How long it took did you date before marrying?
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Anonymous
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4 years ..
Marry in haste, repent at leisure … |
Anonymous
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According to recent data, most couples date for two or more years before getting engaged, with many dating anywhere from two to five years. Once the question is popped, the average length of engagement is between 12 and 18 months.
Oct 19, 2020 https://www.brides.com/story/how-long-should-you-date-before-engaged Researchers found the 'right' amount of time to date before getting married • A study found that waiting a bit to get married can decrease the likelihood you'll get divorced. • Specifically, waiting three years or more decreases the likelihood of divorce by 50%. • But there's no one-size-fits-all amount of time — couples who waited until they knew each other "very well" had the same outcome. https://www.businessinsider.com/how-long-you-should-date-before-you-get-married-2017-10 |
Anonymous
| We dated for 2.5 years before marrying. Our engagement was quick (just 3 months) because we had a very low-key, casual wedding. |
Anonymous
| Dated 2.5. Married 1.5 years later. Married 7.5 years. |
Anonymous
| Nine years, but we met at 19. |
Anonymous
| We were together for 3.5 years before marriage. Got engaged about 10 mos before the wedding. Probably would have happened sooner if not for covid. |
Anonymous
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Dated a year before engagement, married a year later.
But we were also 29/31 when we met, and each had a long term, serious relationship under our belts. I think we both really knew what we wanted and who we were, which honestly made it an easy decision. It would have taken longer at 22. We laughed that we weren't each other's longest relationship until after our son was born! Been married only four years now, two kids, still deliriously happy. |
Anonymous
| 3 months to engagement, married about a year after that. |
Anonymous
| 1.5 years before getting engaged. Married one year after that. |
Anonymous
Why did you marry him? You wanted to break up! That’s a big red flag that you shouldn’t commit to forever with this person. |
Anonymous
| 3 years. |
Anonymous
| 4.5 months from meeting him to married. |
Anonymous
I don't agree. We married after 3 years. If the guy is not proposing after 2 years, especially after late 20s, he's stringing you along. My BFF dated hers for 10 years and he refused to get married. He was always saying next year etc., so she missed her fertility window on this guy. |
Anonymous
| friends for about 4 months, dated for 4 months and asked her to marry me, engagement 7 months (wedding delayed by 9/11 - I was in the military), just had our 20th anniversary and going strong. Definitely the only girl strong enough to put me in my place when I need it |
Anonymous
My sister married someone after knowing him just six months and it was disastrous - decades of emotional abuse: I also have a good friends who rushed into marriage with a man who emotionally abused her for many years. Both wish they had gotten to know their husbands better before marrying them. The men rushed the marriages probably realizing that their controlling critical real selves would become apparent if they waited too long. One even said as much later. The stats speak for themselves - people who wait at least three years reduce risk of divorce by half. Better the Devil you know … |