6th love language?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are the first five?

1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Receiving gifts
4. Acts of service
5. Physical touch

Though I personally don't buy into this approach because I have encountered too many people who have personality issues (maybe disorders, I'm not a psychiatrist) but will claim "Oh, it's just that my love language is receiving gifts!" But actually they are just very selfish. Or they'll claim their love language is "acts of service" only their acts of service are always inappropriate and unwanted, and they just have boundary and control issues. Etc.

So cheese sounds like a decent 6th category.

Alone time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say looking good for your partner

Haha. I was going to say accepting your partner for who they are. What does looking good entail?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doing your fair share around the house

NP, but this is acts of service.

[Anonymous]

Physical touch is a nice way of saying sex? I understand men have sex as their love language

[Anonymous]

6th: All of the Above. Would describe my mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Physical touch is a nice way of saying sex? I understand men have sex as their love language

Not necessarily for either. It’s can be about wanting to hold hands in public and hugging when seeing your partner and cuddling while watching a movie.

[Anonymous]

BJs and alone time. In that order.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheese. And taking the kids outside so I can be alone with my cheese.

For me it's when DH plays guitar and we harmonize. I guess that would fall under Quality Time.

Love that you combined cheese and alone time, well done!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, RECEIVING gifts is part of your love language? Shouldn’t it be GIVING gifts?

It’s about what makes you feel loved.

It's both. My mom's love language is gifts. She loves receiving them (no matter how small) and loves giving them. Because that's what she thinks of when she thinks of sharing her love.

[Anonymous]

Food. Definitely food. Please feed me, whether it's a home cooked meal or take me out to dinner

[Anonymous]

Please no gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are the first five?

1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Receiving gifts
4. Acts of service
5. Physical touch

Though I personally don't buy into this approach because I have encountered too many people who have personality issues (maybe disorders, I'm not a psychiatrist) but will claim "Oh, it's just that my love language is receiving gifts!" But actually they are just very selfish. Or they'll claim their love language is "acts of service" only their acts of service are always inappropriate and unwanted, and they just have boundary and control issues. Etc.

So cheese sounds like a decent 6th category.

Alone time

That's self-love, not something you can share with another person.

[Anonymous]

Being a grown ass adult and understanding you won’t always get what you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are the first five?

1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Receiving gifts
4. Acts of service
5. Physical touch

Though I personally don't buy into this approach because I have encountered too many people who have personality issues (maybe disorders, I'm not a psychiatrist) but will claim "Oh, it's just that my love language is receiving gifts!" But actually they are just very selfish. Or they'll claim their love language is "acts of service" only their acts of service are always inappropriate and unwanted, and they just have boundary and control issues. Etc.

So cheese sounds like a decent 6th category.

Alone time

That's self-love, not something you can share with another person.

In a relationship, especially a marriage, alone time is absolutely something you can give or facilitate, though. My DH understands I am an introvert and that sometimes I just need to be left alone, or the kindest thing he can do for me is give me space. I guess it kind of falls into acts of service. But people who say their love language is offering acts of service often don’t understand this dynamic. They want to DO something. If you are someone who values solitude, sometimes the best thing they can do is: nothing.

[Anonymous]

Fidelity