When did you start TTC after baby 1?

[Anonymous]

Had my first at 32. Had IF issues and did not want to go back on hormonal BC, so started TTC at 9 months. Took significantly longer and ended up with a 3-year age gap.

I am huge proponent of the 3-year gap... close enough to be friends, far enough apart to have their own interests. Oldest is old enough to entertain themselves, use the toilet, feed themselves, help in small ways, etc. when the baby is born.

[Anonymous]

Started trying for #2 10-11 months after DS was born. It took around 18 months to have any success conceiving the first time around (with no known fertility issues for either DH or me), so I figured I'd have at least a year before conceiving successfully again. Well... not so much! I got pregnant almost immediately and so DS and DD are 20 months apart.

I was nervous about having "2 under 2," and it is a whirlwind most days. But at this age (DS is now 3.5 and DD is 2), they're really starting to play with each other and have become best buddies. It's really cute to watch. DH and I would like to have a third at some point, but I believe we'll wait another year to start trying again.

[Anonymous]

15 months, would’ve tried earlier but that’s when my cycle finally came back. Got pregnant immediately but had a chemical pregnancy. Got pregnant again several months later and now have a 28 month gap.

Too soon to say whether this was a stupid idea or not 🤣 but so far it is hard to have a newborn and a newly potty trained toddler who needs a lot of help using the toilet. In that sense 3 year gap might be easier but who knows, I didn’t want to wait that long to try again because I was already 36. We are done having kids now so I just have to deal with the fallout 🤣

[Anonymous]

My cycles didn't come back until my daughter was about 1.5. I have fertility struggles so we started trying right away and it took over 4 years to get pregnant.

[Anonymous]

I had my kids and 33 & 35. I started when my first turned 1 year.

[Anonymous]

Had my first at 34 and for sure did not feel ready when he turned 1. We started when he was 21 months for the illustrious 2.5 year age difference. Conceived in the 2nd month (same as with first) and I feel like it has worked out perfectly so far. First was pretty clingy when 2nd was born, so was helpful to have someone else pay him lots of attention or let me pay attention to him, but otherwise all good. THey play together really nicely now at 5.5 and 3.

[Anonymous]

Had my first at nearly 35 and imagine we would wait a few years to try again. We were not very careful and got pregnant when our first was 11 months old. I think deep down we didn’t mind. I’m excited at our two little ones growing up so close in age and will definitely wait longer for our next and final child.

[Anonymous]

With my first two babies, I started TTC at age 1, and then I took a break after the third baby for a few years. Had them at 31, 33, 35, and 38.

[Anonymous]

Had #1 at age 30 (after a miscarriage)and waited 14 months before starting to try for #2. Got pregnant right away, and they were just under 2 years apart. The first couple years were a an exhausting blur, but the relatively close age gap was fantastic once the little one became a toddler. After #2 spent five years or so on the fence before trying for a third at age 38. Now the kids are ten, eight, and one, and it's fantastic. The big ones are a huge help with the baby, and it's such a joy for everyone. A lot of laundry though.

[Anonymous]

I did at 1 yr 3 months. Got pregnant right away then lost the baby in the 2nd trimester. Over 6 months of time lost, trying again.

[Anonymous]

Living in DC, couldn't afford childcare for 2 kids at the same time.

Wanted them closer together, but started trying as soon as #1 would be going to DC universal prek. so at the 2 year and 3 month mark.. so they'll have a 3 year gap. unfortunately, life works in funny ways, I didn't end up getting pregnant right away like the first time. I am pregnant with #2, 4 year gap. I'm slightly disappointed about the larger gap, but ultimately I'm so excited since my oldest will be kinda like a helper.

[Anonymous]

Another 2 under 2 situation here. Needed IVF for #1. Stopped preventing, weren’t really trying, and pregnant after two cycles when #1 was 14 months old. Kids are 22 months apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another 2 under 2 situation here. Needed IVF for #1. Stopped preventing, weren’t really trying, and pregnant after two cycles when #1 was 14 months old. Kids are 22 months apart.

Should’ve said this but I was 31 with first kid and 33 with second

[Anonymous]

Waited til our first was 18 months bc 18 months between pregnancies is what my doctor recommended as healthiest for mom and baby. Luckily got pregnant on first try so our kids are 27 months apart. It was hard the first year when they were both so little but it’s great now that they’re 7 and 5. I think around ages 2 and 4 they really started playing together and they’ve always been really close. Boy and girl. I do think that their closeness is more due to their personalities than age gap though. My nephew and his younger brother are 3 years 2 months apart and also close. My brother and I are 7 years apart and also close.

But I had my kids at ages 30 and 32 and had no fertility issues at all + easy pregnancies and deliveries. If I was 34 and had fertility issues before I’d probably want to get on it a bit sooner.

[Anonymous]

Had mine at 29, 31, and 33. No fertility issues. If I had had fertility issues or concerns with the first I would have started trying at 6 months with an ok from the doctor.