Is this a normal but annoying facet of sibling relationships?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to be a parent and handle this. Yes to stop it and give consequences.

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[Anonymous]

She's 11. I think at this age you have a real conversation ~ is this the person she wants to be? Farting, really? No joke here. You are raising a young lady (or it would be a young gentleman) This isn't a joke. I think you start having the expectation of her as you would a friend. Lunch out, shopping. Treat her as a young lady. And expect some manners. She's really needs some polishing.

[Anonymous]

Don't be a parent too afraid to call out bad behavior. Tell her point blank that she's being obnoxious, because she is! If her feelings are hurt it's because the truth does sting when you're in the wrong. Tell her that if she wouldn't do something to her friends (and she wouldn't do this or she'd have none!) then she can't do it to siblings. Nip the brattiness now with some firm consequences.

That said, you can balance it by reminding that as the older she has priviledges as well as responsibilities. If she has her own room, make it off limits to the others without permission. I never use that space as punishment because I want it to be my kids' refuge when they need a break.
Remind her she can go there whenever she needs to get away from them if they're annoying her or from everyone if she needs some time to herself.

Hitting of any kind I positively do not tolerate. No one - no one - in my house raises a hand to anyone else. They can bicker, yell, whatever but hitting (even in jest because "I was just kidding" is never a shared sentiment!) is not okay. Sit all of them down now for a reminder that you are a no-hitting family. Everyone.

[Anonymous]

It may be a bit late for you OP but as a fellow only child I read Siblings without Rivalry. It may help you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your 11 year old is bullying her much younger siblings. If the siblings were on anything resembling equal footing, it might be within the range of normal, but, since you are talking about a 3 year old and a 7 year old, they are pretty defenseless and she is taking advantage of that. Put a stop to it.

It's a concerning that a child that age is trying to assert dominance/have power over kids so young. No, it is not normal. Just because a lot of things were ignored in our day it doesn't mean it's normal. Those same parents are now wondering why their adult child has so many interpersonal issues.

This is a poster who was an only child and only has one child.

And never met anyone with siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your 11 year old is bullying her much younger siblings. If the siblings were on anything resembling equal footing, it might be within the range of normal, but, since you are talking about a 3 year old and a 7 year old, they are pretty defenseless and she is taking advantage of that. Put a stop to it.

It's a concerning that a child that age is trying to assert dominance/have power over kids so young. No, it is not normal. Just because a lot of things were ignored in our day it doesn't mean it's normal. Those same parents are now wondering why their adult child has so many interpersonal issues.

This is a poster who was an only child and only has one child.

And never met anyone with siblings.

It isn't normal for an 11 year old to hit a 3 year old, sorry. If you want to excuse it, that's on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your 11 year old is bullying her much younger siblings. If the siblings were on anything resembling equal footing, it might be within the range of normal, but, since you are talking about a 3 year old and a 7 year old, they are pretty defenseless and she is taking advantage of that. Put a stop to it.

It's a concerning that a child that age is trying to assert dominance/have power over kids so young. No, it is not normal. Just because a lot of things were ignored in our day it doesn't mean it's normal. Those same parents are now wondering why their adult child has so many interpersonal issues.

This is a poster who was an only child and only has one child.

And never met anyone with siblings.

It isn't normal for an 11 year old to hit a 3 year old, sorry. If you want to excuse it, that's on you.

+1 I thought the age difference was much less from the title. But a 11 yo hitting a 3 yo? something is totally off here she is of age to be a babysitter and instead acting like a baby! PPs are probably right its either sociopathic or neglected and attention seeking.

[Anonymous]

OP tell her you'll call CPS and have her put in a juvenile detention center for violence against infants.

That might stop her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP tell her you'll call CPS and have her put in a juvenile detention center for violence against infants.

That might stop her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your 11 year old is bullying her much younger siblings. If the siblings were on anything resembling equal footing, it might be within the range of normal, but, since you are talking about a 3 year old and a 7 year old, they are pretty defenseless and she is taking advantage of that. Put a stop to it.

It's a concerning that a child that age is trying to assert dominance/have power over kids so young. No, it is not normal. Just because a lot of things were ignored in our day it doesn't mean it's normal. Those same parents are now wondering why their adult child has so many interpersonal issues.

This is a poster who was an only child and only has one child.

And never met anyone with siblings.

It isn't normal for an 11 year old to hit a 3 year old, sorry. If you want to excuse it, that's on you.

+1 I thought the age difference was much less from the title. But a 11 yo hitting a 3 yo? something is totally off here she is of age to be a babysitter and instead acting like a baby! PPs are probably right its either sociopathic or neglected and attention seeking.

The child is not abusing the three-year-old. She’s merely being a pest. Whether it’s attention-seeking, asserting her power as an older child, or just being annoying out of boredom (no kid that age wants to play with little ones all the time) I would by no means call it sociopathic! Most babysitters are far kinder to their charges than they’d be to siblings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your 11 year old is bullying her much younger siblings. If the siblings were on anything resembling equal footing, it might be within the range of normal, but, since you are talking about a 3 year old and a 7 year old, they are pretty defenseless and she is taking advantage of that. Put a stop to it.

It's a concerning that a child that age is trying to assert dominance/have power over kids so young. No, it is not normal. Just because a lot of things were ignored in our day it doesn't mean it's normal. Those same parents are now wondering why their adult child has so many interpersonal issues.

This is a poster who was an only child and only has one child.

And never met anyone with siblings.

It isn't normal for an 11 year old to hit a 3 year old, sorry. If you want to excuse it, that's on you.

+1 I thought the age difference was much less from the title. But a 11 yo hitting a 3 yo? something is totally off here she is of age to be a babysitter and instead acting like a baby! PPs are probably right its either sociopathic or neglected and attention seeking.

The child is not abusing the three-year-old. She’s merely being a pest. Whether it’s attention-seeking, asserting her power as an older child, or just being annoying out of boredom (no kid that age wants to play with little ones all the time) I would by no means call it sociopathic! Most babysitters are far kinder to their charges than they’d be to siblings.

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[Anonymous]

Don't worry about the farting. They will get their revenge when they're her age...