Ugh...Incredibly over nighttime potty training

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I apologize for yet another potty training question...but after DS woke me up this morning at 4AM on a weekend, by waddling into our room with a diaper that was about a drop away from turning into a massive gel-bead explosion, asking for us to change him, I've got to ask...

How long is it normal for kids to still be in diapers at night?

DS is 5, (FIVE!!) and still pees more like you'd expect a young toddler to overnight. I'm not talking one or two nights a week where there's an occasional accident. I mean like multiple pees, EVERY night, like clockwork. I understand it's normal for kids to have accidents, but I'm growing concerned that DS is maxing out an overnight diaper each and every night. Are we in problem territory?

We stop all liquids approximately 2 hours before bedtime, make sure he pees right before bed, and DS has no medical issues whatsoever.

Please tell me this is temporary.


No more liquids after dinnertime. Pee 3 times between dinner and bedtime.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Get the Roger wireless pee alarm. It worked with both kids within a few days. The first few nights you have to get up when it rings to bring your kid to the potty. After 3-4 nights the connection was made in the brain and they didn’t need the alarm anymore.


We had success with a pee alarm, too, although my son was 7. But it took closer to 2 weeks.


Anonymous wrote:Get the Roger wireless pee alarm. It worked with both kids within a few days. The first few nights you have to get up when it rings to bring your kid to the potty. After 3-4 nights the connection was made in the brain and they didn’t need the alarm anymore.


This is something I've heard mentioned before, but haven't fully understand what it does. Does it just vibrate or something when wetness is detected? Is it something they wear? Or does it clip on to existing underwear? Could it be worn with a diaper?
Anonymous
Yes, you put a guide wire in the diaper, which leads to a battery powered alarm that you pin to the jammie top. When wetness is detected, the alarm goes off. The one we used vibrated as well.

The alarm is INCREDIBLY loud, and the vibration shakes the whole bed. And yet the first few nights we used it, my DS slept right through it. I had to wake him. It became very clear how he was sleeping through peeing lol.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Your five-year-old is not a toddler! Get him some pull ups and let him change them himself if he has to. I can’t even imagine a five-year-old demanding his diaper be changed by mom!!!


Anonymous wrote:

Your son is 5. That’s way out of toddler stage!! At five, he should be able to put on, take off and change his own pull up. Pull up and no pj bottoms. Potty in his room is a good idea.

He absolutely should not be in diapers.


DS peed out of pull ups every time we attempted to use them, regardless of them being for nighttime or not. He doesn't wake up when he's wet usually. In fact it's unusual for him to wake up for any reason at all at night. We strongly suspect he did NOT wake up because of having a wet diaper last night.

We've never had a potty in there with him, but DS's bedroom is two feet away from a bathroom that is shared between the kids' rooms. But he doesn't wake up needing to go potty, like ever.
Anonymous
1. Why is he in a diaper and not something like a night time pull up or Goodnites? Those hold more.

DS actually asked for us to go back to diapers after we'd been using nighttime pull-ups for a few months. For some reason, we found that Goodnites actually leaked MORE than the standard night pull-ups (which also leaked frequently). Diapers generally haven't leaked for us, as long as I'm able to find the brand we typically use in his size.

2. Wake him up and change his pull-up and take him to the bathroom before you go to sleep.

I may start doing this. Although I'm generally a wimp and go to bed quite early these days.

3. Some kids just take longer - my kid was a very deep sleeper and a nighttime pee would NOT wake her up, even if she was wearing underwear. Even a bedwetting alarm did not wake her up. We just had to wait it out. That said, it sounds like your kid, if he wakes up at night and asks you to change him, is ready for a bedwetting alarm. Try it.

I should have been more clear in the OP, sorry. But it is VERY unusual for DS to be waking up at night, for any reason at all. My concern is more that he's waking up every. single. morning. with a swollen huge diaper. Like, I can count on one hand the amount of times he's woken up dry in his life.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:1. Why is he in a diaper and not something like a night time pull up or Goodnites? Those hold more.

DS actually asked for us to go back to diapers after we'd been using nighttime pull-ups for a few months. For some reason, we found that Goodnites actually leaked MORE than the standard night pull-ups (which also leaked frequently). Diapers generally haven't leaked for us, as long as I'm able to find the brand we typically use in his size.

2. Wake him up and change his pull-up and take him to the bathroom before you go to sleep.

I may start doing this. Although I'm generally a wimp and go to bed quite early these days.

3. Some kids just take longer - my kid was a very deep sleeper and a nighttime pee would NOT wake her up, even if she was wearing underwear. Even a bedwetting alarm did not wake her up. We just had to wait it out. That said, it sounds like your kid, if he wakes up at night and asks you to change him, is ready for a bedwetting alarm. Try it.

I should have been more clear in the OP, sorry. But it is VERY unusual for DS to be waking up at night, for any reason at all. My concern is more that he's waking up every. single. morning. with a swollen huge diaper. Like, I can count on one hand the amount of times he's woken up dry in his life.



Normal. Really. Ask your pediatrician.
Anonymous
[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get the Roger wireless pee alarm. It worked with both kids within a few days. The first few nights you have to get up when it rings to bring your kid to the potty. After 3-4 nights the connection was made in the brain and they didn’t need the alarm anymore. [/quote]

We had success with a pee alarm, too, although my son was 7. But it took closer to 2 weeks.[/quote]

[quote=Anonymous]Get the Roger wireless pee alarm. It worked with both kids within a few days. The first few nights you have to get up when it rings to bring your kid to the potty. After 3-4 nights the connection was made in the brain and they didn’t need the alarm anymore. [/quote]

This is something I've heard mentioned before, but haven't fully understand what it does. Does it just vibrate or something when wetness is detected? Is it something they wear? Or does it clip on to existing underwear? Could it be worn with a diaper?[/quote]

It comes with a special underwear. Looks and feel like a regular underwear but it has some tiny metallic thread that can detect pee. You clip a small coin size receiver on the underwear and it’s wirelessly connected to an alarm that you plug in an outlet. It rings loud as soon as there is a drop of pee. My kids would be to sleepy to walk themselves to the potty the first few nights so I jumped out of bed when I head the alarm and walked them to the bathroom. I was surprise how well it worked.
Anonymous
It’s normal. It sucks, but it’s normal.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I apologize for yet another potty training question...but after DS woke me up this morning at 4AM on a weekend, by waddling into our room with a diaper that was about a drop away from turning into a massive gel-bead explosion, asking for us to change him, I've got to ask...

How long is it normal for kids to still be in diapers at night?

DS is 5, (FIVE!!) and still pees more like you'd expect a young toddler to overnight. I'm not talking one or two nights a week where there's an occasional accident. I mean like multiple pees, EVERY night, like clockwork. I understand it's normal for kids to have accidents, but I'm growing concerned that DS is maxing out an overnight diaper each and every night. Are we in problem territory?

We stop all liquids approximately 2 hours before bedtime, make sure he pees right before bed, and DS has no medical issues whatsoever.

Please tell me this is temporary.



Your son is 5. That’s way out of toddler stage!! At five, he should be able to put on, take off and change his own pull up. Pull up and no pj bottoms. Potty in his room is a good idea.

He absolutely should not be in diapers.


+1

This is the epitome of lazy parenting.
Anonymous
We recently night-trained our 4 year old - 4 and 3/4 really so almost 5. She'd been in pullups for a couple of years but she never stayed dry. Because she didn't have to, and she knew it. We limit liquids after dinner, make sure she pees right before bed - even if she went 15 minutes before - and do a twilight bathroom trip around 11:45. For the first two weeks we also did one at 4 am but that proved not to be necessary.

She trained pretty easily. There have been three accidents in the past 6 weeks, which isn't terrible; and the last was already two weeks ago. I'm sorry we left it so long. We had the same experience with our first kid though we did it when he was almost four - he just didn't stay dry in a pull-up, but take it off and miraculously he did.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I apologize for yet another potty training question...but after DS woke me up this morning at 4AM on a weekend, by waddling into our room with a diaper that was about a drop away from turning into a massive gel-bead explosion, asking for us to change him, I've got to ask...

How long is it normal for kids to still be in diapers at night?

DS is 5, (FIVE!!) and still pees more like you'd expect a young toddler to overnight. I'm not talking one or two nights a week where there's an occasional accident. I mean like multiple pees, EVERY night, like clockwork. I understand it's normal for kids to have accidents, but I'm growing concerned that DS is maxing out an overnight diaper each and every night. Are we in problem territory?

We stop all liquids approximately 2 hours before bedtime, make sure he pees right before bed, and DS has no medical issues whatsoever.

Please tell me this is temporary.



Your son is 5. That’s way out of toddler stage!! At five, he should be able to put on, take off and change his own pull up. Pull up and no pj bottoms. Potty in his room is a good idea.

He absolutely should not be in diapers.


OP did not say her son is a toddler. She said he pees like you would expect from a toddler. Calm yourself down.

And absolutely not in diapers? There is zero real practical difference between a pull up and a diaper. They sell diapers that "pull up" anyway.

Listen, nighttime training is a different thing. The body produces an hormone that will allow the body to wake up easily from a full bladder. Without that hormone production, kids sleep too deeply to feel the need to pee. What age that hormone starts to be produced is different from individual to individual. My kids all potty trained around 2 years old, but it took a long time to be night trained. I kept waiting for the pull up to be dry in the morning, and it never was. Then, I would try letting them sleep in underwear and doing the twilight pee, and it either worked, or I got tired of washing sheets, comforter, and duvet multiple times a week. In that case, I would go back to pull ups and revisit it in 6 months or so. My kids didn't nighttime train until well after age 5, but it all happened eventually!
Anonymous
Relax… my child was 6 almost 7. Pedestrian said not to worry until they are 8.
Anonymous
My 5 year old still wears good nights, but he definitely
Gets up on his own in the morning and takes it off and puts it in the trash can.
Anonymous
By the way I say good night because pull ups caused him to have a diaper rash - there was so much pee I think. We went back to diapers so it would hold it better, but then I read about Good Nights in here which are basically pull ups for older kids and they work better with no rash.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:1. Why is he in a diaper and not something like a night time pull up or Goodnites? Those hold more.

DS actually asked for us to go back to diapers after we'd been using nighttime pull-ups for a few months. For some reason, we found that Goodnites actually leaked MORE than the standard night pull-ups (which also leaked frequently). Diapers generally haven't leaked for us, as long as I'm able to find the brand we typically use in his size.

2. Wake him up and change his pull-up and take him to the bathroom before you go to sleep.

I may start doing this. Although I'm generally a wimp and go to bed quite early these days.

3. Some kids just take longer - my kid was a very deep sleeper and a nighttime pee would NOT wake her up, even if she was wearing underwear. Even a bedwetting alarm did not wake her up. We just had to wait it out. That said, it sounds like your kid, if he wakes up at night and asks you to change him, is ready for a bedwetting alarm. Try it.

I should have been more clear in the OP, sorry. But it is VERY unusual for DS to be waking up at night, for any reason at all. My concern is more that he's waking up every. single. morning. with a swollen huge diaper. Like, I can count on one hand the amount of times he's woken up dry in his life.




Totally normal. My kid is ten and has never woken up dry. NEVER. It runs in our family for males, and they all grow up to be great, healthy, normal adults. You can train this, so just buy stock in Proctor Gamble and wait it out.
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