Religious Parents/Early Marriage

[Anonymous]

If you are devout and not okay with sex out of wedlock, you may have to agree to a younger marriage before gaining life experience,securing financial stability and achieving professional goals.

What’s an early marriage is changing. At one point pre-pubescent was early, then teen marriage was early, now bar has been raised to marriage in 20’s as early. With aging and fertility solutions, 41 may become the new 21. It’s sad but it is what it is. Monogamy and parenthood doesn’t hold as much value as it did before.

[Anonymous]

No two people or two families are the same. If both undergrad are getting employed, have no debt or both families are able to support, its perfectly fine to marry early if they want to.

[Anonymous]

Your religiosity or irreligiosity has nothing to do with life changing decisions of other adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying younger is better than marrying older, but that a successful young marriage (even more than any marriage) requires profound devotion to the institution as well as the intended spouse. Marriage is tough. It requires huge self-sacrifice. Kids, financial issues, employment demands, possible relocation for more education or work all add additional stress. Maturity and life experience can make these stresses easier to handle, but not all experience is helpful. Some experience can reinforce attitudes and habits that are antithetical to a successful marriage. Shared religious/social values certainly make a marriage more likely to succeed, but they are not guarantees. One of the strengths of a younger marriage is that the partners come over time to have shared a larger portion of their time together, as compared to people who got together later.

Yes—notoriously, those of us who marry later come to spend a smaller and smaller portion of our total lifetimes with our spouses as the years go by.

tf?? lol

[Anonymous]

One advantage of younger marriage (not teen but more like like 21-25) is growing together compared to starting when both are 30+, set in their ways and have collected lots of life baggage to cloud their thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are religious, would you want/expect/encourage your adult child get married right after undergrad.

No, never. In fact I have made an effort to encourage my daughters to live their lives a little before settling down. I do not understand parents who are trying to marry their daughters off at a young age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying younger is better than marrying older, but that a successful young marriage (even more than any marriage) requires profound devotion to the institution as well as the intended spouse. Marriage is tough. It requires huge self-sacrifice. Kids, financial issues, employment demands, possible relocation for more education or work all add additional stress. Maturity and life experience can make these stresses easier to handle, but not all experience is helpful. Some experience can reinforce attitudes and habits that are antithetical to a successful marriage. Shared religious/social values certainly make a marriage more likely to succeed, but they are not guarantees. One of the strengths of a younger marriage is that the partners come over time to have shared a larger portion of their time together, as compared to people who got together later.

Yes—notoriously, those of us who marry later come to spend a smaller and smaller portion of our total lifetimes with our spouses as the years go by.

tf?? lol

+++ From a person who has been married almost 29 years (married at 22)... I sometimes wish marriage had an expiration date. Maybe my DH would be a little more motivated if he had to renew this contract.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think marrying younger is better than marrying older, but that a successful young marriage (even more than any marriage) requires profound devotion to the institution as well as the intended spouse. Marriage is tough. It requires huge self-sacrifice. Kids, financial issues, employment demands, possible relocation for more education or work all add additional stress. Maturity and life experience can make these stresses easier to handle, but not all experience is helpful. Some experience can reinforce attitudes and habits that are antithetical to a successful marriage. Shared religious/social values certainly make a marriage more likely to succeed, but they are not guarantees. One of the strengths of a younger marriage is that the partners come over time to have shared a larger portion of their time together, as compared to people who got together later.

Yes—notoriously, those of us who marry later come to spend a smaller and smaller portion of our total lifetimes with our spouses as the years go by.

tf?? lol

+++ From a person who has been married almost 29 years (married at 22)... I sometimes wish marriage had an expiration date. Maybe my DH would be a little more motivated if he had to renew this contract.

Stipulation of a divorce is the inherent motivation to do well.