Have you ever ghosted someone you were supposed to go on a date with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kind of, I developed an interest in a coworker over some months. I eventually asked her out, but it was just before Christmas and she was headed out of town. She she wanted to and to ping her again in a couple weeks.

It was just after that that I met my future wife and we started dating immediately. I never contacted the first woman again but still see her occasionally. I wonder what she thinks. I think she genuinely wanted to go out, but she also never contacted me and certainly could have. She probably just thinks I lost my nerve.

She probably doesn't think about you at all. If she does it's to thank her lucky stars.

[Anonymous]

I ghosted someone I was dating, back in 1997. He had a pager and I had an answering machine. We didn't have email or cell phones at this point.

He left shouty messages on my answer machine, which is why I ghosted him in the first place - I couldn't face him shouting at me as I broke up with him so I just paged him "I'm sorry it hasn't worked out" and then went silent.

[Anonymous]

Ghosted, no.
Made up lame excuse to get out of it, yes.

[Anonymous]

Once as a teenager. Had met a guy the night before and we planned to meet the next day. But I couldn’t get a ride, and had no idea how to reach him. (Pre cell phones.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kind of, I developed an interest in a coworker over some months. I eventually asked her out, but it was just before Christmas and she was headed out of town. She she wanted to and to ping her again in a couple weeks.

It was just after that that I met my future wife and we started dating immediately. I never contacted the first woman again but still see her occasionally. I wonder what she thinks. I think she genuinely wanted to go out, but she also never contacted me and certainly could have. She probably just thinks I lost my nerve.

She probably doesn't think about you at all. If she does it's to thank her lucky stars.

NP. What the heck? Why the gratuitously unkind comment? PP said nothing to provoke it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kind of, I developed an interest in a coworker over some months. I eventually asked her out, but it was just before Christmas and she was headed out of town. She she wanted to and to ping her again in a couple weeks.

It was just after that that I met my future wife and we started dating immediately. I never contacted the first woman again but still see her occasionally. I wonder what she thinks. I think she genuinely wanted to go out, but she also never contacted me and certainly could have. She probably just thinks I lost my nerve.

She probably doesn't think about you at all. If she does it's to thank her lucky stars.

NP. What the heck? Why the gratuitously unkind comment? PP said nothing to provoke it.

Only the self importance of thinking his coworker thinks about him, he also sounds like a flake.

[Anonymous]

Never. And I had many opportunities to do so while online dating. I always felt that I wanted to be fair, so I would send a text as soon as they proposed a second date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kind of, I developed an interest in a coworker over some months. I eventually asked her out, but it was just before Christmas and she was headed out of town. She she wanted to and to ping her again in a couple weeks.

It was just after that that I met my future wife and we started dating immediately. I never contacted the first woman again but still see her occasionally. I wonder what she thinks. I think she genuinely wanted to go out, but she also never contacted me and certainly could have. She probably just thinks I lost my nerve.

She probably doesn't think about you at all. If she does it's to thank her lucky stars.

NP. What the heck? Why the gratuitously unkind comment? PP said nothing to provoke it.

There are a lot of bitter people here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If so, what was the reason?

No.

I know someone who missed a date because he was locked up for a DUI. Another person had an accident and was in a coma. Both contacted the date when able and ended up together.

What sane, emotionally sound woman would marry someone who was locked up for a DUI during what was supposed to be your first date? That’s just kind of sad.

I’ve regretfully ghosted on communication with early stage dates over the years, but I would never ghost on an arranged and confirmed date.

It wasn’t a first date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kind of, I developed an interest in a coworker over some months. I eventually asked her out, but it was just before Christmas and she was headed out of town. She she wanted to and to ping her again in a couple weeks.

It was just after that that I met my future wife and we started dating immediately. I never contacted the first woman again but still see her occasionally. I wonder what she thinks. I think she genuinely wanted to go out, but she also never contacted me and certainly could have. She probably just thinks I lost my nerve.

She probably doesn't think about you at all. If she does it's to thank her lucky stars.

NP. What the heck? Why the gratuitously unkind comment? PP said nothing to provoke it.

Only the self importance of thinking his coworker thinks about him, he also sounds like a flake.

go pound sand