Overwhelmed with bed/guest room situation - please give me suggestions!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here: lord, I forgot how DCUM is. Thanks for those who gave practical solutions (and even the one who posted about this being a "luxury problem," such a good point.). For those who made wrong assumptions based on a design help post, it's interesting you don't have anything better to do than make people feel bad online behind a veil of anonymity. Of course I didn't give a whole lot of detail about my life situation - I'm just looking for practical suggestions and a comfortable sleep sofa! Of course I'm going to get my kid a comfortable bed, or move the comfortable bed into her room if she prefers that.

Look, I'm sorry I made you feel bad but your kid is sleeping in the guest room instead of her room. You want advise? Well here it is: Move the guest room bed to her room and move her bed to the guest room. Call bulk trash pick up and have them haul away the old bed in the next week or two. She should be able to sleep in her own room. Then over the next few weeks or months you can figure out what you want to do with the current guest room. I would not want my kid to feel like she has to sleep in the guest room.

Thanks. That's good advice. Although my kid loves sleeping in the guest room. It's just too close to my other kid (also neurodiverse) who doesn't like it for a few reasons - plus our dog and cat like sleeping in the guest room so they whine and scratch at the door at 1am. hahahahahahaha. We need to get our kid back into her room on a comfortable bed for everyone's sanity. So this is a good interim solution while we figure it out. But you should think about the fact that you're making parental judgments based on little information, and why you feel the need to do that. You don't know the whole of someone's life situation from a DCUM post, and I don't want to bore everyone with the details of mine. Have some empathy.

[Anonymous]

Tell your mom she has to stay in a hotel for her infrequent visits because it cheaper than buying a new bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: lord, I forgot how DCUM is. Thanks for those who gave practical solutions (and even the one who posted about this being a "luxury problem," such a good point.). For those who made wrong assumptions based on a design help post, it's interesting you don't have anything better to do than make people feel bad online behind a veil of anonymity. Of course I didn't give a whole lot of detail about my life situation - I'm just looking for practical suggestions and a comfortable sleep sofa! Of course I'm going to get my kid a comfortable bed, or move the comfortable bed into her room if she prefers that.

Op, that responder is an overbearing, graceless person. Try to ignore. It can be hard, I know. On a lighter note... I second giving the bed to your daughter and having her sleep on a good blowup mattress when your mom visits. That's what we do. Also, there are a lot of nice bedframes on sale right now at wayfair and hayneedle if you decide to buy a new frame. Best wishes.

[Anonymous]

We have a pop up air bed with a metal frame for guests. I add a memory foam topper. It's not luxurious, but it definitely beats a sleeper sofa and it folds away and lives in the closet. It makes the room much more functional for us.

I don't get having a whole room taken up by a guest bed that's rarely used. I'd rather use the room myself the other 99% of the time and pay for a hotel room.

[Anonymous]

OMG, give your kid the bed she enjoys sleeping in and buy a new (smaller) bed for the guest room to make the room multi-purpose. If you want a good mattress for mom, then get a Murphy bed that you can pull down but is otherwise out of the way.

[Anonymous]

Get a wall/Murphy bed for the guestroom. You can use pretty much any mattress you want on them. They are not cheap, and ours was a full day job to put together for my very handy husband (and heavy to lift for me and him). I'd get one from a place that installs them too, if you're not handy and fit. We love having the floor space back when guests are not in town (aka 95% of the year).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a guest room that is rarely used by guests. My mother comes once or twice a year and has a bad back. We have a comfortable queen sized bed in there for her.

Our teenager's bed has reached it's last legs. It's an old bed and the mattress is sagging.

I don't want to spend $1K or more on a new bed for teenager's room, but she needs something comfortable because every night she's been sleeping in the guest room. She loves that bed.

Question is - I'm thinking of moving the guest room bed into the teen's room and making the guest room more functional (for Zoom calls, meditation, TV, etc.). I'm afraid if I get a sleep sofa though, my mother won't be able to sleep on it. Is there such a thing as a very comfortable sleep sofa or should I scrap the plan and just get my daughter a new bed?

Buy Ikea Morgedal mattress - MEDIUM firm. Maybe $250. We love it

https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/morgedal-foam-mattress-medium-firm-dark-gray-00272208/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a wall/Murphy bed for the guestroom. You can use pretty much any mattress you want on them. They are not cheap, and ours was a full day job to put together for my very handy husband (and heavy to lift for me and him). I'd get one from a place that installs them too, if you're not handy and fit. We love having the floor space back when guests are not in town (aka 95% of the year).

Yes, this is a great solution. Our friend did it at his house and loves the extra space.

We have a day bed with a pop-up trundle which is good unless you are like me and use the bed for storage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a guest room that is rarely used by guests. My mother comes once or twice a year and has a bad back. We have a comfortable queen sized bed in there for her.

Our teenager's bed has reached it's last legs. It's an old bed and the mattress is sagging.

I don't want to spend $1K or more on a new bed for teenager's room, but she needs something comfortable because every night she's been sleeping in the guest room. She loves that bed.

Question is - I'm thinking of moving the guest room bed into the teen's room and making the guest room more functional (for Zoom calls, meditation, TV, etc.). I'm afraid if I get a sleep sofa though, my mother won't be able to sleep on it. Is there such a thing as a very comfortable sleep sofa or should I scrap the plan and just get my daughter a new bed?

Buy Ikea Morgedal mattress - MEDIUM firm. Maybe $250. We love it

https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/morgedal-foam-mattress-medium-firm-dark-gray-00272208/

Another Ikea mattress recommendation. If your mom has a bad back and needs a supportive mattress it's a good affordable choice. You can buy a zinus pop-up metal bedframe on Amazon. For a bit more money you could consider this:

https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/hemnes-daybed-with-3-drawers-2-mattresses-white-meistervik-firm-s59186119/

You can pull out the trundle and use the two twin mattresses plus a topper to turn it into a very comfortable king.

We had the ikea mattress + zinus as our young daughter's bed and the ikea daybed with 2 mattresses in our son's room in our old house, both served as guest beds when we had visitors and I've slept on them both myself.

[Anonymous]

Pull out couches are uncomfortable couches and uncomfortable beds. I’d just get an air mattress and have a kid sleep on that when your mom visits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a pop up air bed with a metal frame for guests. I add a memory foam topper. It's not luxurious, but it definitely beats a sleeper sofa and it folds away and lives in the closet. It makes the room much more functional for us.

I don't get having a whole room taken up by a guest bed that's rarely used. I'd rather use the room myself the other 99% of the time and pay for a hotel room.

THIS. I don’t think there is such thing as a comfortable sleeper sofa. Maybe a very expensive one.

[Anonymous]

Why can’t grandma stay in the teens room on the rare visits.

[Anonymous]

Buy a daybed. Set it up like a couch.

[Anonymous]

Can you do a daybed with real mattress for mom in the guest room? I really hate sleeper sofas and I'm only 41.

[Anonymous]

Offer daughter that bed or a new bed and you can buy her the same mattress. Get a murphy bed for that room so its a real bed when someone visits but you can use it for other things.