Confirmation gift for teen girl?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is a gif t necessary for this event?

I was thinking the same thing. It’s an archaic churchy thing. It’s not like it’s an academic accomplishment or a job promotion.

I’ll preface this by saying I’m not Catholic, but we don’t traditionally give gifts for our church’s confirmations.

[Anonymous]

Card and $.

I have boys and all nephews. That's what we do, but really it was just immediate family--aunts, uncles, grandparents.

Friends did not even know about the confirmation.

[Anonymous]

I'm catholic and my best friend is jewish. We've been friends since we were 5 and have celebrated many life events. She plans to give my daughter some nice, gold hoop earrings. My daughter will appreciate them and hopefully will think about my friend when she wears them. I think it's lovely that you want to acknowledge the sacrament for your friend's daughter.

[Anonymous]

My children received a generous gift cards from our close family friend . . . who is a priest. If it’s okay for him to not give a religious gifts for a sacrament, then it’s okay for you too!

[Anonymous]

My Irish family gives traditional gifts St Brigid’s cross and a Claddagh ring for girls. The uncles give the boys gifts that represent something- my brother gave my son fishing pole - as a way to lean patience, simple joy of doing nothing, etc- my other brother got him golf clubs - to deal with frustration and camaraderie. Other gifts are Swiss Army knife, watch, etc. So
Normal gifts but with a nice letter.

Of course, a card and $ are not unusual.

[Anonymous]

I gave my godson a card and an ungodly amount of cash.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely! Significant sign of faith!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Catholic mom here

First of all, it's not a B'nai Mitzvah. It's an important, meaningful, sacrament. But unless you're a close family member you don't need to send a gift. Maybe if it's a close friend, something very small would be nice.

In our family, the tradition is to give gifts that kind of align with the idea that you're turning into a young man or woman who will carry out our family values. We have a big close family, so my kid got a bunch of gifts. A few were religious. Grandparents gave a Bible that didn't have pictures like his old one. Little kid cousins gave a keychain that looked like his Confirmation Saint (only a thing if you're Catholic). We gave him some sheet music for some religious music he likes.

Other relatives gave gifts that aligned with that idea of becoming an adult, and contributing. His godmother gave him the outfit he wore to confirmation. His godfather paid for him to enter into a race that would raise money for a charity that he cared about. One family member gave him a T-shirt that had a saying that wasn't religious but aligned with our values. Another family member gave him a book with a note that the hero reminded them of him and why.

But also a gift card with a $10 Starbucks card is really fine. Or nothing.

This. Finding out and acknowledging the chosen patron saint is definitely an insider move!

Or nothing. If you're attending (esp making the effort from elsewhere), your presence is the present.

~not Catholic but married to one, with youngest DC in the process at the moment

[Anonymous]

Did she take a saint name? Etsy has some very beautiful saint icons/statues. I got a miniature st. Anne shrine for my goddaughter