Nanny starting January 3, 2022

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny.

My advice for the parents ...

Be on time as much as possible (let us know when you can't so we can plan)

Be respectful and don't ask things that aren't part of our job (like cleaning up after yourself ie your coffee mug in the morning), we'll probably do these things anyway if you're a nice employer but don't expect it

Let us know when we do something you don't like, don't let it escalate until it really bothers you

What would really annoy me is that somebody can't handle dealing with my coffee mug in my house. It's bad enough when nannies are above taking care of minor household items even though they are at the house all day. What would be even worse is it they were inconvenienced by a dirty coffee mug. To answer the OPs question, you already sound like a nice person - you don't have to stress about this. Just be yourself and it will be fine.

NP here. As a nanny, it’s the principle not the occasional act itself. Plus my employers used to leave half-full coffee mugs where the kids could reach them and I didn’t know they were there until they were spilled.

What’s the principle that you are opposed to? On principle, you are upset because people leave dirty things around? I mean, I get that on some level. It’s your workspace and they should have enough respect to keep it clean. But in reality, it’s their home, not a traditional workplace. I would expect somebody working in my home to not get irritated about regular home type things happening in the home.

You seem very respectful and open so I’m going to give you a nanny’s perspective (especially an experienced nanny). The principle is that nannies are not hired to clean up after adults First, there is the issue of job-creep. Many of us have started with one dirty coffee mug and just washed it. Then there’s the cereal bowl, the egg pan left in the sink that we need access to, and then the nanny has last night’s dirty dinner dishes. I promise you that this happens and happened to me. I couldn’t just leave the dishes because I needed the sink. Nannies have learned through experience to draw a hard line.

Second, it is your home but when you hire someone to work there, it is their workplace. I’m speaking of the common kid-welcome spaces. If you left your clothes or dishes in your bedroom, office or any area where the kids aren’t, I would never see them or care.

This. One nanny would text me pictures of mile high dishes in the sink. She eventually had enough and left that crazy family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made the mistake of getting home at 5:30, and then wanting the nanny to talk to us about the kids before leaving. It took us a few weeks to say "Hey, should we um ... change your end time to 5:45?"

This was much better - we weren't stressed if we ran into traffic and the nanny didn't have to get annoyed that we were keeping them from their own life after work.

Nanny here.
I hate it to spend 15 minutes speaking about my day with the parents, it's way too much.
From time to time it's really ok but on a daily basis? no!

Wow lol it's quite normal to speak to your bosses in most lines of work.
Nannies here are nuts.
So

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made the mistake of getting home at 5:30, and then wanting the nanny to talk to us about the kids before leaving. It took us a few weeks to say "Hey, should we um ... change your end time to 5:45?"

This was much better - we weren't stressed if we ran into traffic and the nanny didn't have to get annoyed that we were keeping them from their own life after work.

Nanny here.
I hate it to spend 15 minutes speaking about my day with the parents, it's way too much.
From time to time it's really ok but on a daily basis? no!

Wow lol it's quite normal to speak to your bosses in most lines of work.
Nannies here are nuts.
So

True? But What do you need to know about the day? I would say five minutes tops covers how the kid’s day went. They peed, pooped, napped and ate snacks and lunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re very excited to have found a wonderful nanny and want to make her feel as comfortable as possible as well as welcomed. What can we do to start on the right foot?

I’ve been reading this forum and the nanny forum obsessively for months!

Thanks!

No job creep ever for anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made the mistake of getting home at 5:30, and then wanting the nanny to talk to us about the kids before leaving. It took us a few weeks to say "Hey, should we um ... change your end time to 5:45?"

This was much better - we weren't stressed if we ran into traffic and the nanny didn't have to get annoyed that we were keeping them from their own life after work.

Nanny here.
I hate it to spend 15 minutes speaking about my day with the parents, it's way too much.
From time to time it's really ok but on a daily basis? no!

Wow lol it's quite normal to speak to your bosses in most lines of work.
Nannies here are nuts.
So

You get home while she is still on the clock. I leave my office at my quitting time and nannies should also be able to leave at their quitting time, not giving you 25 minutes of free time. Also, OP, ALWAYS be on time. No excuse for being late..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made the mistake of getting home at 5:30, and then wanting the nanny to talk to us about the kids before leaving. It took us a few weeks to say "Hey, should we um ... change your end time to 5:45?"

This was much better - we weren't stressed if we ran into traffic and the nanny didn't have to get annoyed that we were keeping them from their own life after work.

Nanny here.
I hate it to spend 15 minutes speaking about my day with the parents, it's way too much.
From time to time it's really ok but on a daily basis? no!

Wow lol it's quite normal to speak to your bosses in most lines of work.
Nannies here are nuts.
So

Are you a nanny? There’s always so much more to fill in. Plus give the child a chance to transition. I give my charges a good 15 minutes while we leisurely fill parents in.
True? But What do you need to know about the day? I would say five minutes tops covers how the kid’s day went. They peed, pooped, napped and ate snacks and lunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made the mistake of getting home at 5:30, and then wanting the nanny to talk to us about the kids before leaving. It took us a few weeks to say "Hey, should we um ... change your end time to 5:45?"

This was much better - we weren't stressed if we ran into traffic and the nanny didn't have to get annoyed that we were keeping them from their own life after work.

Nanny here.
I hate it to spend 15 minutes speaking about my day with the parents, it's way too much.
From time to time it's really ok but on a daily basis? no!

Wow lol it's quite normal to speak to your bosses in most lines of work.
Nannies here are nuts.
So

Just one nanny. I’m a nanny and like a leisurely transition. It’s better for my charges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We made the mistake of getting home at 5:30, and then wanting the nanny to talk to us about the kids before leaving. It took us a few weeks to say "Hey, should we um ... change your end time to 5:45?"

This was much better - we weren't stressed if we ran into traffic and the nanny didn't have to get annoyed that we were keeping them from their own life after work.

Nanny here.
I hate it to spend 15 minutes speaking about my day with the parents, it's way too much.
From time to time it's really ok but on a daily basis? no!

Wow lol it's quite normal to speak to your bosses in most lines of work.
Nannies here are nuts.
So

Just one nanny. I’m a nanny and like a leisurely transition. It’s better for my charges.

+1. And I don’t think that poster is even a nanny. Just a troll.

[Anonymous]

I cannot stress this enough: DO NOT BE LATE

Even if your nanny acts like it’s okay. She is still registering that your life is more important than hers and you have no respect for her. This will eventually come back to bite you in the butt! Her resentment will build.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot stress this enough: DO NOT BE LATE

Even if your nanny acts like it’s okay. She is still registering that your life is more important than hers and you have no respect for her. This will eventually come back to bite you in the butt! Her resentment will build.

Truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny.

My advice for the parents ...

Be on time as much as possible (let us know when you can't so we can plan)

Be respectful and don't ask things that aren't part of our job (like cleaning up after yourself ie your coffee mug in the morning), we'll probably do these things anyway if you're a nice employer but don't expect it

Let us know when we do something you don't like, don't let it escalate until it really bothers you

What would really annoy me is that somebody can't handle dealing with my coffee mug in my house. It's bad enough when nannies are above taking care of minor household items even though they are at the house all day. What would be even worse is it they were inconvenienced by a dirty coffee mug. To answer the OPs question, you already sound like a nice person - you don't have to stress about this. Just be yourself and it will be fine.

This, it is their home, not a museum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny.

My advice for the parents ...

Be on time as much as possible (let us know when you can't so we can plan)

Be respectful and don't ask things that aren't part of our job (like cleaning up after yourself ie your coffee mug in the morning), we'll probably do these things anyway if you're a nice employer but don't expect it

Let us know when we do something you don't like, don't let it escalate until it really bothers you

What would really annoy me is that somebody can't handle dealing with my coffee mug in my house. It's bad enough when nannies are above taking care of minor household items even though they are at the house all day. What would be even worse is it they were inconvenienced by a dirty coffee mug. To answer the OPs question, you already sound like a nice person - you don't have to stress about this. Just be yourself and it will be fine.

This, it is their home, not a museum.

No, it’s a work place (the area where the nanny and children are). Send your kids to daycare if you can’t understand that.

[Anonymous]

Good luck, OP! We’re celebrating our third anniversary with our beloved nanny on Thursday and truly don’t remember life without her. I wish you the same!

[Anonymous]

Former nanny

I didn't mind if parents were late sometimes; traffic and job things happen. However, please try to text to give me a heads up. Sometimes we'd leave the playground early to make sure we were home by 5...and then the parents would text at 5 that they would be late. We could have played more outside! (and obviously pay for that time).

Give me freedom to plan the day (within reason). I once had a mom write me a "to do list" that included playing outside with a ball. I'd been a nanny for nearly ten years. I do not need suggestions like that. This was not a situation where her kids needed more outside time - she saw us outside often.

Try not to leave lots of dishes in the sink. I don't mind a dish here and there, but that isn't the main part of my job. Is the dishwasher dirty? Put your mug in there instead.

If you're working from home, discuss with the nanny what works and doesn't work. If you regularly come into the room when your little one is with the nanny, it will disrupt the day for them. This can be an ongoing conversation.