." Skeeved me out. "Daddy is taking me to New York for the long weekend." At first we thought this was a romantic sugar daddy situation so we nominated one coworker to ask. Nope. Her actual father.

Ugh. Women who refer to their fathers as "Daddy" to OTHER PEOPLE are the worst. He's not my daddy, sweetie!

Personally I refer to my mother and my father as my mother and my father in conversation. It's weird to me to use diminutives of any sort to other people, though I address them as Mom and Dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very close, but only say "Mom took us ..." to my siblings. Not even to my cousins.

This. I have some friends who just say "Mom" or "Dad" and it always makes me do a double-take.

Now, I can’t stand when my MIL talks to me about my mother and/or refers to my mother using her first name.

MIL (to me): How’s Doris?

Me: Great. She heading to the beach for a few days.

MIL: Please tell Doris I said hello.

What? It’s her name. What is bothersome about that?