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What do you think is ideal sibling spacing?
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Anonymous
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How far apart are your kids? Would you have liked a different age spacing?
What do you think is ideal sibling spacing? DC's will be 2 yrs apart. Starting to think we should have waited a bit longer. |
Anonymous
| Mine are 3 years apart, and I view it as pretty ideal. I think 2 years apart can be pretty hard the first few years (especially if you don't have access to sitters, nanny, grandma, etc), but afterwards it's great. |
Anonymous
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4-7 yrs apart
better for your finances, your marriage and your sanity |
Anonymous
| I love the 3 year spacing. My brother and I are roughly 3 years apart (just under) and my kids are the same. It's close enough that they can play together, but far enough apart that parents don't go insane. |
Anonymous
| My siblings and I are 4 in 5 years and I loved it. Any further and I feel like I wouldn't have really known my siblings as they would have been doing too different of things. That being said...you make any spacing work. |
Anonymous
about 1 minute. 
I am loving having twins at 5y. Built in playmate! 
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Anonymous
| ours are 3 years apart as well and I've loved it. Close enough to be great friends but enough space to make the early years much easier. |
Anonymous
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I think 3 years would be ideal. But you can make any spacing work.
That said - with a 2 years age difference the first year or so will be tough. But after that, it can be great because they're close in age and will begin to play with each other. |
Anonymous
we're looking at at least 5.5-6 if I get pregnant in the next couple months. I would have preferred maybe 4, but finances and other outside factors made this a non-workable thing. On the plus side, we had our first at 28, so we have that working for us. |
Anonymous
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For me: 2.5 years is the perfect spacing. My kids are very close and have same interests yet I felt like I had enough of a 'break' in between the birth of the first child.
My kids have 1 grade between them in school. My 3 siblings and I all had 1 grade in between us and it was so nice having other sibings in school at the same time (they really have your back--even if you aren't getting along at home). I also had the recommended 'at least 18 months' between pregnancies as it this is medically recommended. Also--I wasn't too far out of 'baby mode' to have a shock to the system and feeling like it was a complete start over. I orig. was aiming for 3yrs- but now I think that would have been too long. It takes awhile for that baby to grow up and be able to really play with the other sibling ---now I think 3 yrs would have been a little on the outer end.
Truthfully---the "ideal" spacing will be different for every family. There is no 'perfect' arrangement. |
Anonymous
| Mine are 21 months apart. If I could do it over again, I would have waited a little bit longer to try for 2.5 to 3 years apart. |
Anonymous
| i heard from a psychologist who specializes in kids and families that three years is the "ideal" spacing. Not everyone has that kinda time, but if you do I'd go for that. |
Anonymous
We're finding the just under two years hard now, at the baby and toddler stage. But we're about to do it again so I guess it hasn't been that hard. Or we're crazy. Our spacing has been driven by my age and the plan for three. |
Anonymous
| 4.5 years for us. I know we've been aided by the temperament of our kids, but it's really been a breeze. |
Anonymous
| I'm starting to reap the benefits of 2 years between my two DDs. They are 7 and 5. They can practically raise each other at this point. |