accepting how wonderful death can be

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not scared of death. I'm scared of dying. There are so many ways to die that hurt so much!

Exactly. I've never been afraid of death. It's just the next big adventure. But I am afraid of leaving my young children to other people's tender mercies, and I am afraid of pain and suffering. My own, and that of others'.

[Anonymous]

I almost died from a heart attack at age 45 and that made me realize I am not afraid to die. I am more than 20 years older now and I still feel the same. My mother died since then and I believe if there's any chance of seeing her again it involves dying and that also keeps me from being afraid of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can the PPs with the near death experiences share details if you are comfortable? This has always been fascinating to me.

What do you want to know? I saw bright white light and all of the noise and chaos of the hospital room faded away. I was cold but I became warm. Not hot but the perfect temperature. I was completely comfortable and content to just go.

I was agnostic if that matters. And after almost dying I still am

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can the PPs with the near death experiences share details if you are comfortable? This has always been fascinating to me.

What do you want to know? I saw bright white light and all of the noise and chaos of the hospital room faded away. I was cold but I became warm. Not hot but the perfect temperature. I was completely comfortable and content to just go.

I was agnostic if that matters. And after almost dying I still am

When you became conscious again what did doctors tell you about your physical self at that moment?

[Anonymous]

Hell, no. There’s plenty of time to be dead. I’m fighting it as long as I can. I am NOT going gently into that good night….

[Anonymous]

I was afraid, but now that my husband passed away unexpectedly, I’m not. He suffered horribly though.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not afraid of death and haven’t been for many years. I was when I was younger but I got over that by my 30s. I have worked primarily hospice caregiving the last half decade and that has reinforced my inner peace about death. The only thing I fear is having no control over the means and manner of my death, or having to endure a prolonged and painful decline. I have an exit plan that I will utilize under such circumstances, for instance if diagnosed with advancing dementia or late stage cancer or some other very debilitating condition. I believe wholeheartedly in rational suicide/euthanasia and hope someday it will be legal in all states for people to choose their own exit if they want to. In states where it is legal it isn’t often utilized but the option brings great comfort to many faced with terminal diagnoses.

Do you think you could actually execute your plan if you had advancing dementia? That is something I worry about, my mom has dementia and says all the time that she wishes she would die but she does not have the mental capacity to commit suicide. Dementia can sneak up on you. I worry I will end up in the same situation as my mom because I won't figur eout I have dementia early enough to do anything about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can the PPs with the near death experiences share details if you are comfortable? This has always been fascinating to me.

Words fail to describe it, but I'll try. I could hear, feel, see everything around me physically and also things I shouldn't have been able to experience. The light was like sunshine, even though I was underwater. I knew everything was okay, whether I lived or died. Honestly, being in the place I would be if I died seemed better than living. I was rescued and resuscitated and longed to go back. Eventually, I started thinking of death and what comes after as a big trip I will get to take someday. I live my life enjoying experiences, relationships and nature. Love is the only thing that matters. I didn't see Jesus or angels or loved ones, btw.

[Anonymous]

Great thoughtful topic OP. Death is what gives life meaning. It's only because our time is limited that we cherish and see the importance of spending our time wisely and connect with others. Death also allows us to step aside and let the younger people live their lives in society and at home.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a near death experience when I was 10. I lost all fear of death, both mine and other people. I am 50, so I have been at peace with death for 40 years.

Same girl same! But I was 26.
Must have been amazing and scary for you to gain so much wisdom at such a young age.

Interesting! I have not had a near-death experience, but I imagine for some that do, perhaps it would make someone *more* fearful of dying, because you've had that experience that yes, it could happen to you, and it could happen any day. I'm glad both of you instead seem to have taken something really positive out of the experience.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a near death experience when I was 10. I lost all fear of death, both mine and other people. I am 50, so I have been at peace with death for 40 years.

Same girl same! But I was 26.
Must have been amazing and scary for you to gain so much wisdom at such a young age.

Interesting! I have not had a near-death experience, but I imagine for some that do, perhaps it would make someone *more* fearful of dying, because you've had that experience that yes, it could happen to you, and it could happen any day. I'm glad both of you instead seem to have taken something really positive out of the experience.

Being so close to death and surviving made me appreciate how fleeting life is. I had a peek into what comes after and it is wonderful and not to be feared.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not scared of death. I'm scared of dying. There are so many ways to die that hurt so much!

Exactly. I've never been afraid of death. It's just the next big adventure. But I am afraid of leaving my young children to other people's tender mercies, and I am afraid of pain and suffering. My own, and that of others'.

This is me exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:accepting how wonderful death can be , I started accepting death I am in my 70s and I know it will be now, but when It comes I'll be okay with it, I had a fun life, Served in the Army for 20 years. Been overseas travel to all 50 states, and just had fun along the way. What is the average age to accept death?

I don't know what the average age is. My mom died at 78 and my dad at 90 and neither had accepted it by the time they died (they both knew it was imminent due to medical conditions). I hope I'm more accepting of death when I am their age, but who knows.

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Anonymous wrote:OP I thought you might like this article: "WHY I HOPE TO DIE AT 75: An argument that society and families—and you—will be better off if nature takes its course swiftly and promptly"

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2014/10/why-i-hope-to-die-at-75/379329/

He reserves the right to change his mind. It’s easy to pontificate when you are younger and healthy.

[Anonymous]

I’m not scared of dying - only scared of having others around me prematurely die.