Morning People Married to Non Morning People

[Anonymous]

I'm the non-morning person. We both wake up an hour earlier than our toddler and my husband makes me coffee. The quiet time pre-kid gives me motivation to actually get up. I can be pretty grumpy on weekend mornings so that is often when we do separate workout activities (I run, he golfs, etc.)

[Anonymous]

My night owl H sleeps about an hour later than I do. He's not grumpy in the morning but pretty useless for a while.

Mostly it works great for splitting up chores. We are well out of the little kid stages but he would cover wakeups 10 - 2 am and I would do 2 am onward. He cleans the kitchen after I've gone to bed and I unload the DW, and make coffee, breakfast and lunches long before he's awake.

We make decisions and plans while everyone is feeling awake. Everyone in my family knows not to ask Mom for help with something complicated after 9 pm. If they do, I will threaten to wake them at 6 am to do it. My H knows that we need to start any TV shows by 9 pm and I will likely fall asleep on the couch before 10 pm. LOL.

Working these things out so everyone is operating at their best times is part of a happy marriage, IMHO.