Bullying and fighting

[Anonymous]

No, sometimes kids do just hit other kids who did nothing to provoke them. I have seen it happen. Yes, the aggressor probably needs help. But the victim is … the victim and should be supported. Too much attention to the aggressor and how they need to be helped while the victim continues to suffer.

[Anonymous]

We had to read the DCPS bullying policy this past week - not something you want to do the second week of school. So I feel for you, OP. Here's what we learned:

There's a difference in how the matter is treated if it's a "conflict" or "bullying" A conflict is between two people and both kids receive consequences. Bullying has a victim. So by punishing your kid, it's now a conflict and the school doesn't have to do what it's supposed to do according to its bullying policy.

More information and how to file an incident report: https://dcps.dc.gov/node/910682

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, sometimes kids do just hit other kids who did nothing to provoke them. I have seen it happen. Yes, the aggressor probably needs help. But the victim is … the victim and should be supported. Too much attention to the aggressor and how they need to be helped while the victim continues to suffer.

This isn’t true, there’s always a reason. Behavior always has an antecedent unless the person has a condition.

Also there is no proof this child is just the victim, in these cases there is usually a witness. Obviously the teachers did not side with her child. Hopefully the video does bring answers and everyone involved can understand even if someone says something horrible to you or you just don’t like them it’s not okay to hit them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, sometimes kids do just hit other kids who did nothing to provoke them. I have seen it happen. Yes, the aggressor probably needs help. But the victim is … the victim and should be supported. Too much attention to the aggressor and how they need to be helped while the victim continues to suffer.

This isn’t true, there’s always a reason. Behavior always has an antecedent unless the person has a condition.

Also there is no proof this child is just the victim, in these cases there is usually a witness. Obviously the teachers did not side with her child. Hopefully the video does bring answers and everyone involved can understand even if someone says something horrible to you or you just don’t like them it’s not okay to hit them.

Of course it has a reason. But the reason may have nothing to do with the victim. Why are you siding with the kid who punched? No wonder the parent wants the video. It seems no one can believe the victim unless someone is there recording it with a cellphone or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, sometimes kids do just hit other kids who did nothing to provoke them. I have seen it happen. Yes, the aggressor probably needs help. But the victim is … the victim and should be supported. Too much attention to the aggressor and how they need to be helped while the victim continues to suffer.

This isn’t true, there’s always a reason. Behavior always has an antecedent unless the person has a condition.

Also there is no proof this child is just the victim, in these cases there is usually a witness. Obviously the teachers did not side with her child. Hopefully the video does bring answers and everyone involved can understand even if someone says something horrible to you or you just don’t like them it’s not okay to hit them.

Of course it has a reason. But the reason may have nothing to do with the victim. Why are you siding with the kid who punched? No wonder the parent wants the video. It seems no one can believe the victim unless someone is there recording it with a cellphone or something.

Punching is never OK, so there's that. But in understanding the history of context of what happened, an impartial adult / adults need to look into it. They can then address what to put in place going forward. Especially as every incident isn't bullying, though this well may be. They need to establish what transpired (to the best of their ability), and whether it's part of a pattern of behavior that may even include other kids .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience as a parent, the aggression could have been the result of some sort of competition between the two other boys.

I agree that if the two boys started punching randomly, then they need help. But I’ve definitely seen a pattern of where children who are aggressive, for whatever reason, are not given the help they may need. DCPS deals with such situations by blaming both aggressor and the target. That doesn’t help anyone.

The main thing I wish Is known then is that violence/aggression would only get worse in middle school, and that it was having a terrible impact on my student’s mental health. [/quoyte]
Sorry you have to deal with bulling .Please share your history
And stop this bulling now

[Anonymous]

Lets not rush to judging the victim.

Lawyer up and get the video.